Is it possible that he actually "tore that pussy up"?

Question

I had sex with my new friend with benefits last night, and really was not expecting him to be so big. I mean, holy fuck, it had to be 8 inches long and probably 2 inches in diameter. Huge. He had been telling me he didn't think it would fit cause he'd had that problem before with quite a few girls, but I didn't think it was THAT big. Anyways, he fucked me hard. And rough. And it felt good at first, but after a few minutes it started to really hurt. I was begging for it to be over in my head because I thought I was about to cry it hurt so bad. He lasted a long time too, at least 20 minutes. I wasn't a virgin before I had sex with him, but I know that you can re-tear your hymen. What's the likelyhood that that's what happened? Or what else could have happened? I've been bleeding around my vagina, not from it, so I know it's not my period.

Answer 1

HandsomeRaj | 2.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

1. Technically yes an injury can result in a mismatch of the penis and vagina hence the term 'tore the pussy up' is a fact
2. But most times it's just the feeling. I have a sizeable girth and I've heard statements often like 'you fill me up', 'you tore me' etc (all in pleasure ofcourse till date at least lol)
3. In most situations guys with good girth &/or length (especially the former) need to know to slow down & stop if required if the girl isn't wet enough - most don't do that which results in the hurt, burning etc
4. As of the hymen, I guess it repopulates after a certain period of inactivity - ofcourse not to the extent as it was originally (one young lady had posted a good My Take on it or was it an opinion, I think the latter)
5. Slight bleeding could well be an early onset of period or just a hymen tear. Best to get it checked with the doc too :) better safe than sorry :)

HandsomeRaj

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Thank you, young lady for your kind and generous gesture of selecting my opinion the MHO :) <3

Answer 2

HandsomeRaj

Thank you, young lady for your kind and generous gesture of selecting my opinion the MHO :) <3

Answer 3

NJ_Casanova | 13.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

I've had girls I couldn't fit before, thank fully the ones that I did get into stopped me before any serious damage could happen.

Answer 4

In-sight-ful | 293 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Explorer

My boyfriend is pretty large as well at 9 1/2in and sometimes it hurts and sometimes it doesn't. Chances are you are bleeding because as you said "I was begging for it to be over in my head" you didn't want it so your body wasn't prepping for it anymore so you weren't as wet so there was more friction. It happens to me sometimes when I am just not in the mood, the bleeding should stop soon. If it is heavy bleeding or lasts for a couple days I would go to the doctor but I definitely wouldn't worry yet. If it hurts you really need to tell him to stop though, guy's don't know those kind of things, pain isn't a good thing, if it hurts say stop.

Answer 5

Anonymous

Damn. You should of had him stop for a sec and apply a shit ton of lube. I definitely wouldn't have continued if it was painful like that.

I'm no expert, I've never had this happen to myself. But I know it's possible to injury yourself (like what happens to rape victims). I would give it a couple days and see if it seems to be okay. If you're continually bleeding though you'll need to see a doctor asap.

Not smart, next time tell a guy if he's hurting you. If he knew I bet he wouldn't want to continue to hurt you for 20 minutes. And lube is everything!

Answer 6

mistixs | 2.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Influencer

Next time something like this happens, TELL HIM to stop!

Answer 7

dipta | 368 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

"Tore that pussy up", you're actually talking about yourself, your own body and health!

It's quite possible there's a vaginal rip, you're bleeding! You should be going to the hospital and have it checked, who knows if you need some stitches and what can have possibly happened.
friends with benefits or not, it doesn't sound like this guy respects you but still, you have to take better care of yourself, okay.

Asker

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I just figured I'd make light of the situation lol. I'm not one for serious things, hence a friends with benefits relationship.

It kept bleeding for at least 24 hours after, but it's stopped and isn't sore anymore.
dipta

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I'm glad to hear it got better and doesn't seem to be anything serious.
Stay safe.

Answer 8

Asker

I just figured I'd make light of the situation lol. I'm not one for serious things, hence a friends with benefits relationship.

It kept bleeding for at least 24 hours after, but it's stopped and isn't sore anymore.

Answer 9

dipta

I'm glad to hear it got better and doesn't seem to be anything serious.
Stay safe.

Answer 10

AidenBlue

Yoda

Vaginal tear. Look it up.

Sucks to be him. I'd be mortified if I was causing a girl pain during sex. How unfortunate.

You are a cautionary tale for all the size queens.

Answer 11

reptocarl

Master

He was a piss poor selfish fuck that didn't care if you were ok or not. You'll be sore awhile. You should've told him to stop

Other_Tommy_Wiseau

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shut up white knight. he's not a mind reader. she should've said something
reptocarl

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@Other_Tommy_Wiseau he didn't ask either though did he
Other_Tommy_Wiseau

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he did in the beginning
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reptocarl

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@Other_Tommy_Wiseau you know when your partner isn't enjoying it by the look on her face or sounds and I keep asking several times. But you and him wouldn't any of that because you never ask or look at her face. In you're just in it for you aren't you. You don't give a fuck do you
Other_Tommy_Wiseau

+1 y
i also trust my partner will use that thing right under her nose that's conveniently used for communication. and like she said, she was fine with it and didn't mind it for a while. could he have asked? but don't tell me she couldn't have said something for 20 fucking minutes. da fuck outta here!
Asker

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@Other_Tommy_Wiseau I know, I probably should've said something. I don't really know why I didn't, but he also should've known better than to be so rough when he has such a big dick. No need to argue, it goes both ways...

Answer 12

Other_Tommy_Wiseau

shut up white knight. he's not a mind reader. she should've said something

Answer 13

reptocarl

@Other_Tommy_Wiseau he didn't ask either though did he

Answer 14

Other_Tommy_Wiseau

he did in the beginning

Answer 15

reptocarl

@Other_Tommy_Wiseau you know when your partner isn't enjoying it by the look on her face or sounds and I keep asking several times. But you and him wouldn't any of that because you never ask or look at her face. In you're just in it for you aren't you. You don't give a fuck do you

Answer 16

Other_Tommy_Wiseau

i also trust my partner will use that thing right under her nose that's conveniently used for communication. and like she said, she was fine with it and didn't mind it for a while. could he have asked? but don't tell me she couldn't have said something for 20 fucking minutes. da fuck outta here!

Answer 17

Asker

@Other_Tommy_Wiseau I know, I probably should've said something. I don't really know why I didn't, but he also should've known better than to be so rough when he has such a big dick. No need to argue, it goes both ways...

Answer 18

theus | 81 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

If a man has a big penis he needs to learn to use it carefully. He should have licked you out well and used lube if necessary. He really was quite selfish.

Answer 19

Anonymous

You can not re-tear your hymen, unless if wasn't properly teared before. The bleeding is probably some soft tissue tear in the vagina

Answer 20

paul6569 | 65 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 4

Maybe he have hurt ur cervix bad, if your Vagina is more short inside than his dick is long it maybe can happen!

Answer 21

RandomPerson1324

Xper 5

Probably tore it...

Do you mind answering...

Where did you meet each other?

Asker

+1 y
Lol, met on Badoo.
RandomPerson1324

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What did you like about him?

Was it just his pictures?
Asker

+1 y
No, I read his bio and he seemed like a nice enough guy. We got to talking and he seemed like a good candidate for a fuck buddy.
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RandomPerson1324

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What was it about his bio?

(Sorry for all the questions)
Asker

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I don't know, it had all the things you would normally look for: humor, confidence, etc.