8 Amazing Oral Sex Tips You Should Try On Your Man

[Elarra]

I know, most of us ladies don’t really like giving head. Lord knows I don’t. Absolutely hate it. However, it’s very possible to give head and it not be all that bad. And why not? If your man likes it, treats you right, and just wants head a couple times a week, then you should do it for him, especially if he goes down on you. But, and this may be just me, I’ve noticed on this site and in my personal life that there is one major reason women don’t like giving head. Sometimes it’s the smell, other times it’s the idea of it being in our mouths and making us feel like sluts, but the biggest reason? We don’t know if we’re any good at it. And men, this is partially your fault because very rarely do you give any indication that it’s awesome.

So I took it upon myself to look at various questions asked on G@G, by my friends, and did a bit of research. Here’s what I found.

1. Don’t Use Your Teeth

Honestly, I’m a little annoyed I even have to say this, but I guess this is mostly for beginners or women who have never done it before. Please…I beg you…if your man doesn’t ask you to use your teeth, DO NOT USE YOUR TEETH. Shit hurts. I saw one girl on here complain that it's impossible for her to give head without her teeth. That is a LIE. You’re sucking a man’s penis, not eating a carrot. It is 100% possible to not use teeth. Do you have to open your mouth wider than it usually is? Yes. But…get over it.

2. It’s Not All About Sucking

Yeah, you look at porn and you see women slurp and suck and go in and out for 10 or 15 minutes. Truth time: Women in porn do not give good head because they’re putting on a SHOW. And, I don’t know about you all, but…I’m not doing that. My jaw starts to hurt, I get bored, and frankly, so does he. That’s lame. Make it entertaining. Suck on the tip. Kiss the shaft. Give him a handy while going down. Lick it from the underside starting at the nut sack to the tip really fast and start sucking again. Rub it on your boobs. But you really, honestly, do not have to just suck on it.

Also, when you do suck on it, use your neck, not your head. Using your neck gives it an S or wave like motion that makes it easier to fit more in your mouth without the gag reflex, but also moves his penis around without too much assistance from the hand.

3. His Dick Has Two Other Friends

This one varies from guy to guy, so you may want to check with yours to make sure it’s something he wants, but don’t forget the nut sack. While you’re giving head, play with them gently. Roll them around in your hand. Or, if your jaw is cramping, put them in your mouth one at a time while giving him a hand job simultaneously. Unlike his penis, the testicles aren’t going to require you to open your mouth as wide as you can.

4. Slow Down There, Speedy Gonzales

Just like sex, giving head doesn’t always have to be done at a fast, quick pace. Change speeds. Go fast. Then go really, really, REALLLLLLY slow. Then moderate. Then fast again. Then moderate. Then slow. Then fast. Then slow. Then…well, you get the picture.

5. Look Him In The Eye And Talk To Him

Ladies, one thing we have mastered are our eyes. Look him in the eye. If your jaw gets tired, give him a handy and ask him what he likes. Tell him it tastes good (Yes, I know, it probably doesn’t, but say it anyway). Tell him you like how it feels. Even when it’s in your mouth, eye contact is everything. Unless it’s dark in the room, which it isn’t always, you should look him in the eye sometimes.

6. Hold Your Breath And Deep Throat

I was horrible at deep throat once before and couldn’t figure out why. I gagged all the time. It was a turn off and it was annoying. Then I went down on my boyfriend when I had a stuffy nose and it was fine. You know why? BECAUSE I STOPPED BREATHING. It was an epiphany. So if you struggle with deep throat, try holding your breath when you do it. Don’t breathe through your nose!

Oh, and while we’re on the subject of deep throating, when you do it, hold it in your mouth for 2-4 seconds right there. Don’t move. Just leave it there.

7. Look Like You’re Enjoying It

Unless your guy is a jerk who only cares about himself, if he can tell you aren’t enjoying it, he’s not going to enjoy it, either. Well, not as much. No DECENT man likes making a woman do a sexual act she isn’t comfortable doing. And in the end, it can possibly make you both feel a bit dirty and awkward. There’s different ways of accomplishing this. The easiest for us is to moan like we enjoy it. When you take it out of your mouth to give your jaw a rest, smile and bite you bottom lip while looking him in the eye. Put on your girlie voice when you talk to him. However you choose to do it, make sure you let him know in a sexual feminine way that you are enjoying giving him pleasure.

