Why do men get turned on by abusing women?

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not sure whats going on- im a pretty female, and you'd think men might hit on me or ask me out. Instead, most guys and I mean like 95% out there seem to want to piss me off, upset me, or mistreat me. If I react or get upset, they are thrilled and even get turned on by it. I've seen this pattern over n over again.. it's sickening and weird. Most males will do horrible things to make u suffer, upset you, and have u react to it- then they somehow get a hard on by it. Are most guys out there just screwed up sadists?

another thing is- most men do not want to please me sexually. I'm pretty hot- and have a lot of sexual energy and vibes. Again you'd think men would be all over me- sexually. Nope. Every weird guy i meet, sexual things go like this: the guy might barely touch me, he will never try to kiss my body or please me. He might rub my breasts or eventually suck on them. Then, when it comes to my vagina, he will NEVER want to please me ever. Some or many go so far as to make sure i DONT orgasm. They will abuse my vagina badly- on purpose. If they sense im turned on they'll divert it or change what they're doing or get aggressive. weirdo sickos. I even dated a guy once who made sure i didn't orgasm and he'd make statements like "SOME WOMEN CAN"T ORGASM" as if i shud be glad i got one orgasm. he'd suppress all my orgasms intentionally. So as a super hot woman i mostly deal with crazy males abusing me, or making sure to not please me or want me to orgasm. it's really out there. but it happens with basically every male i meet and i meet all of them online. if they do make me orgasm they act as if they've given me money, and expect everything in return, and hold it over my head.

this is a real issue--males out there are crazy- what is wrong with them. why do they enjoy abusing sexy hot women, making sure they don't cum and just treating them terribly. something is wrong with these males out there.. what is going on..

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almost every male i meet wants to make sure im not happy, i suffer, and that i never get sexually pleased. they go to extreme lengths to make this happen and even try to take from me, abuse me, and put me in pain. if im happy or anything they'll try to ruin it. sexually, no orgasms, just sociopaths abusing me. i dont even go for sexual encounters and even guys that act normal end up acting psycho like this. im also a really nice person and cool

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the few guys who do go down on me, will make sure i don't cum either. They will stay down for even hours making sure i don't cum, and im horny and multi orgasmic. They do this on purpose- men do not want to please me b/c im really hot/pretty. it's insane and weird. they want to abuse/use sexually torture and make me suffer.. is there some sick psych reason these freaks are this way. i mean no guy wants to please me.. i'd say 99% (i look like any hot celebrity most men worship)

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MrMysteryMan

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You're choosing duche bags. Plain and simple. You should think back to all these guys that treat you shitty and see if there are similarities to them as in how they look, what their personalities are like, what their background life is like, etc. Then avoid men like this pattern in the future. Most women that get into one abusive relationship after another tend to go for the same type of guy and thus end up with the same type of relationship. Either their brains get used to being treated like that and think it's the norm and then go after the same person again. Or, they feel it's all they are good for, nothing better, or, it's familiar and any type of difference they don't know so they choose the safety of the same type of assholes. Another thing, abused women tend to attract abusive people in some strange psychological way. It's like a moth to a flame. Abused people tend to give of the vibe of being emotionally battered and helpless or weak or something and abusers pick up on that like the smell of chocolate. It's weird. But you should try and analyse your past relationships and do the opposite.

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i meet them all online- i dont raelly choose them- i meet up with them to see how they are. We go on a few dates- they act like jerks or douches and we never talk again.. im not sure where else to meet a guy
MrMysteryMan

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So maybe date ones that you might usually overlook, but have things about them you like. Or ones that you would just be friends with, but not date. Maybe a friend is what you need right now and see where that progresses. Usually, the best relationships happen out of friendships. Try finding a guy friend and be truly friends first and then see how that progresses. Even if nothing comes out of the friendship and you just remain friends, you can still use that as a template to what you kind of want out of a more intimate relationship with just a little more spice or something to it right? I don't know, you need to change your pattern on how you meet men or change what type of men you meet some way. After I got out of shit relationship after shit relationship, I decided to not date and just hung out with some women friends for a while without sex and it got my head right about women again after that. That might be what you should do.

