Why are White Guys ❤ Black Girls, more accepted than Black Guys ❤ White Girls?

[Anonymous]

- White guy is praised for being open minded, soulful etc.
#blk guy is betraying his race, weak for a blk woman and wants a woman he can boss around.

- Media favors this kind of inter race couple
- More movies with black main girl, having white love interest
- More Ads in stores, bilboards, commercials etc, of white husbands, black wife and mixed children.
#Extreme criticism over media portraying blk men w/ white women.

- When a white guy flirts with a black girl, our friends are like, "ooo!"
#blk guy flirts with wht girl? Eye rolls & rude comments.

- It does not bother his white parents to marry a black girl. I have been told how excited said step mothers are, for "carmel" babies.
#is known to bother parents when a blk guy is brought home.

- Couple is called exotic, cute, kinky and beautiful.
#bm/ww is called trashy, ugly, and the woman a slut.

- He is an upgrade in status, wealth, society and guranteed to be an excellent hubby and dad.
#he is a downgrade, will leave her and child.

- He will marry you indefinitely.
#HA.

- He will lavish you, romantic, more sensitive and thoughtful.
#cheap dates, lower class living, selfish

- won't cheat.
#Has several side girls, baby mamas etc

My cuz who dates wht girls, gets a lot of crap that has never happened to me in dating white men.
It feels similar to a Cinderella thing, as blk women were nobody in US. Society like the evil step mother. White men being unatainable since "princes" dont date "peasants" But thats the allure of that romance, two opposite placed people falling in love. Not sure to put a foot on it, but I have never faced criticism, bullying and harrassment like my cuz and his white girlfriend.
One time some black guy said I was, quote, "the Masters bitch," which got his jaw broken by my white boyfriend. We also get told that Im like a fetish to him? Which he dont get because fetish turns you on, so all men have a fetish for women lol other than that, people can't wait for us to marry and have "carmel" babies?

[Anonymous]

I'm a white guy and race has never deterred me from being a retracted to a woman, BUT I've noticed when I've taken a black girl on a date race seems to be a BIG issue for her. For example, the last black girl I took on a date asked numerous times before we went out if I had ever "been" with a black girl before and if black girls were my "type." I told her attractive women were my "type" I don't care about race. On our date the race issue was something she continually brought up. This totally turned me off. So when I went a couple weeks without seeing her, her first accusation, before she suggested maybe I was seeing someone else was "Do you not want to see me anymore because I'm black?" That pretty much sealed it. I'm not necessarily arguing against your point, but it seems to be an issue regardless of which race the man or woman is.

[Shakeandroll86]

The reason she asked these questions because she didn't want to be the fallback girl, your second option if you couldn't get a white girl. Black women worry about things like this... why wait weeks to respond to her? It makes you seem uninterested in her. I think it was wrong of her to bring up race as the reason you not getting back to her though.

[cherryphi82]

Yeah, this is typical. Black women act it up but in truth are highly insecure

[Opinion Owner]

@Shakeandroll86 We were still in contact during those couple weeks, but she was busy one weekend and I was busy the next. And truthfully, how much she seemed to care about race leading up to and on our first date was a huge turn off. Relationships in today's world are complicated enough, so if race is that big of an issue to you, it is only going to complicate things further. She kinda proved that when she asked if I didn't want to see her because she's black. To be honest, it's now left me hesitant to go out with a black girl again.

[Opinion Owner]

@cherryphi82 that definitely seems plausible, but If you're insecure about something you can't change (and something as silly as race), that's a self-worth issue you should examine before trying to date.

[cherryphi82]

Oh, I agree wholeheartedly. It's not on you to sort out that issue.

[Afrochick]

I personally asked questions along these lines for my safety and prevention of dating a fetishists or down-low racist. lol I get it's annoying but you wouldn't understand.

[Afrochick]

@cherryphi82 Stay in your lane Becky. White women always have to insert themselves into black issues... you probably are highly insecure yourself and date Black men. Yeah we are the insecure ones when y'all STAY getting deathly tanning, lip injections, ass shots, and culturally appropriating black hairstyles. Girl, Bye.