8. Giving Head Isn’t About You

You shouldn’t give your man head if you really just don’t want to or it goes against your morals in some way. Seriously. Can’t guarantee that he’ll stay with you, but if you want on your resume ‘no head’, then keep to it and don’t let him pressure you.

But if you do give your man head, especially if you don’t enjoy it, at least remember it’s not about you. It really is about him, and a lot of times during sex, guys are doing most of the work. The least you can do is give him head and let him relax for 10 or 15 minutes. Seriously, ask him what likes. Ask him what he doesn’t like.

That’s it. Not everything on this list applies to every guy, but I promise there’s at least one or two things on it your man should like. And there’s other techniques out there as well. Feel free to look them up and experiment. But overall, just relax about it. When you’re relax, he’s relaxed, and you’ll both enjoy it that much more.

[udolipixie]

I don't really consider these tips amazing but the beginner basics going by my gal pal circle. Different views.

" a lot of times during sex, guys are doing most of the work. "
LMFAO considering the orgasm gap it seems guys are doing that work mostly for themselves. When statistics show that gals orgasm just as often as guys from penetration I'll buy this guys do most of the work. Heck when studies show the majority of guys are doing clitoral stimulation I'll even buy this 'guys do most of the work during sex' as a valid stance.

[LondonNewYork]

Amen!

[19MK34]

Measuring who does more work in the bedroom by who has more orgasms is absurd. A lot of women can't even make themselves orgasm, what chance has anyone else got?

[udolipixie]

@19MK34 What's absurd seems to be your reading comprehension. Nowhere did I state I'm measuring who does more work in the bedroom by who has more orgasms. I did state the guys doing most of the work is a wash since they going by the orgasm gap they're doing this work for themselves. It's not a matter of deciding who works more by who has more orgasms. It's a matter of complaining about doing the work is bs when it's solely/mostly for your own pleasure. To me it's like two dudes do a project and Dude A whines about doing most of the work... when all/most of the money goes to him. I can see whining about doing most of the work if you two got the same paycheck but when you're getting all/most of the money whining about doing most of the work as if you're the disadvantaged one and Dude B is riding your coattails is bs to me. What studies are you reading? Most US studies/surveys I've read show the vast majority of gals know how to make themselves orgasm... o. O..

[19MK34]

The majority of girls can make themselves orgasm but there is a sizable minority (so a lot globally or nationally) who can't. And your logic is still terrible. Just because a woman does not have an orgasm does not mean the guy did not try to give her one of was seeking pleasure for himself only. It's laughable trying to watch you defend that nonsense.

[udolipixie]

@19MK34 I know a minority of gals can't orgasm. However you said "a lot" to me a minority is now "a lot". Different views on what a minority is. The only terrible logic is yours. Show me where I stated if a woman does not have an orgasm that means the guy did not try to give her one of was seeking pleasure for himself only... oh that's right you can't because I didn't. I didn't even mention whether or not the guy tried to give her pleasure. I only spoke about the end result. I stated guys complaining about doing most of the work is bs because they're the ones getting all/most of the pleasure from that work. That's not terrible logic. That is a truth supported by the orgasm gap. You keep twisting and lying putting words in my mouth. First you claim I said I'm measuring who does more work in the bedroom by who has more orgasms. Now you claim I said if a woman does not have an orgasm that means the guy did not try to give her one of was seeking pleasure for himself.

[19MK34]

The broken logic comes from expecting work put in to mirror the number of orgasms either for yourself or partner, when that clearly is not how it works, since women and men experience orgasms differently. It's really not that hard to grasp. And yes, a sizeable minority is a lot of people, and is statistically relevant. Stop trying to nitpick when you don't even have a point.

[udolipixie]

@19MK34 The only broken logic is yours. I don't expect work put in to mirror the number of orgasms either for myself or partner. Show me where I stated such an expectation... oh that's right you can't. This is the third bs lie you have spewed. I'm not nitpicking. Your statement said "a lot" as if it was a majority or common however it's a minority. That's not a lot of people in the general sense. Again different views on what "a lot is". I do have a point. You're seemingly too busy being emotional spewing lies and arguing against things you are lying that I said. My point is: Guys complaining about doing most of the work is bs because they're the ones getting all/most of the pleasure from that work. My point is NOT measuring who does more work by who orgasms more. My point is NOT if a woman does not have an orgasm that means the guy did not try to give her one of was seeking pleasure for himself. My point is NOT expecting work put in to mirror the number of orgasms.

