Guys, Why do you seem to only be attracted to most of us women sexually and not want anything more out of us?

[ArArii__]

What are we doing wrong?

[Dargil]

What I'm about to say is not about blame. It is about human nature. Males have always been sexual opportunists. Males have always objectified and sexualized women. The Creator designed males that way as a reproductive strategy.

Look at the animal world. Look at birds. It is the way of the world. The Creator programmed them with mating routines. Plumage, dances, fighting, etc., while females looked on and passed judgment. The difference between us and them is that we were not programmed and are self aware.

As a result, cultures have taught women to be the gatekeepers of sexuality. Since we do not have instinctive mating routines, males have always had to earn sexuality. Civilized, respect behavior. Usefulness. Good personal habits. Reliability. Patience. The sexual contract was sexuality in exchange for good male behavior. Civilization was built on this.

But in Western society, that historic relationship is gone except from the upper classes. They still stay out of trouble, get educated, get good jobs, get married and have children in that order. Hollywood, the mass media, government schools and most universities have taught women to believe they are men except for boobs and sexual plumbing; with the same appetites and rhythms. Cosmopolitan magazine and even this forum are in that mix. This will not change until women reacquire their roles as gatekeepers of sexuality and not give it up quickly and cheaply to fit in to the scene or measure up to men. That loss of control over sexuality is why we have the mess we are in.

Some time back, I created a "My Take" entitled: The 10-date rule. Filtering out players, predators and hit-and-runs. It created a process by which young women could throttle back sexuality so as to tie it to developing a relationship. Needless to say it was adaptable to an actual situation, but it provided a framework. The WW2 generation would laugh at this as being far too fast. But in today's dating battlefield, it is glacial.
Here it is.
Girls: The 10-date rule. Filtering out players, predators and hit-and-runs.

[centerline]

because we have a basic urge to have orgasms... and all the other stuff about you that isn't sex can be assumed as being baggage and get in the way of our urges... if it werent for willing women, we would have to resort to using our hands, or find a willing guy to help us out... but you women are much better looking and can do anything that another guy can do for us... and as good as our hand feels, its always better if someone else is sharing the experience...

if it wasn't for the romance and feelings that you women want/need with the sex we share, guys would never jack off ever again, but just snap our fingers a couple times a day and have you assume the position... it would take us only a few minutes and then we would be back to work... but Nooooo! you women like us to show some romance, some tenderness and gentle touching, and spend some time cuddling before and after the deed... sometimes we dont have time for all that so we just squirt a load by hand and get back to our daily activities... it sounds crude, but its all true...

[normalice]

It's nothing to do with you, but rather a sort of desperate self absorption on our part. We are told that other guys get lots of ass, while many of us get very little. But each of us also wants lots of ass, and the belief that it must be possible (because guys be better than us accomplish it) keeps us in pursuit.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

The women before you turn guys into that, because they give up chasing something that doesn't give.

[boredguy01]

I think the availability of casual sex is the main reason. It's easy for most guys to hookup with women casually so they don't want to put in the time and effort it takes to have a real relationship.

[jkm1864]

Your just running into the wrong men. I personally find women mysterious so I ask a lot of questions so I can learn what makes them tick. I also prefer to have sex when I'm completely comfortable which takes quite a long time and many questions later.

[Don-_-Don]

If you look too sexy then most men will just look at you as a sexual object, a pump and dump. UNLESS you have the personality to back it up.

[MiamiMadness]

You have to find a guy who wants more then that so maybe make them wait for it so you know what their intentions are?

[Ripper_E]

Maybe there is nothing more to you or whatever more There is to you is not worth committing to. That or you pick the wrong guys.

[chriscdi]

that depends on the guy

[AdithyaR]

You're probably seeing the wrong guys.
I'm personally the opposite and will only be sexually attracted once I develop a mental or intellectual connection with the girl.

[Dchrls78104]

Either giving yourselves away too easily, or else being impossible; either compromising too much or too little; either being too needy or too distant; some women objectify themselves by looking at the man's wallet or penis.