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Asker

i meet them all online- i dont raelly choose them- i meet up with them to see how they are. We go on a few dates- they act like jerks or douches and we never talk again.. im not sure where else to meet a guy

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MrMysteryMan

So maybe date ones that you might usually overlook, but have things about them you like. Or ones that you would just be friends with, but not date. Maybe a friend is what you need right now and see where that progresses. Usually, the best relationships happen out of friendships. Try finding a guy friend and be truly friends first and then see how that progresses. Even if nothing comes out of the friendship and you just remain friends, you can still use that as a template to what you kind of want out of a more intimate relationship with just a little more spice or something to it right? I don't know, you need to change your pattern on how you meet men or change what type of men you meet some way. After I got out of shit relationship after shit relationship, I decided to not date and just hung out with some women friends for a while without sex and it got my head right about women again after that. That might be what you should do.

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AustinMan | 41.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. Is it possible that they just aren't carrying enough explosives to knock that chip off your shoulder? I'm challenged to know what a man might do that would please you. I'm pretty unclear on the dynamic you want to achieve sexually.

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dynamic? hmm... fooling around, oral sex.. you're an idiot
i also dont have a chip on my shoulder--just b/c i state im pretty...
misogynists like u harp on this b/c ur fucked up.. now get lost asshole

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Asker

dynamic? hmm... fooling around, oral sex.. you're an idiot
i also dont have a chip on my shoulder--just b/c i state im pretty...
misogynists like u harp on this b/c ur fucked up.. now get lost asshole

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datgirl

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I'm so hot, I'm so hot, I'm so hot, Them, them, them, psychos, weirdos, freaks, losers.

Wow, god complex much? Just because you're "hot" doesn't mean that everyone needs to cater to you so stfu with that b. s.

Also, you're fooling around with the wrong guys. Maybe when you get rid of that God complex and become more humble you'll actually find a guy that loves you and wants to please you in every way.

Good luck.

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i dont have a god complex-you're a crazy bitch so get lost

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i dont have a god complex-you're a crazy bitch so get lost

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CrazynKinky | 415 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

You are the issue. You go for trash and get treated that way. Respect yourself. You go for losers and let people treat you like trash.

95% aren't assholes I'll give ya 20% there are tons of good guys out there.

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you're an idiot and need psych help... not only are u not answering my question you're insulting me for no reason.. get help bitch and get lost you psychopath

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you're an idiot and need psych help... not only are u not answering my question you're insulting me for no reason.. get help bitch and get lost you psychopath

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abundantlyrich | 4.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Because they were fucked up as children themselves or they learnt being forceful and abusive is about being masculine. They are lacking no common sense how to treat a woman with sexual decency.

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this is true as well--theyre just messed up and abusive... that seems like so
many guys now

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this is true as well--theyre just messed up and abusive... that seems like so
many guys now

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Mesonfielde | 5.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

They learn their actions from crappy industrial porn. Have you ever seen a girl actually come in porn? I think they try to make sure she doesn't. And then guys reenact that garbage.

And then you have women who seek to be abused and enjoy reading and romanticizing relationships in Twilight and 50 Shades of Abuse.

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seriously? in porn men try to make sure women don't cum? wow.. that is scary. That's crazy actually. That does make sense though. I look like someone who could be a porn star, so it makes sense- they think that's how they have to treat either women or pretty women. These guys are disgusting. it's sick really. I'm just confused as heck. I dont plan on doing anything with a guy again because these guys are all crazy...
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i mean it's scary- it's almost every guy i meet. A part of it might also be a selfish thing.. i just find it crazy. I mean even the ugliest oldest guys act this way- it doesn't matter that im young hot.. and they're old, or whoever they are- they treat me as if they dont want to please me. then they expect to be pleased and im looking at them like huh? they're crazy. also like they dont want to give a woman anything, esp a pretty woman- especially an orgasm- an orgasm is like more valuable than money to these freaks. It's baffling..
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then they worship and fantasize about these celebrities who are hot.. but they meet hot women in real life and act like freaks.. its just out there...
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even in 50 shades or bdsm there's still pleasure- these guys don't do that- they just want you to suffer. they're sadists or something. one guy spent 30 mins beating up my pussy with his finger, he suppressed my orgasm to this extreme. another, would go down on me for hours, and totally screw up all my orgasms suppress them to where i couldn't come for days--he was angry i cud cum b/c there are 'women out there who can't.. total psychopath.. these people do this on purpose.. they're sick
Mesonfielde

