How to raise girlfriend's libido?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and the sex has started to wayne off in the past couple of months. When we first started dating we couldn't keep our hands off of each other and would have marathon sex, sex in random places, always trying new positions, just great sex in general. I know it's normal for sex to take a hit after you've been together for a while, but now half the time we do it it feels like it's a chore for her. She's been getting very selfish about it too. It's always the same thing which I'm bored of. We basically start out with foreplay until she's super turned on and then I give her head every time bc I love giving head and I'm really good at it. We then go in cowgirl and then doggy so I can finish. It's so freaking routine and getting so booooring. We had great sex a couple of days ago after months of mediocre sex and I miss that fire so much. I've tried changing it up, but it never works. I basically have to beg to get a blowjob now and it's my favourite thing. I clean myself beforehand so it's not like it's dirty. She told me she loves giving head when we first started dating but now she says she hates it because she gets lock jaw. It's not like giving her head and fingering at the same time is easy or not tiring, but I still do it because I know how much she loves it. Any tips to get her old fire back? I've started working out again too so I can look even sexier for her. Also, there is no way in hell I'm breaking up with her for this bc it's not even close enough to being that bad (I know I have an unusually high libido) and I love her like crazy.

[Anonymous]

Yeah that happened in my relationship. then it went to weekly. Then a few times a month. Then monthly. Then not at all. Tried everything people suggest - more romance more intimacy get in shape mix it up talk about it don't talk... Nothing helped. I've read about 40% of women lose all sex drive in a long term relationship.

[Asker]

Fuck I hope that doesn't happen. I would break up with her if it gets to no sex for weeks. It also sucks because she either lied about her libido in the beginning of the relationship or she's just losing interest. I can't magically make myself look like Brad Pit and it's not like I'm unattractive or anything. This all started when she changed jobs and her dumbass of a coworker saw a picture of us and told her I'm punching above my weight (which is bs since I know I'm better looking, but that doesn't matter) and ever since then I have a feeling she thinks she can do better and that's so upsetting since I'm a damn good boyfriend and I still get girls hitting on me that are more attractive than her. Even her friends are insanely jealous of her for having me and it's like she has forgotten how good she has it and the complete loser guys she's been with in the past.

[AustinMan]

Talk to her. Role playing some of your joint favorite dark, nasty, kinky fantasies has been know to do the trick.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex

[Anonymous]

Get a sidekick. Hear me out, ask your girl if she's ok with you havin a clean side kick.. She might just shock the shit out of you and say it's cool 😱💥😎

[Asker]

Yea definitely no, I know her well enough that I know that would never be acceptable and plus it doesn't interest me. I hardly have enough time for a girlfriend let alone a side chick. She would literally dump my ass even if I mentioned that.

[Rocket_Queen]

Have you asked about any new ideas she wants to try or mentioned any you would like to try? Routine does get boring.

[Asker]

I have told her about things I want to try it's 50/50, she'll say yes but then we'll stop after a minute bc she doesn't like it. When I ask her what she wants to do she just says cowgirl since it's the only way she can get off (other than me giving her head). She's pretty hard to get off and I really think she's being honest. I'm the only guy that has ever gotten her off more than once in a single session and I'm also the only guy who has ever gotten her off from giving her head, at least that's what she tells me but honestly who knows. I'm seeing her tonight and I'll see if we can spice it up (I'm bringing her flowers, wine, cheese, chocolates, and a card to set the mood), plus she's on her period so I know she'll be really horny.

[NJ_Casanova]

Alcohol.. is the only Thing I know that works.

[singlebee]

I thing it is that she has lost interest in you... its not about libido..
Tell her that she needs to change that or else you are gonna get bored with her...

[Iamgodish]

Be attractive

[Anonymous]

As long as she puts out whenever I want, who cares about her libido?

[Asker]

there's a big difference between passionate sex and sex for the sake of getting off. She does have sex wih me most of the time I want some.