[19MK34]

So you think there is no link between work put in and orgasms but yet men can't complain about putting more work in because they have more orgasms? And your logic isn't broken? Strong trolling. And a lot doesn't mean and majority and never has. You are obviously struggling with the English language. Or just wasting my time on purpose.

[udolipixie]

@19MK34 Are you honestly claiming it's "terrible logic" and "broken logic" to find it laughable for someone to complain about doing most of the work that they are the main/sole benefit. I'm not talking about who does more work. I'm not talking about orgasm expectations. I am talking about how I find male complaints about doing most of the work laughable because the work they do is mostly/solely for their benefit. The complaints are laughable to me because the person is acting like they're doing all this work for someone else's benefit and they're being taken advantage of... when the complainer is the main/only one benefitting.

[udolipixie]

@19MK34 The "strong trolling" with broken logic is yours. Just because the same subjects are involved doesn't mean the topic is the same. I'm not linking work put in to how many orgasms. I am talking about male complaints about doing most of the work being laughable because they're the sole/main benefitters of this work. Nah it seems more like you're the one struggling with the English language. You still haven't shown me where I stated any of what you claimed I did. Show me where I said I was measuring who does more work by who orgasms more. Show me where I said if a woman does not have an orgasm that means the guy did not try to give her one of was seeking pleasure for himself. Show me where I said I'm expecting work put in to mirror the number of orgasms.

[NeutralMale]

Guys dont do it for ourselves, if we did then we would finish much faster. We last longer to please you guys and its annoying when people like you dont understand that.

[udolipixie]

You may last longer to please the gal. Of guys lasted longer to please gals then there wouldn't be such an orgasm gap. Statistics and studies are more credible than you speaking on the behalf of males. It is so annoying when people like yourself try to use their personal opinion for the general population.

[NeutralMale]

Most if not all guys try to last as long as they can, most guys can't last long so it seems like they just wanted to get off or something without her getting off and that's not the case. Women experience less orgasms typically during sex because it's much harder for them to get off then men. It's easy for us to get off. You can't really blame men for less orgasms, i mean i can remember my first girlfriend and how i was really nervous because i thought it wouldn't last long enough to please her and i was just really insecure about it. When it came to having sex i did what i was scared of and she didn't orgasm, instead of women like you complaining about it, you should support your partner so he has the confidence and drive to last longer.

[udolipixie]

In your opinion "most if not all guys try to last as long as they can. It seems you're not aware that how long a guy last doesn't necessarily equate to an orgasm as most gals orgasm via g-spot and clitoral stimulation. If guys were oh so concerned about getting a gal off they would be more into clitoral stimulation and hitting the g-spot than lasting long. I can 'blame' men for less orgasms when studies and statistics show there is an oral sex gap (guys generally get more oral than they give) and guys are generally either ignorant or selfish in bed.

[NeutralMale]

Lol your saying it like its an inequality of some sort when thats not the case. People have certain situations, some men like to give oral, some don't. Some women like to get oral, some dont.

[LaurenM1993]

I was thinking the same thing...

[AustinMan]

I enjoyed your Take. Here's mine on the subject. I've found that if a woman will connect with her submissive side, she'll usually develop an affinity for giving head and learn to enjoy it, esp if he's smart enough to give her lots of positive feedback, recognizing and acknowledging her efforts.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a7404-blow-jobs-tips-from-a-deep-throat-queen

[pnl86]

#1. Carve out a time slot just once (1) a week for oral sex. Make it a recurring event on your Google or iCalendar, preferably on a weekend, preferably on a Saturday between the hours of 7am and 11am (depending how early or late your guys gets up on the weekends).

That way, you'll actually being doing something other than just "reading" about how to be better at all this oral sex you're not even engaging in.

[Hannah591]

Good take but I love giving head. :')

[CaliSoccerGuy]

Always a nice thing to her haha

[BaileyisDarcy]

here's my tip:

If you're enjoying giving it, then he is probably enjoying getting it.

Thats how i do it, if my jaw is getting sore i quit sucking and start licking or kissing or use my hands for a bit before going right back in there. I suck in different ways, i push my tongue in all the little spots i can find, i explore as much as i can and if my guy has a reaction, i focus on that spot and see if i can get that reaction a second time, while distracting him by playing with his balls so anything i do isn't too overwhelming and focused.
I come up with little games, like those ones in the store where you step only one white tiles and not the black ones or vice versa. The game could be stroke stroke suck lick suck, stroke stroke suck lick suck, or something like that. If i mess up i change it.