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Well you don't see porn end with the girl climaxing, it ends with either facials or blowjobs. Ruins the whole thing, it has no purpose this way.
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oh really--i didn't know that-- thats crazy actually. I guess its probably true then, these guys are idiots and are trying to mimic porn, thanks for letting some of us know
johnnyjewel

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just how sick are these guys your talking about. It seems like it's more than just hand cuffs and basic kinky things, I'm trying to imagine just how far they take it for you to feel this way?
johnnyjewel

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Oh shit just read your comment, so intentionally not letting you orgasm? wow that's messed up, and I think that is a lot of guys, they just do what they seen on some weird porno. But I don't know how you wouldn't want your girl to be like gushing with pleasure. yikes

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seriously? in porn men try to make sure women don't cum? wow.. that is scary. That's crazy actually. That does make sense though. I look like someone who could be a porn star, so it makes sense- they think that's how they have to treat either women or pretty women. These guys are disgusting. it's sick really. I'm just confused as heck. I dont plan on doing anything with a guy again because these guys are all crazy...

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i mean it's scary- it's almost every guy i meet. A part of it might also be a selfish thing.. i just find it crazy. I mean even the ugliest oldest guys act this way- it doesn't matter that im young hot.. and they're old, or whoever they are- they treat me as if they dont want to please me. then they expect to be pleased and im looking at them like huh? they're crazy. also like they dont want to give a woman anything, esp a pretty woman- especially an orgasm- an orgasm is like more valuable than money to these freaks. It's baffling..

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Asker

then they worship and fantasize about these celebrities who are hot.. but they meet hot women in real life and act like freaks.. its just out there...

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Asker

even in 50 shades or bdsm there's still pleasure- these guys don't do that- they just want you to suffer. they're sadists or something. one guy spent 30 mins beating up my pussy with his finger, he suppressed my orgasm to this extreme. another, would go down on me for hours, and totally screw up all my orgasms suppress them to where i couldn't come for days--he was angry i cud cum b/c there are 'women out there who can't.. total psychopath.. these people do this on purpose.. they're sick

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Mesonfielde

Well you don't see porn end with the girl climaxing, it ends with either facials or blowjobs. Ruins the whole thing, it has no purpose this way.

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Asker

oh really--i didn't know that-- thats crazy actually. I guess its probably true then, these guys are idiots and are trying to mimic porn, thanks for letting some of us know

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johnnyjewel

just how sick are these guys your talking about. It seems like it's more than just hand cuffs and basic kinky things, I'm trying to imagine just how far they take it for you to feel this way?

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johnnyjewel

Oh shit just read your comment, so intentionally not letting you orgasm? wow that's messed up, and I think that is a lot of guys, they just do what they seen on some weird porno. But I don't know how you wouldn't want your girl to be like gushing with pleasure. yikes

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DrKran | 387 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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The guys you've met aren't even 95% of guys. There will always be bad people out there, and a great majority aren't good at all. The world itself is getting worse as days go by.

Women are also capable of enjoying the pain of others, I've seen it so much in my friends too. There's still a lot of good people out there. The good aren't divided from the bad as light is divided from the dark.

Here's a post of a guy like this.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1910151-the-women-don-t-owe-you-anything-mentality-is-it-justified-or
I hate meeting up with people who won't take no as an answer. You don't like guys who value themselves more. And everyone hates the guy/girl who thinks their right when their not...

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oddly- I've seen this pattern from MANY guys- they get turned on by being mean or aggressive towards me- its so backwards and crazy

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oddly- I've seen this pattern from MANY guys- they get turned on by being mean or aggressive towards me- its so backwards and crazy

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ayapis

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There are more than 3.5 billion men on this planet. Your experience suggests that all of them are out to intentionally cause you harm. You might be right... or, maybe there's another party contributing to the slanted experience that you are having repeatedly. What do you think?

