Why can't I orgasm with my bf?
I feel like there's something wrong with me but he feels like there's something wrong with him. And I don't know what to do to make it better. I've never orgasmed due to someone else's manipulation.
Its pretty normal for young women and it usually goes away as you get more confident through experience. It can be a big hit for a guys ego but sometimes the woman simply is not quite ready for sex. She might be feeling insecure or have unreasonable expectations of what she must do etc.. Mostly its subtle things you might not notice but as you get more used to sex and also your partner you learn to open up and enjoy it more.
i dont think im insecure, me and him communicate pretty well i think
Well I practically know nothing about you so I can't say why exactly just that this sort of thing usually just works itself out.
Well some people have trouble orgasming with their partners if its a mental thing you could try masturbating while he is in the room and after you few times you have done that and reached orgasm maybe start letting him help🤔maybe that will let you relax and not be that tense but who knows I am no expert😆
There is nothing wrong with either of you, just pressure, you just need to break the pattern. One day try getting yourself off by yourself, then call him into the bedroom when you're close. Or invite him in to watch if you think you'd be comfortable. See if that works. Good luck.
that's actually a good idea, I thought about that but I thought I might get nervous with him there. Like even when we do stuff over facetime I can't reach orgasm
It's a start... maybe have a strong drink before lol Best of luck to you.
haaha i'll try, thanks
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if he doesn't, i dont know what to say to guide him
Does he do anything to your clit? If he's just fingering you and lapping it up down there, no wonder you're not orgasming!
She wrote he goes down and her though so that's not the problem.
@Aislin9 So what? That doesn't mean he does anything to her clit.
What else would he be doing down there? lol
Can you do it for yourself? What do you do? Can you teach him?
could be a mental block. Is there any reason you can think of that might hold you back mentally from fully "letting go"?
i think i'm nervous and feel under pressure to not take to long so he doesn't get tired or something
that seems to be a common thing for lot of girls, just try not to focus on the end result, and just relax and enjoy the sensations in the moment. Do you meditate or do any kind of mindfulness techniques? (outside the bedroom I mean) it might help bring your focus into the moment rather than being in your head. And as for the pressure you feel to "not take too long", maybe make an agreement with him that if either of you are getting tired and want to stop, you'll just give a signal to end the session there. That way it takes the pressure off, coz you won't be thinking "is he bored with this?", coz if he's tired he'll just raise the signal and stop.
that's very helpful thank you :)
Have him lick you and play with your body as you finish yourself. That way he still feels involved.
It's normal if you allow it to become normal. You need to discuss this with him
Your clitoris need to get nice lick to make you screaming orgasm..
Can you bring yourself to orgasm?
yes i can do it by myself
By how, masturbation?
yeah what else
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