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How can I get him to chase me again after sex?

I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks now and we both have strong attractions to each other and have great conversation, always have fun when we are together. Just recently we finally had sex and it was good and everything seem normal afterwards. Now before we had sex, he would text or call a lot and would text a lot on his breaks/lunch break at work and would say these flattering thing about wanting a relationship and blah. After we had sex, his texting and calling were cut down by half and all those flattering things kind of stop. He still text and call me when he wakes up/free and on his breaks but it doesn't feel the same. I can feel myself becoming one of those annoying girls who keeps ask him about his behavior and i don't want him to stop talking to me. I know some guys are always like that but is there any advice, tips or whatever to get his full attention again
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  • You said you had sex with him just two days ago. I think you've managed to subconsciously convince yourself what a lot of people will tell you, that a man loses interest once sex becomes a regular thing, and since he isn't as vocal as before, you're equating this behavioral change to the theory.

    You need to not worry yourself so much over it because this is when you do become one of "those annoying girls." If he still wants a relationship with you, then that will happen. If not, then you will have known that he was just playing you after all and it just wasn't meant to happen. But it has only been two days and that's still too early to tell. He's still texting and calling you so that's good at least, it just doesn't feel the same because you're giving yourself something to question now that you allowed him sex with you.

    • That's what my girlfriend's said, even the married ones. Lol

  • this is the case of happy girl screwed and now trying to distance... may he wanted that one time thing only and nothing more or maybe it was great for you but not him and he thinks it's time to avoid it before you two get more serious!
    why don't you ask him the exact same question?

    • I have asked him one time the day after we had sex and he said he still wants a relationship. And besides Its still early to have that talk (3 weeks).

    • yea happy girl do you like him? you see future

    • I do like him a lot as of now

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  • Stop having sex with him. Stop asking him questions. Stop calling nd texting him. Don't let him think you don't have other options. Play it off like you don't care, keep yourself busy. And if he care he will start to chase you again this time make him work a little more harder to get the goods. And if not your young and beautiful you can find someone else who wants more than sex.

    • That only works if he has low standards

    • @cchris987 oh ok. Well give the girl some advice

    • There is really nothing she can't do it all depends on what type of guy he is

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  • your overreacting. stop questioning his behavior. just act like you don't care. see if he's behavior doesn't change. guys do things to get us in the bed. once we're in the bed with them they feel like they don't need to keep trying as hard.

    • The funny thing is when i didn't respond back to him yesterday, he kept blowing up my phone but today he's back to texting a little bit

    • yup see because you weren't blowing up his phone. so you drove him crazy because he didn't know what you were up to... since you responded back now he's like okay I know where she is.

    • I'm just going to take your advice and pretend like i don't care lol obviously he doesn't like it when don't respond back in time. So I'm going text him exactly how he text me and hopefully he'll start texting like he use to

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  • If he actually was interested in you as a person and getting to know you, then he would still be messaging you and making the same effort. It's clear all he wanted was sex, got it and now is done. Sorry.. :(

    • He is still texting me and calling

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  • HE GOT WHAT HE QUESTED OVER. You will never have his attention like before the sex, unless of course he is head over heels with you and he pursues you for more! His interest was in having sex with you!

  • I'd dress sexy around him and flirt your ass off. Don't complain but don't have sex with him either. When he asks why, tell him but do so in a calm, direct, matter of fact way, sort of like a business meeting.

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex

  • Stop having sex with him, and see how he responds! It sounds like maybe that's what kept him so interested...

    • Lol yeah... we only had sex once and that was two days ago. Lol i know i sound crazy right now

    • Try it, good luck!

  • There are two kinds of women to date: Those to have sex with and those to marry.

    You are not the marrying type for him. So, the first thing is to understand that you need to see him as a sex partner, not a LTR partner, because that is how he sees you. If you want something more than that, then you might as well dump him now.

    The chase can be quite the game (especially for avowed virgins). It is a power trip that a guy can see a woman and decide to have sex with a woman, and then she does so willingly.

    He played you. Choose: Have sex for the sake of it or find someone else.

  • He got what he wanted and you got played...

    • Maybe, not enough time has passed to know for sure.

    • @DancingGirl True, but the signs are bad.

    • Not really. If he disappeared then sure but he's still around

  • You're basically asking him to keep climbing after the mountain peak is reached. The truth is some guys don't like chasing someone we want to fuck, it's just a necessary evil and hoop to jump through to get it. Once the goalpost is reached (usually sex) we slow down and catch our breath. At least he's still talking to you, just not as much. Some won't even remember your name a month after. This is why some girls wait months before having sex, but that just postpones the same thing. If you are in a relationship I'd suggest stop giving it to him so easily, maybe he'll chase you again when he's horny enough (if he doesn't chase someone else that is less of a marathon runner).

  • Are you a couple? Do you refer to each other as bf/gf?

    • I never refer him as boyfriend and vice versa. Just nicknames

    • You two should talk if your together or not.

  • I need to find someone like you. Or be that guy. I can be this guy. Or I'll find him.

    Admirable, passionate, and direct are all very attractive qualities I look for in w woman because you're a strong woman and the top percentile like Donald Trump would a day a 10 because he used to own Miss Universe beauty pageant. And when your a cool person like you then beauty is internal and that lasts forever.

    • Aww thanks

  • My brother is like that with girls. how long did it take for you two to end up having sex?
    I think he valued your body and a sexual encounter with you, more than your personality and character. Now that he has had sex with you, he already got what he wanted.

    It could also be because of his life situation/circumstance. Ask if he is busy or if anything is wrong etc

    • He's is busy person but that never stop him from excessively texting. The way we text now is not as much. Sort if like average texting

    • I would talk to him seriously one on one in person, and ask if he still feels the same about you, and what does he want from this relationship.

    • I'll do that

  • Annnnnnd that's one of the reasons why I'm waiting till marriage for sex so I can't be used or played. I would advise that you just stop calling him and texting him and wait for him to contact you first and this time don't jumping sexual stuff right away a with him.

  • your pussy must not be fire, it probably sizzles at best otherwise he'd keep comeback for more.

    He could be like this
    media.makeameme.org/.../when-the-pussy-okea6i.jpg
    Instead he's like this s2.quickmeme.com/.../...ee180a2978c90e23f4ddb7.jpg

    • I would be the case if stop texting and calling but he still does but who knows. We have a date planned on Friday that he set. So lets see

  • Have a good sex then he chase you for next sex

  • No need for chasing now. He got what he wanted.

    • this guy keeps that shit 1hundred

    • Stop being so harsh!

  • I would be very wary that he is playing you. I know guys like this. They promise a relationship to get sex then become distant. Not saying he is like that, but from my experience it sounds like he is a player.

  • You FINALLY had sex. . . after 2 weeks. How well did you know him before you pulled down your panties? Did you know that he would act this way? Did you think that your judgment, after 2 weeks, was infallible. He got what he wanted. If he thinks that it is okay to use you for sex and then discard you, why would you want him?

    You need to reconsider your approach to relationships. . . and be honest with yourself. If you just want a guy to slip you the sausage, be honest with yourself. If you want a relationship, make sure that you have a basis for a friendship before you let him give you an injection.

    • Lol i knew well from school but never romantically until 3 weeks ago

  • Have you tried more sex?

    • We only sex once less then a week ago when we both had the same day off

  • Mmmh you're so hot😘

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