[cherryphi82]

@Afrochick If it's my man, it's my fucking issue. How about you stay in yours, Sheniqua. Culturally appropriation my ass. As long as people like Nicki Minaj, little Kim and O'neal Morris exist, you can get the hell out of her with your ridiculous accusations.

[Shakeandroll86]

@Afrochick once black women get in the picture white women start getting real insecure, just ignore her we're better than her.

[Opinion Owner]

@Afrochick I see what you're saying, but it seemed if anyone had a race fetish it was her. She said direct quote-- "I only like to date white guys." I'm not in anyway saying her feelings/behaviors represent all black women, but she certainly made me feel uncomfortable and made race an issue. Which is why I chose to no longer pursue anything with her.

[cherryphi82]

@Afrochick www.lennyletter.com/.../kim-kardashian-black-women-plastic-surgery

[Afrochick]

Cherry, worry about your crows feet and laugh lines.

[Asker]

White people were never treated harshly. Whites were always supported beauty wise, stability wise, political etc. People did and still do directly tell minorities that whites are superior, that we ugly, worthless etc But the most hard thing, was the little things. It was seeing only white women depicted as beautiful. Only having to pick white dolls to play with. Not seeing darker colors for your skin in the makeup aisle. Having to hide our hair. It was common to always draw ourselves or depict ourselves as white. I dont think youve ever cried because you felt so ugly being your race. We did. Im glad things are more diverse now, but thats where the insecurity came from, social conditioning. We adapted but some black girls like your date had not. Im sorry, it was a hard thing to get past like 100+ years of that. My boyfriend rear-ended someone staring at me from his car the day we met. It was a small crash and I got out to see if he was okay. Love and Geico.

[ausmaster]

Honestly, this is why I feel like TV as a whole has been BS lately. They push this kind of mindset.

I have no problem with this. Go get any sort of man you want. It's freedom.
Weird how its coming from the same people who say "Love who you want to love" when they're talking about Gay Marriage but then they do stuff like this. Now they're looking more like the intolerant ones.

[Asker]

Exactly!!!

[Anonymous]

I don't know why all this became an issue personally i used to think race is not an issue, until i started dating white guys and my black females friend would freak out on that, i hate all this bullshit going on, i mean its just two people dating why all the racist bs thing.

[Asker]

Yep, they flipped out more on my cuz but had nothing racist to say before we dated out. Its sad, because MLK was all for us being united as one people. How do you praise MLK with the same mouth that is hostile to the world he envisioned?

[Afrochick]

Black women NEED to stop being race loyal to a bunch of men who abandoned ship 50 years ago.

[MlleCake]

Oh, it's totally about historical racism and sexism.

Date who you like because you both like each other. It's all good.

[close2heaven]

I've only every known women that will only go for black guys, it's fucked up.

[KimmyWhimmy]

I love black guys! U should too

[close2heaven]

@KimmyWhimmy I'm not at all judging. we all have preferences and I think have to keep an open mind and not be askew too far and the fact the a lot of people don't is what I think is fucked up (and remember the fact that not all women are into guys...)

[jmorrow]

I believe it depends where you live. I'm from Omaha, Nebraska. It's very diverse here and not many people care who dates who. But when you do hear something, it's never a guy who gets put down. Unfortunately, and this doesn't represent my feeling about it, but when when someone gets but down it is always a white woman for dating a black man.

[watercolor_lions]

I don't see it that way? When I see a good black man and a nice white girl, I think "how nice".

As long as the two look like decent citizens of society, instead of thugs, I really don't care.

[Goddess_Gag18]

I neve gave that a thought. I'm now seeing more and more couples who are "intertwined" on commercials being in ads together. Now this is real refreshing.

[kittycat119]

I don't know but I experienced a lot of this when I was with my ex. I always got criticised by his friends, my friends or my parents. But I noticed no one cared about our white friend who was dating a black girl

[MrKinktastic]

I live up in Canada where there are some issues but the divide is a lot less than down in the states so its a bit different up here but:

I was always under the impression it was black women and occassionally insecure white men who were giving white women grief over dating black men and vice versa?

