Is she a hoe or a freaky good girl?

[Anonymous]

Can't figure out this new girl I started seeing about 2 weeks ago. Met her off tinder and on our first date she was actually very nervous and super shy. I kissed her and she reciprocated, but at first she was hardly moving her lips because she was so nervous, she was even trembling a bit, yea that's how nervous (this happened on the second date as well). Anyway, we made out a couple more times and at the end of the date she literally pounced on me (it's like she couldn't get enough) and said she wanted to do netflix and chill as the second date.
After our first date she sent me a provocative pic (not nude) saying goodnight. Anyway we had our second date and we also had ice cream and went for a walk before she came over. Same thing, she was kind of shy (loosened up a bit though) and nervous (trembled again while we kissed). She's even too shy to order things herself. Anyway she seems like this super sweet and shy girl, but she seems freaky as fuck.
After our second date she started sending me a bunch of nudes and how she can't wait to see me and how badly she wants me, my cuddles, and my big dick, she keeps going on about it (I'm not saying that to gloat or anything, just making a point). We've been texting for the past week and have a date planned tomorrow (I've been way too busy to see her). She's practically begging for it at this point and is telling me how crazy wet she is, sending me all these pics, and now she just asked if I have lube because she wants to do anal. I seriously don't get this girl, on the outside she's this super timid and sweet girl, but inside she's a complete and utter horny sex freak. Just trying to figure her out since I've only known her for about 2 weeks. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I know a girl like that. Mad shy, but with a guy she's different. Seriously, she's embarrassing sometimes. Nobody ever recognises her as the same girl when they've seen her with her man because it's complete opposites. Some shy quiet girl, into a hoe.
And yes, she is a hoe. She's fucked tons of guys. And all the guys think she's a good girl at first.

But really, why would you even be asking? What "good girl" is jumping on you like that after 2 weeks. It makes no sense. You're dumb as the guys who fuck my friend haha. I say good on my friend though, I don't know or care about those guys, so whatever, if they're dumb enough to believe that it's on them haha.

[Shorty1991]

Hahaha! Yeah, what you moaning about?
Many guys want a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets. Don't class her as a whore unless you discover that she's been putting out to all the guys on the block. I think I'd be like this in a relationship, apart from being really clingy. That for me is an off putting quality for a SO to have. Sometimes I like to have my own space. Also 2 weeks is a bit early to be getting freaky with a guy I don't really know much about. It would be different if it was someone I had known for years. If you think she's being too clingy just tell her.

[Shorty1991]

I've also never had sex or been in a relationship either. Virgins can be knowledgeable you know, sex isn't exactly rocket science. She's probably got a lot of sexual frustration to let out, especially if she's held onto her V card for years. Your the lucky guy that gets to experience this with her and be her first. Or on the other hand she could be experienced and other guys maybe haven't lasted as long as 45 mins or have been under the average penis size. Shyness doesn't mean that they are incapable of getting sex. Shy people can fall for who ever takes them. by the hand.

[Asker]

Sorry, but as a late bloomer who read a shit ton of stuff about sex, it doesn't matter how much you read and know, you're going to be bad the first couple times. Experience has a lot to do with sex, it's like any sport. You can read about them all you want and know exactly what to do, it doesn't mean you'll do it properly though. There's no way she's a virgin though, not that it would make a difference. I'm not saying just because she's shy she can't be sexually adventurous, just surprised that she's dropped her walls for me this quickly. I guess she must really like me.

[Shorty1991]

I guess so. :) so you've kinda answered your own question now.

[BuchitaBuchys]

>Men complain that women shouldn't make them wait so many dates to get sexual.
>Women get sexual and men call her a hoe.
>Men then complain that women don't show enough interest in them or shouldn't wait to get sexual if she likes him.

Make up your minds! THIS is why women don't like being physical, even if they really want to, because of judgmental dudes like you. She's a "tease/prude" if she waits, but she's a slut and "not relationship material" if she gets to it. Interesting...
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[BuchitaBuchys]

Yes, I know women can be hypocritical too, and I point that shit out as well before you red pillers attack me.

[RustlingJimmies]

If she did it for you then a man would question how many other niggas did she do this for previously?

[Asker]

Read below, that's the only reason it's bothering me. I wouldn't care otherwise.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@RustlingJimmies what if she just really likes him?

[BuchitaBuchys]

@RustlingJimmies and why does it matter anyways if you like her?

[RustlingJimmies]

that's a possibility but so is the thought that she's done this before with other guys and is a legitimate concern of his.

