Because that's his current style of being affectionate and seeing as how it sounds like you've never had a sit down calm, direct, matter of fact conversation not about what you don't like but what exactly you want, I suggest you do soonest:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex
A lot of women like knowing their man loves them but also really, really desires them. For them, being groped is reinforcement that he's still 100% hers.
How often do you have sex?
Couple things:
- if you're having sex way less then he wants, he's going to want sex every time you touch. there's a solution to this. It's have enough sex that you can then be affectionate on top of that and him not be horny.
I just don't feel like that is a possibility and the longer I feel like this, the less I want to have sex with him.
this is unfortunately not an uncommon vicious circle. The less you want sex, the less you have it, the more he's desperate all the time and jumps at any hint you might be open to sex, which makes you want affection less, which makes you want sex less. If you two don't deal with this, its going to get worse and worse and worse. How often are you two having sex? how often would he prefer it? How often do you initiate?
Since our baby was born 5 months ago, we have had sex 3 times, I think. Two times I had an allergic reaction the condoms we were using. The last time we used different ones and it was ok. I am just terrified of getting pregnant ever again. And I have been dealing with post partum depression, which I believe is partially caused by him. All of these things together make me not want sex. I do feel bad about it because I know he wants it, but he doesn't meet my needs either and I definitely make my needs known to him.
He's your husband, and if he makes you feel like a piece of meat, discuss it with him, air your feelings to him, he should be your first port of call to go talk to communication is key, sounds like you have a real problem that needs to be addressed, He doesn't understand because you have never told him how you feel, start now.
i get u. u might have to tell him that u dont like it.
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What does he say?
And maybe he has a high sex drive with no release? How often do you guys have sex?
Honestly not super often. We had a baby about 5 months ago and I have had a lot of hormonal issues since then. I am on antidepressants, which makes it hard because my sex drive is probably lowered. Also we have been struggling to find a good form of birth control, but I don't want anything that is going to mess my hormones up even more and I am allergic to a lot of condoms. We finally found a condom that works for us, but I am terrified about getting pregnant again if the condom rips. I love my baby, but I never want to go through this again. Sex is pretty infrequent. I am just not interested very often.
Well you can't blame him. He's trying to get you turned on again. It's not fair for you to be upset that he's trying to be sexual with his wife. You should be happy that he is attracted to you. The issue does not lie within him but you. You need to find a way to get yourself back to wanting sex. Change your meds, use protection so you eliminate the risk of pregnancy. Stop blaming your husband because he will feel inadequate and that might run the risk of him cheating or giving up.
I don't really feel like I can change my meds at this point. They are mostly helping me emotionally, except of course when he is not treating me the way I would like to be treated and I am sad about that. I feel like he should be more helpful and understanding considering the circumstances.
Have you ever brought it up? Probably not. If you don't let him know, he's going to keep down what he likes or what he thinks you like.
Guys are horny creatures and they express it mostly through physical contact.
Talk to him and not us.
SRS lol
Shame it is like that for you. If your husband caressed you, if he touched you with love in his heart, maybe you might feel his touch to be sweeter, softer, more caring. Divorce is ugly but necessary when the man you are with has you as a possession, not as a person he loves. Think about it.
cause he likes it?
honestly like ima touch my wife all the time and she'll like it too cause I'll be damn sure to choose a compatible partner
Communication, communication communication. Tell him this. If you don't tell us what you think or how you feel we don't know. He won't realize at all how you're feeling about this. Tell him you need more intimacy, cuddling whatever. If you have told him and he's just not doing it anyway then you have more issues to work on with your marriage in general.
Obviously HE only knows the correct way to kiss/hug a lover. It takes so long to train most gals, although some do know how and are pleasingly aggressive in feeling for what they want on a guy.
I'm only half kidding and gals are only into this half the time, certainly not after a long hard day at work. Eventually those gals in love/lust and treated well to dinner/dances and love on other levels eventually respond, some even in like kind and realize that even though this is somewhat driven by his little head sophomorically, he is full-in love/lust with only you and can't get enough of you
Cause if he wouldn't the relationship would lose all of it's sexual fire and you would now be writing "My husband never does anything sexual with me." or "Our sex life never is exciting and just plain stale"
why you feel like that? he is your husband you belong to him and he belongs to you ! touch him back, use the thing for your benefit not against you ! don't blame him later for seeking this thing from someone else !
I hate when women objectify them selves and make everything bigger than it should be and concentrate on the negative thing of everything !
he is your husband apparently you wasn't forced when you married him, you sworn the vows to be his and he to be yours, what's wrong is he doing? if he push you for sex and you was smart you can delay it by a simple smile or nice sexy talk, if he touches you you can enjoy it and give him a little kiss and act smart and you'll own him ! you have the pussy you make the rules ! no need for drama !
I'm not making a joke here but maybe you should have become a Nun. Hugging and Cuddling are forms of intimacy that lead to sex. Maybe you just wanted a live in friend or a pet but somehow ended up getting married. I'm sure he displayed the same behavior while you two were dating. So I'm confused as to how this has become an issue recently.
At any rate, most married women I know are often complaining that their Husbands don't touch them any more. It's seems obvious that he wants you and enjoys sex with you. Maybe his groping is his way of saying he wants to have more sex with you. I would suggest trying to increase the amount of sex you're having so his touching would be more minimal. Or join a convent.
But I don't feel like every physical interaction has to end with him playing with my boobs all the time.
Talk to him!.. Let him know you don't like to be objectified
whats groping?
he should probably do that with somebody else then
becuz that's the only way to touch someone
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