I want a baby but my husband doesn't should I stop my birth control and try to get pregnant?

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bluehen46 · Accepted Answer

NO< NO NO. bad idea. I am very sorry for you. Did you talk before hand? I really want kids but my wife and i tried and it just was not in the cards part of it was she really did not have much of an interst in sex after i married her. Now there were some injuries involved but she would not even wank me or do oral and even pushed me away when i put my head down there. She feels if she is not intrested i should not be and that is not how it should work. 17 years in is probably why we are still together and i know she would love me no matter whta even if i were in a wheel chair she would stay with me and there are not many women like that.

If overall you are happy definitely not trick him. Now if you are not i hate to see a relationship end but sadly it does sometimes happen when parties want different things and it is has to its better to end sooner than later.

integrale77 · Accepted Answer

Not a good idea to stop without telling him he's liable to leave you.
I would understand you not wanting to take responsibility for the birth control at this point though the pill can mess up your hormones, so you might want to suggest you husband take responsibility over birth control just don't start poking holes in his condoms.

If you switch to a barrier method of birth control if he does change his mind on a whim then you have better chance to capitalise on that.

Finally before you change anything talk it through

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Don't you dare. That's sneaky and wrong!
Have you asked your husband WHY he doesn't want a baby?

See folks, this is why you need to address matters like this before you get serious or get in a committed relationship, to make sure you and your partner share the same wants and ideals.
You don't marry someone before finding out if they want kids or not.

Talk to him and see why he feels that way. He might not feel the time is right now, or maybe he wants you to himself for a while before having a child.

MissDawn7961 · Accepted Answer

if your husband does not want a baby and you do and you get pregnant , then he can either force you to have an abortion or he could kill the baby once the child Is born ! to bad you did not ask him about having a family with him before you married him ! thanks

All4ur_pleazure · Answer

Are you looking to get divorced? Seriously you should talk to him first about why he doesn’t want a child. Not sure how long the two of you have been married but I’d like to think you’ve had some in depth conversations about children.

potatoiswhoiam · Answer

No, that's selfish. Before you say "but he's selfish too", as long as he does want kids in the future, just not rn, it's not.

AustinMan · Answer

Only if you want to raise the child all by yourself. What an arrogant and selfish idea!! A child is an 18 year decision. He deserves an equal vote. Talk him into it. Be calm and patient.

PonyCarGirl98 · Answer

Nooo 😩 Ugh. Maybe you should have had this conversation BEFORE you got married...

NamerOfStars · Answer

Absolutely not. Yes, you probably could, and the law would likely be on your side, but the best case scenario is that you'll destroy your husband's ability to trust you and bring an unwanted child into a loveless marriage that only exists because he doesn't want the kid to grow up without a father. Does that sound good to you?

Lliam · Answer

If I knew your husband, I would tell him what a dishonest person you are. If I was him, I'd stop having sex with you immediately and file for divorce. I wouldn't want to be stuck with your kid.

QooLipBite · Answer

If you do that, I hope he leaves your ass and makes you take care of the baby himself.

Why the fuck would you drag him into something he doesn’t not want to be part of?

like honestly, if the child isn’t brought up properly, it’s on you. It’s a LIFE for fuck sake, not just some toy that you can acquire for a few years and then dispose of it. Once it’s there, it’s there for YOUR entire lifetime.

matchrestore · Answer

No. You need to both agree to wanting children. Stopping birth control without telling him is a major violation of trust.

mistixs · Answer

No. That is dishonest.

EmmaMary · Answer

Sure go right ahead, and then look forward to a "happy" divorce.

TheLittleInnocent · Answer

No I think you should consider your husband in this... maybe you should sit down and ask him why he doesn’t want a baby. Because he could have his reasons🤷🏽‍♀️

SjE78 · Answer

if you do that to make him make you pregnant then technically that is unconcentual and if you both split and it has a high percentage chance that it will result in that you could end up losing a court battle that can and will end in a messy way

1CentWorth · Answer

Well, that's what women do. Sneaky women. be careful... sometimes ends badly.

boggboss · Answer

Clearly not don't be a retard

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

No, don't do that. The consequences may be undesirable later if your husband happens to learn about your decision and you end up being pregnant.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

so you want to Spurgler your spouses baby juice then. does he just not want a baby yet? or is it he does not one at all? should have been a topic to talk about before marriage.

Agape93 · Answer

No that’s fucked up

Apope16 · Answer

I wrote this mytake and you can see in the comment section that everyone attacked me and said that women dont play games and intentionally have children without a father. Well this is proof positive of how women think. They have no regard for a child and having a child grow up in a household with a loving father who actually wants a child. You need to divorce your husband. You guys should have agreed to children BEFORE getting married. Why did you marry him? Was it resources or wealth? Dont you realize that married is for a lifetime, not for alimony money or child support? No. YOu should not stop taking birth control. You need to break up and find a husband that wants kids.