[RustlingJimmies]

Because STD is a thing and many STD have asymptomatic periods but can still be passed on in sexual intercourse.

[Asker]

@RustlingJimmies exactly! Don't want to just be another number because I'm starting to like her. She's so sweet and caring and then there's this side to her. It's like dating two completely different people.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@RustlingJimmies um, you can be sexual and still safe. Ok, let's say she is clean but has been sexual before, why does it matter? she's showing genuine interest in him.

[Asker]

Also, I've gotten into long term relationships with girls that I've slept with on the first date so I don't mind if a girl is being sexual since it fits their personality. I've just never been with a girl that's this polar. This girl is CRAZY shy and timid, it's just such a clash and makes me think that something isn't adding up.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@asker why don't you ask her what or how she feels about you? Or even ask her to slow it down if you're not comfortable. I get that you don't want to be hurt, and I'd completely agree, but you should ask her how she feels about dating, casual sex, etc.

[Asker]

I know she's interested in me, but I don't know if she's only sexually interested in me or more and since I'm starting to catch feelings for her I don't want to stick around if it's just sexual.

[Asker]

I have done that and have told her that we should just take it a date at a time and get to know each other better and she said I know I just want to have fun and I do too, then minutes later she'll tell me she wants to do this and this with me eventually even though it's months down the line. She's sending me mixed signals, that's why I'm confused and I have tried to get it out of her but it's like she doesn't even know what she wants and neither do I at this point. Only thing I know is that she seems to genuinely like me because she's been super clingy and caring/sweet and that I'm starting to like her too.

[BuchitaBuchys]

That's completely understandable but you should really ask her how she views relationships.

[AustinMan]

She's a hottie who's reluctant to show her true colors for fear of being judged. And you're here judging her. She's a sexually active, hot and horny young woman. Can you handle that? Suspend your judgement, get in there, and be a respectful, dominant, passionate MAN!!

[Asker]

I'm seriously not judging her, I don't care what she is. I just want to know what she is so I'm not blind sided by anything since I'm starting to like this girl and don't want to get hurt. She's giving me mixed signals and I have tried figuring her out and have asked her, but what she says and what she does aren't in agreeance with each other. She knows I'm leaving in a year and told me not to expect anything, yet she's being clingy as fuck and doing things only girls who want to get into a relationship do. It just doesn't add up you know? She's even flat out told me that she knows it's weird to say after only 2 dates, but she really really likes me. I'm not dumb enough to show any of these insecurities through, I know what women want at this point in my life. I guess I'm going to continue going on dates with her with the sole purpose of having a fun time and just see how it develops.

[AustinMan]

I suggest you talk to her again but this time try the hints in this My Take I wrote:

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10152-how-to-talk-to-your-so-about-sex

Maybe this too will be helpful?

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a24301-how-to-ask-a-new-prospective-lover-for-sex-the-way-you-want-it

[AustinMan]

Great head combined with enthusiasm overcomes a world of other issues. Teach her. Turn her into the lover you want.

[miamigirl1970]

I have always said it is the shy quiet ones you have to be on the look out with... with us who are confident and straight up, we tell it like it is and do what we say, but the quiet ones, they can be freaky behind closed doors... maybe she is playing both sides because she doesn't know how you are, or how you will respond... best of luck on that DATE

[Smmyskittles]

At the end of f-cking day, do you like her & can you see a future with her?

No? Then f-cking leave.

Yes? Then f-cking stay.

[Asker]

Well I'm moving in a year so I don't see a real future with any girl I date. I do like her though, just worried that she's either way too into me too quickly or she's just playing the shy sweet girl and actually a freak hahaha

[Smmyskittles]

If she's a freak, she's YOUR freak. Make sure the woman knows that so damn well, it's engraved in her brain.

[RandomReindeer]

Can't figure out what your problem is :/

[Madds1544]

It just shows how into u she is cuz if she is naturally shy but is coming out like that around u should take it as a compliment she seems like she is just a naturally shy girl that has deep sexual side inside her which is a good thing it doesn't seem like she is playing u but u gotta decide that for urself but it just seems like she honestly has a freaky sexual side and she's getting comfortable around u

[Asker]

And if it is that, I wouldn't mind at all, I just worry that all that shyness is just a front and that she really does this all the time. Since I'm starting to catch feelings for her, even though it's so soon, I just want to protect myself in case she's not really a closet freak and just likes to make pretend that she's this super shy/timid girl.

[WildButterfly]

She sounds like a closet freak.

[Asker]

I wouldn't mind that at all and would actually love it. I just hope she's not actually just a freak and just pretends to be this timid/sweet girl to get guys hooked.

