Part of The Problem With Sexual Harassment Is The Misconceptions

[LittleSally]

Misconceptions about sexual harassment are running rampant among the misinformed, those who don't bother to inform themselves and those who love spreading them just for laughs (believe it or not)!

1. It's only harassment when it's done by an ugly person.

Not true at all. How could it be? This would mean that even rape is consensual sex if it was done by a significantly attractive person. The whole logic of this is entirely moronic. If you feel violated by a person it doesn't matter in the least what they look like.

2. Your clothing dictates whether you'll get harassed or not.

Another entirely missed point. Women wearing mini skirts are going to get harassed just as a woman wearing regular pair of jeans will...or a man wearing cargo shorts, or the one wearing a kilt...

3. Your attitude will protect you.

Sometimes not even being 100% confident and sure of yourself will protect you from something as rampant as sexual harassment or sexual abuse. It might, however, give you the upper hand in dealing with some lighter forms of potential harassment, but no amount of self-belief is going to truly stop a physical attack.

4. Sexual harassment and rape is about sex.

Not even for a second should you believe that these atrocities are about sex. No, they're about power. Power play, anger issues, hating the particular gender or just a specific person, so they attack that gender they hate or any person who looks like the person they hate... They take out their issues on their victims. It's simply put violent transference....

Transference is a phenomenon characterized by unconscious redirection of feelings from one person to another.

...or power-play...or, in the end, it's all about the predator's mental health or lack thereof.

[NJ_Casanova]

#2 is BS, If you dress like a HOOKER... guys LOOKING for a HOOKER will bother you.

There IS a difference between SLUTTY and Sophisticated sexy/Elegant. NOT saying you deserve to be Raped... but you DO deserve the attention from Creeps.

3. 75% of the women that come out against Harvey, knew better than to put themselves in that situation... BUT THEY DID. It the difference between being street smart and DUMB. KNOW where the exit is, don't drink alone with them and best of all bring a friend for back up/support (wing man/women). It's the same with girls going to a club.

4. Sexual harassment and RAPE are 2 VERY DIFFERENT THINGS. It's the same as spanking a kid and punching the kid in the face and knocking him/her out.

More than half of those girls LET it happen JUST TO GET A JOB/ROLE. Sure He's a PIG that deserves to have his shit cut off... but Stupidity/Greed on the part of those "WOMEN" is partially to blame.

The Truth is... Id the first few women weren't WEAK ans SPOKE UP SSOONER... it wouldn't have happened to the next 40<50 girls. It's a lesser version of seeing a girl getting raped and running away and not saying anything vs. calling the cops.

THIS is why guys don't ask girls out, come on to them. Sure its' different but it gets covered under the SAME blanket of Harassment.

Bill Cosby on the other hand... should be hanging from a tree. He drugged most of his victims.

[Gayview_Mahat]

Number 4 makes absolutely no sense. How did you arrive at that?

[taleswapper]

Wow. 100% wrong. Amazing. Let's review.

"1. It's only harassment when it's done by an ugly person." The poster starts out with the assumption of harassment. That's the problem. Studies have shown that a compliment or even a sexual innuendo ISN'T perceived as harassing if it's from someone the woman fancies. So the identical act from two different men, one attractive and the other not, is seen as a compliment or as harassment, depending on the appeal of the deliverer. THAT is the point of the meme.

"2. Your clothing dictates whether you'll get harassed or not." To a remarkable extent, this is true. Again, take the same average woman, dress her for clubbing, or for schlepping around the house. I promise you, the one dressed for clubbing will see a LOT more approaches. And that's the point of THAT meme.

"3. Your attitude will protect you.
Sometimes not even being 100% confident and sure of yourself will protect you from something as rampant as sexual harassment or sexual abuse. It might, however, give you the upper hand in dealing with some lighter forms of potential harassment, but no amount of self-belief is going to truly stop a physical attack."
False dichotomy. Of course, no defense is 100% foolproof. If it was, everyone would use it. BUT, confidence and a good set-down can put all but the most relentless pursuer to flight. Much like clothing, it's a factor to consider.

"4. Sexual harassment and rape is about sex."
Duh... If it were about power, but not sexual, it would not be rape. It would be assault. Sex, and especially frustrations about sex, are the core of sexual harassment. That's why it's called "sexual harassment", instead of just harassment (which is also a thing).

TL;DR? Don't put on blinders. Don't listen to liberal groupthink. Take precautions. Expect to get unwanted attention, or even hit on, and have a plan. And stop and think if it seems to be happening a lot; are you doing something to make yourself more sexually attractive, and it's working, but for the wrong guys? Then it's working. Goal achieved.

[Unit1]

5. th it happens only to girls and women. Right @LittleSally? RIGHT?
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a49489-being-a-woman-means-being-sexually-harassed
You'd be surprised. There have been male victims of sexual harassment too!

[Jayson101]

Do some women live in a perverse fantasy world?

ALL of those things are relevant. Because women just don't care when an attractive guy does it, and women dress provocatively to attract male attention. You must be out of your mind or have no ability to observe human behavior that you witness every day

[AlwaysBelieving]

Interesting thoughts.

[Giacomanzo]

I do not agree with number 1, because when you say attractive, you mean "attractive in your mind".

I'll make a more innocent example. You have two colleagues who are into you, you barely know both of them, you arrived less than a week ago.
One is an Adonis in your perspective, muscular, tall, strong jawline or whatever you like the most in a man. The other one is a fat Poindexter with irregular teeth and very few hair on his head.

Third day in the office for you, it appears that your working place has won something against a competitor company.
Both of them use the situation to hug you a little too long for it to be just a joy hug.

Which one of the two would you like the least?

[Danielstairclimber]

why are you so obsessed with this topic little sally?

[Tohru]

Very interesting

[Ghost_rider]

That's why I advise men to stay away from women or just go MGTOW.

women now days use sexual harassment and rape as a weapon against males.

They will threaten the males of fake rape charges and fake sexual harassment if males do not do as women want.

Sometimes women get pregnant or fake pregnancy on purpose with a rich man so that she can get half his wealth by proving that child belongs to him by DNA test, while still getting railed by all the bad boys but still using contraceptive pills with those guys.

Females are the most manipulative and deceiving creatures in the world.

These sexual harassment cases are on the rise because more women are acting like sluts, treating casual sex as a piece of cake because they want equality with men, hey feminism,

Just give it 10 more years, you will see how much damage Feminism has done to society, men will have zero respect and zero love for a woman.

When a man sees a half naked women on street demanding sex out of a club, do you think that man will have love and respect for a woman?

Men should just avoid talking to a woman or helping a woman because they are afraid that a woman might charge them with fake sexual harassment or fake rape charges.

if you want a sexual release just masturbate or go for paid sex, its stupid to get involved with women and all sorts of complications if you bring any thing of value to the table.
just avoid the drama, avoid women.

[Hungry_Shark]

No one could have said it better. I completely support each and every word you wrote. Love you man.