I don't enjoy vaginal sex. Am I alone?

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I've had vaginal sex more than once and I really don't like it. I've been told that if he "does it the right way" it will feel good but so far it hasn't. People keep saying is not even possible for me not to enjoy this kind of sex. Would guys even want to have sexually relations without really getting to have that kind of sex? I feel like I want to allow him to enter me just so he can finish in there and I can get pregnant. Do you guys have any advice? I feel like I'm gonna have a hard time getting a boyfriend because of this.

Blonde401 · Accepted Answer

It could either be that you're asexual and you're just not into sex at all but have a romantic interest in people or you just happen to have had some really rubbish sex and it's affected how you feel about it. I didn't start having really good sex until I was in my 20s and I'd been with more than a few people. So it's all about finding someone who works for you and fits with you and gives you what you need. One or the other I think here?

SexyStudent · Accepted Answer

First of all what kind of sex do you enjoy? Second, it is common that girls don't feel the same intensity during vaginally sex. We have to have our clitoris stimulated and that rarely occurs through intercourse. I demand that a guy licks me to orgasm prior to vaginal sex. After my first orgasm intercourse results in my experiencing multiple orgasms

tinyclit · Accepted Answer

You are not alone! There are many of us here who don't do sexual intercourse. Not ever. I for one am an oral girl. I do only oral sex. Oral sex is fantastic! There are plenty of guys who agree with and like that too. My husband (formerly boyfriend) is one of them. It's like we were meant for each other.

Tdieseler · Accepted Answer

what kind of sex do you like then girl... you might be a lesbian.. you might want to look into that... because penis and vagina were made for each other... its just the people's fault that they can't use what they have...
you must be having sex with some real "winners" not to enjoy vaginal sex...
the girl im having sex with now... will Not let go of it, even in her sleep... its quite something.

Cmasterson · Answer

At first probably for the first few months of having sex I didn't get the hype, because I never experienced an orgasm until I was with one boyfriend and sex changed my world.

truthbeknown · Answer

I sense you are still inexperienced and perhaps the few times you did have sex it was with someone who is not sensitive to your feelings.

EmpatheticLady · Answer

I'm sure you're not alone. I can't say I relate, though. I don't want to be a broken record and repeat what you've already heard either.

desidoll · Answer

I was like this before but slowly I started to enjoy it more. Are you still new in sex? Perhaps you need more time to adapt and recognize the pleasure.

BarbaraP · Answer

You're just inexperienced, you'll get there with time. It's way harder for a woman that it is for a man to find the right balance and discover what you like and how you like it. Give it a few more chances.

Girl7150 · Answer

I didn't really feel much the first maybe 15 times I had vaginal sex, but now it feels so good - don't know why

Mesonfielde · Answer

He is probably either too small or not fast enough.

thewanderingme · Answer

I would suggest seeing a gynecologist. you might have some sort of anatomical issues down there if it doesn't have any sensitivit at all

CHARismatic110 · Answer

No you aren't. I don't enjoy it either. Well, I haven't thus far.

BigGuySmallProblems · Answer

Most girls actually don't orgasm from vaginal sex, just take it up the ass! :D

Intraluminal · Answer

Are you attracted to the way your boyfriend smells?

Alan180188 · Answer

I had a friend who was doing anal sex to stay virgin (long story and reasons) so when she finally lost her virginity she told me that she enjoys anal sex way more !

jacquesvol · Answer

If you don't like it, don't have it.

ConsultantIsBack · Answer

U wot m8?

TheHooptyMiata · Answer

LOL. If you want your mind to be changed, I'm in Connecticut.

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

Have you... tried anal yet?

TheFlak36 · Answer

Try the back door. Maybe you enjoy that.

Water2008 · Answer

From what I've read, most women have a hard time with sex initially. I would suggest seeing a sex therapist privately. They deal with this kind of thing all the time.