[WildButterfly]

It's possible to be genuinely shy/timid but be a huge freak in bed. It also doesn't mean she's like that with every single guy. Maybe you bring out the freak in her.

[Asker]

Maybe I do, I know she loves it that I'm pretty confident and like the man already who won't put up with any of her bs. Also, I might be her biggest (even though I don't consider myself big at all, just a tad above average, I'm actually really surprised at her excitement over my size since no girl has ever been like OMG is HUGE... I'm only 6.5" so yea, not that big). Plus we had sex for like 45min and she was stunned at how long it went on for and how that was the longest she's ever done it for while for me it's pretty average. Maybe I do bring out that side of her.

[WildButterfly]

Yes my point exactly. It's into YOU. Don't assume she'd be like this with any random guy that show her some interest.

[Alej27]

From what u sayband not knowing her it is hard to tell. It could be either way being on tinder means she is looking for someone but doesn't mean she is easy... sending crqzy pictures like this... and not knowing u... is a bit dumb on her part... i guess she can be a good girl but a freak in bed... just take your time and figure it gor yourself. If it doesn't feel right then it i probably not. Be safe

[Tatanum]

I'd say she is a shy person but she let down her guard for you but she shouldn't. I'm not saying you're not worth it, don't misunderstand but her actions may make you think low of her... I know what I'm talking about. She should've waited more.

[Asker]

Yea that's what's throwing me off, if she waited a bit more until she got to know me more and then did all these extra things I wouldn't think twice about it. It's just that I don't feel like I deserve all of this attention she's giving me, it's just a bit too much too soon and it makes me wonder if this is a common trait with her. She's completely thrown herself at me way too soon, we hardly know each other yet she's letting all her freak out.

[Tatanum]

Yes but us girls get attached way faster. It's something we cannot control, if we like someone and he shows interest in us then it means that the deal is sealed but it takes longer for guys to get attached. I learnt that very recently and I can't say more but she probably thought she knows you enough when it's not true. Just show her that it's not the right time or hint to her that she gave herself to easily and she'd hopefully understand.

[Tatanum]

**too

[annalori]

I know what a freaky good girl is like. It's someone who respects herself and is a lady in public. Someone you would want to bring to meet all of your family and someone that you are proud to show off. Someone who is confident and can make their own phone call? Lol. It's when she gets to the the 'bedroom' with HER MAN that the freaky side should come out. Freaky is amazing, but she has to have more to offer. Not the average mediocre blowjob here and there. She sounds dysfunctional.

[SovereignessofVamps]

She really sounds too eager, but lots of girls are like this xD we can be gigantic perverts even though on the outside it may not seem like it.

[SovereignessofVamps]

And yeah, if she's bragging she's probably inexperienced and totally vanilla! That's why it's good NOT to brag.

[SovereignessofVamps]

Oh...45 minute sex though? I'd say if you did start and stop sex that'd be true. But on average without stopping or slowing down guys usually last less than 10 minutes. So I'd think she was bragging depending on what she said. So disagree with you there asker. Lots of guys if they don't care or even have an issue can't even last 2 minutes.

[BeautifulPromisesx]

Isn't that the best of both worlds? A lady in the streets a freak in the sheets?

[Asker]

I'm just trying to figure her out because I'm starting to catch feelings for her and don't want to have them if it turns out that she's only interested in sex. I wouldn't care otherwise, but yea, it's only because I'm starting to like her. I'm just trying to protect myself from getting hurt.

[heavenlyhannah]

Don't smash! It seems to me that she's clingy and just wants sex but it's your call. I think she does the sweet and shy thing to gain your fondness of her. She wants the D.

[Kellibabe]

she's not a "hoe" she sounds like a shy girl until she has the safety from behind her fone and not face2face...

[Autumn-Bunny]

Furck people! Learn the definition of a ho. She's only a ho when you pay her for sex.
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nouninformal
a prostitute.
derogatory
a woman.

[Luci160999]

Do not call her a hoe. You should be glad that she likes you so much that she can not control herself. You should continue dating her and see what happens.

[abc--123]

She sounds perfect. Marry her

[Anonymous]

Boy, you'll never figure her out. She is called the femme fatale. Enjoy her while you can!

[Opinion Owner]

Also, look up Madonna-whore complex. That is what you have. Freud thought it stems from developmental issues regarding the mother figure. Every woman is both though, just depends on who you are. Does she really like you... this one obviously does.