Now and then you find techniques that can speed up how fast he cums and ones that slow it down.

My boyfriend says i have magic hands because of this. (He won't say mouth for some reason even though its my main weapon haha)

[YourFutureEx]

This is not a rocket science, but it'd be difficult. Eloquently written.

Personally, I am not into bjs. But I never had any either.

[Afrochick]

I hope you eat kitty... or you will be many girls "FutureEx" LOL

[19magic]

I absolutely love giving head, and of course receiving it as well. I get enthusiastic about it probs a little too much since a couple of times I was told to slow it down or not suck too hard 😜😅 but he definitely loved it

[madhatters4]

the sucking part is a real big no no for me. sucking feels very awkward and uncomfortable

[enis_Penvy]

Ok am I the only one totally in love with that Kate Upton pic? I mean daaaammmmnnnn...
Good myTake by the way

[Miss_Behave]

Good take and I agree with all that you wrote... especially #6. I usually can't as well but like you, I did it when I had a stuffy nose and realized the trick to it. I was also blindfolded and he enjoyed it a lot.

[Rissyanne]

I have no problem giving a blow job. I've been told I'm very good at it. But I make it about him. by the way very good take

[waspcreative]

If I would add things to the list:

1) Make sure the head of the penis is getting enough attention. Either through a deep throat or sucking the head. Half-assed deep throats that mostly end up with the lips stroking the shaft just doesn't feel that good.

2) Speaking of talking and eye contact. Consider taking it further and asking or suggesting to come in your mouth. Maybe even mention swallowing. At least for me, the thought of that during the process adds a lot to it. Like, if you're sucking and I know you're just gonna pull out at the end, it makes me lose interest. The best part about the BJ is not so much about the physical sensation but the psychological aspect.

[Saoirse_Nua]

Very good take - I am not a huge fan of receiving oral, I prefer giving but your popsicle analogy is very true and correct, porn is about camera angles not the most pleasure - A lot of men like to see a girls hair fall down over her face when given oral but they push back hair all the time in porn.

[LadyTerror]

My boyfriend actually likes it when I use teeth :P

Good take though :P

[feminismisnarcissism]

a little teeth can be okay-here and there... but for the most part, we'd prefer (in general most men don't like teeth) that you felt toothless.

[feminismisnarcissism]

@udolipixie lol "orgasm gap" now THAT gender gap is real. we do DO most of the work... but that doesn't mean most men are GOOD at the work or get much done lol

[Elarra]

I had a boyfriend who liked teeth, too, but only one.

[LadyTerror]

@feminismisnarcissism he actually prefers teeth. Just a little though

[feminismisnarcissism]

some guys do. but not very many lol so when you guys break up you better watch that lol

[feminismisnarcissism]

i didn't even need to read it all... but i can comment: BADASS mytake.

frankly, about 10% of women have any clue about giving head... and that's likely generous and definitely stastistically valid.

unfortunately 80% of women THINK they are good at giving head. you aren't.
but Elarra is, I'd let her suck my dick lol

[Elarra]

Lol, well, the women commenting on here seem to think this is beginner stuff lol. Most likely they aren't doing as good a job as they think. Giving head isn't an Olympic sport and you don't have to do a bunch of weird and crazy stuff to give good head which is why I think so many girls suck at it, but believe they're actually awesome.

[feminismisnarcissism]

it's mostly about the enthusiasm and passion and frankly the one claiming "beginner" stuff sounds bitter and entitled... I doubt she's good at it at all-as that's the worst attitude to have in sex, much less oral sex.

[feminismisnarcissism]

i'd rather have a virgin who never saw a dick sucking my dick with interest, enthusiasm, passion than some expert 40 year old woman who thinks she knows it all but feels bitter and has the score card out during sex...

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

Only on gag 😑

[Elarra]

Yeah, because it's the only site I visit that I can get away with it :p

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

Was that sarcastic?

[senor_bacon]

women take heed she's muther fukin right

[bloodmountain1990]

Girls who lick while giving oral rule. Having said that, I love giving oral as much as receiving it.

[sparta13]

nice discussion and true many of things... but if u don't really like to give BJ than directly say no to ur men and he will understand if he loves u and other option is give him hand job instead of BJ also help him anyway I want to know as a guy that if u don't like smell than how to improve its order?

[douride2]

Great take but nothing really new here.

[COCOCHANEL]

nice

[John_Doesnt]

Try the oral trick of keeping your mouth shut. Every man, even gay guys, love it.