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this is how males treat me- if they weren't treating me this way i wouldn't be talking about it. They treat other women the same too

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Asker

this is how males treat me- if they weren't treating me this way i wouldn't be talking about it. They treat other women the same too

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FakeName123 | 3.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

If certain patterns repeat in life again and again the issue is not with others, but with you. If you keep attracting these kind of guys you should try to understand why you are attracting them rather than putting them blame on others.

"Fool me once, blame on you. Fool me twice, blame on me."

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Anonymous

It's weird that women enjoy being abused during sex. But most importantly you suck at picking men. Generally people get what they deserve and if you keep getting these guys then there is something not right with you that always attracts you to these guys.

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oh ok.. so you're saying that all the guys that get the crazy women deserve it? you're a sick person and hopefully you'll get the bad u deserve for talking to people that way.. you're a sicko

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Asker

oh ok.. so you're saying that all the guys that get the crazy women deserve it? you're a sick person and hopefully you'll get the bad u deserve for talking to people that way.. you're a sicko

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joeb73 | 754 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

with how much i hate to say it. it seems you have a bad taste in men. not all guys are what you described. if you find you only go for men that do this you might need to look at different types of guys to find one what will treat you differently

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this isn't taste- these are first dates or even random men anywhere

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this isn't taste- these are first dates or even random men anywhere

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singlebee

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Hmmm I don't know it's clear that you are meeting all these wrong tours of dudes...
Why don't you date a nice guy instead of going after jerks?

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im not going after them, im meeting them once

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im not going after them, im meeting them once

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Anonymous

Probably your shitty and arrogant personality which makes them only lust over your body and not care about you.

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James19

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Tame a cat, dog or even a lion but dont tame a misunderstanding like this.

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Anonymous

You may be "hot," but you slept through English classes, apparently.

You already posted this a while back. You can't possibly be for real.

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there's nothing grammatically wrong with my post- i hate when idiots insult
people's intellectual abilities or grammar, in a lame blanket statement
what a loser you are

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Asker

there's nothing grammatically wrong with my post- i hate when idiots insult
people's intellectual abilities or grammar, in a lame blanket statement
what a loser you are

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Anonymous

Are you sure it's intentional? Most men just don't know what they are doing.

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SaltyPotato | 95 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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Dafaq did you just write an autobiography? Get over yourself! Lmao I bet you love the smell of your own farts

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Intraluminal | 5.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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Troll troll trolling troll Troll troll trolling trollTroll troll trolling troll

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async | 269 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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It sounds like you have bad taste in men. Not all men do that.

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ElissaDido

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Umm they don't! Only psychopaths do!

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these guys are all most likely psychopaths- i mean they are, and/or something else is going on too such as the porn thing- it's all messed up
ElissaDido

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I agree with you I've seen plenty of videos explaining how porn messes up people!
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that's true--it does. I didn't realize that guys were not pleasing women in porn.. or who knows what. these people are so messed up... its like the twilight zone

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Asker

these guys are all most likely psychopaths- i mean they are, and/or something else is going on too such as the porn thing- it's all messed up

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ElissaDido

I agree with you I've seen plenty of videos explaining how porn messes up people!

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Asker

that's true--it does. I didn't realize that guys were not pleasing women in porn.. or who knows what. these people are so messed up... its like the twilight zone

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Tdieseler | 3.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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who told you that fairy tale?

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mooky06 | 2.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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If that is he case, that's totally fucked up

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Polocrew

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Are you getting off on this OP?

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Anonymous

Troll

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for nasty anonymous below:

i have a great personality and im funny cool and witty--far better than them and you combined. You're the loser with the shitty personality who is arrogant. Do people a favor and shut your evil negative mouth no one wants to hear you reject

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Asker

for nasty anonymous below:

i have a great personality and im funny cool and witty--far better than them and you combined. You're the loser with the shitty personality who is arrogant. Do people a favor and shut your evil negative mouth no one wants to hear you reject

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