[redeyemindtricks]

So much no... Femmes-fatales NEVER "chase". Nor are they overly demonstrative or "desperate". Nor do they give any more of themselves than *exactly* what is necessary to keep their target men enraptured. Think... Mata Hari. Ask yrself whether Mata Hari would have done *any* of the things mentioned above.

[Asker]

No, that doesn't sound like her. I've been around women like that before and have gotten chewed up and spit out by them, she doesn't remotely resemble them, she's different. Hell, no femme fatal woman wants to settle down yet this girl basically wants to be a house wife and absolutely loves children.

[redeyemindtricks]

Asker -- If you get into a relationship, or even just a "situationship", with this girl... you probably won't be able to break up with her effectively without COMPLETELY gutting and re-doing yr contact information, social media, daily habits, etc. You might even have to move, and be protective of yr new address for a while. Note, I said "probably". She might find another boy to glom onto. But... yeahhhh... this ain't just "clingy". This is the beginning of an *obsession*. Mark my words. There's nothing wrong with being sexually forward and aggressive -- that's the only way I've EVER started a relationship, and all of my relationships have been good (for me at least, mahah) -- but, that's not the same as what you're describing.

[Opinion Owner]

@redeyemindtricks funny how nobody talking about his complex... i must have hit a good nerve!!

[redeyemindtricks]

There's that, too -- but, a woman can be sexually aggressive without being weirdly desperate about it. *That* doesn't have to do with the madonna/whore thing. Agreed, though, that guys who actually think in terms of "madonnas" and "whores" are idiots, and deserve the boring/frustrating sex lives they'll inevitably end up with.

[Asker]

@redeyemindtricks Really? I've been with plenty of women in the past and ones that were clearly slutty and I knew their sexual history, this is completely different. I don't care if a girl is slutty, I really don't. I just don't know what category she falls into and I think that's a fair call on my part. People aren't usually this polar. She's probably a type of girl that I've never been with before, it's new and I'm trying to understand her so I know what to expect. I don't just want to go into something blindly and end up getting hurt. Believe it or not, but it hurts guys too if they like a girl and she turns out just wanting to use him. It's happened in the past and I don't want it to happen again, hence why I'm trying to figure her out. Put yourself in my shoes, wouldn't you want to know if the guy you're starting to get feelings for is a player or not if he's sending you mixed signals? She has told me not to expect anything and wants to have fun, yet her actions and her being

[Asker]

clingy say otherwise. I've spoken about this with a couple friends as well and they know EVERYTHING and they're still not sure themselves. My roommate and his girlfriend tell me that she's just telling me what she thinks I want to hear, but really is looking for a relationship. I have spoken to her about this, but she wasn't being clear. It's also too early for me to push this more since then I'll just come off as desperate and insecure. Also, I still don't know what I want from us dating because I don't really know her well enough. I hope that clears you up on why this is a dilemma for me and not me just being a judgmental prick.

[redeyemindtricks]

Yeah -- again -- it's not the sexual forwardness that raises flags for me; it's the weird desperation with which she's just *throwing* everything at you. Even things that are completely uninvited, like the lube/anal thing. Tf? I'm not thinking through some rational step-by-step logic here dude. I'm just thinking back on women I've known who were like this -- and on the experiences of *men* I know who became embroiled in "Situations" with women like this -- and, yeah, there was a pretty clear pattern of stalker-level clingy obsession, there. Keep yr eyes open. If you decide to keep seeing her... Try out some "small disappointment" -- like, backing out of plans for mysterious/unarticulated reasons -- and see whether she TOTALLY FLIPS OUT on you. If she does... True colors.

[Asker]

@redeyemindtricks Yea my roommate has told me the same thing and his girlfriend said that she's been with guys in the past that have raised similar flags. That's why I'm worried. Well I have disappointed her a couple times because I've been so ridiculously busy this week that I haven't been able to give her much her attention and she's been pretty good about it and has respected my space for the most part. I don't know, I'm just going to take it a date at a time to see how this pans out.

[redeyemindtricks]

Good luck.

[Opinion Owner]

As far as I can see it you who is really into her. Perhaps more than she into you since you're the one posting questions on gag. LOL

[Asker]

hahahaha that's true, I am getting a bit attached and it's very early. However, she's really into me as well.

[Opinion Owner]

So enjoooy dude and don't think too much !

[Anonymous]

She probably is just really shy and anxious and what not but feels she can be her self around you, you should talk to her and ask her about her sexual history first to make sure what you're getting your self into , but most girls are this way, they are extremely shy but once you get them wet they bring out their sex side it's actually kinda normal in some cases but you should talk to her bout her sexual pass