I've only had the opportunity to date one black woman so far, not many seem to show much interest in me so I haven't approached many, but nobody really gave us grief, to our faces anyways. Though to be fair people don't tend to bother me much in general.

[Slish357]

Even Chris Rock had a hilarious comedy bit where he says that when it comes to black guys who are dating white girls, black girls become more racist than white southern fathers and that they feel those white women are stealing all the good black men. This reminded me of that bit.

[Asker]

Lol I kno what you are referring to. It is true, black women got really aggitated, moreso at the black guys. The black guys are actually normal men but black women can be very mean and strain the relationship. My boyfriend told me he always liked black women, but not their attitudes. He asked me on a date because he said I was much more gentle and less aggressive. The blk girls who complain llike that, are usually mean anyway

[Slish357]

People can be weird sometimes

[TheCunningLinguist]

Black women are given far more grief by the black community than black men. They are called nasty names like "Bedwench" andcare told it's their responsibilty to have pure black babies while black men get to be with who ever they choose.

[Asker]

I've only lived the opposite in which black men are met with insults like that. I got the bedwench type one, but not nearly as much as my cuzins girlfriend gets called a white trashy slut

[TheCunningLinguist]

Wow, where do you live?

[Cwazzycwafter]

I feel like this image summarized pretty well what I cannot put into words

[RolandCuthbert]

The Psychology of Men Who Are Racially Black Having to Proclaim Their Refusal to Date "Black" Women ↗

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[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Dunno, it’s one of the stigmas I’m used to my entire life and it never slowed me down.

I date whoever catches my eye, I don’t play favoritism, it’s simply early bird gets the worm. People can think all they want , I could careless because the only opinion that matters is the one of my girlfriend.

I dated plenty of races plus my own in the past and everyone thinks I should give a fuck about the opinions of strangers. My friends and my family support me so that’s all I care for.

[biancahemmings]

W. O. R. D. S

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Haha thanks 🙃

[Ellie-V]

Black men tend to detest black women, so maybe that’s why.

[cherryphi82]

I think that says more about the people you're around. You can marry a white guy and he gets the praise because he's white, not because of the woman he's with.

[JDavid25]

I have noticed that especially in the media.. They show more "White" men "Black" women couples in movies, and commercials.. That could be in certain areas, and because "Black" men are painted as more thuggish, and animistic..

[Maik567]

This goes both ways. Plenty of black families where it's fine for the boys to date out of their race but if the daughters show any interest in other races they're threatened to get disowned.

[Afrochick]

Very true.

[Patrickjv]

Uh what planet do you live in?

[Patrickjv]

On**

[Asker]

Mars lol

[MrMilti]

Because: 'Murrica!

[Asker]

Yeeeeah!!!

[ipecaclust]

Why you're fucking racist.

[Asker]

yeah totally racist lol Im sorry I love all people. Ill try to be more hateful

[ipecaclust]

No. Because the shit you're talking about is crap. Some of the stuff you said is actual shit people say. But the further down the list the further you're stretching and showing that you think black guys aren't good dads and can't provide and all have side hoes. You're racist.

[KimmyWhimmy]

@ipecaclust chill she is just saying what she feels that other people say about black man and white woman

[ipecaclust]

Yeah but she's a white woman saying it.

[ipecaclust]

And she's putting words into the mouths of everyone assuming that they say things because its what she thinks

[ipecaclust]

Aka. Racist. As an African American I find that bullshit fucking disgusting.

[ipecaclust]

Propagating negativity

[watercolor_lions]

If you're reading into what she is saying, aren't you putting words into her mouth?

[biancahemmings]

I really find interracial relationships soo cute tho❤❤❤💚💛💜💙💖💟💗💘💝💞💕💗

[aceOFJokers]

Becsuse its like taming a lion for a white guy to get a black girl