Will you break up with a partner who watches porn?

[Anonymous]

What would you say about this?

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

Personally, no I would not. But, I do have female friends that have found their significant other watching porn and it seriously disrupted their relationship.

I guess it would be more of a personal preference than anything. Porn can be a great tool in the intimate part of the relationship. Most couples try to hide the fact they watch porn from each other for different reasons. Like they are watching very taboo stuff, they are ashamed of what they are watching, they might be with someone that isn't kinky enough in the bed and they are looking for spice and fun, or they feel guilty for watching other naked people. Some feel it is an image thing, like you want to be viewed as a good wholesome person and porn would make you feel like a deviant.

I was in a relationship with a girl that watched gay men porn. Sure said that it was very stimulating to watch one guy submit top another guy. We never watched it together but it didn't bother me at all. She knew I watched porn but back then it was a very narrow genre field unlike now.

It all just depends on the person, the one person could be jealous of their mate looking at other naked women. Especially if their bedroom time has diminished to almost nothing. Or they are worried that their mate might go find someone that could do what they saw in a porn video.

Trust, open communication, and understanding are what is needed in this type of situation. Knowing your partner watches porn and avoiding the topic is what starts the rock slide of anger and despite emotions.

[GreenGold1992]

Not totally sure about that. The last time I was in a relationship, I stopped watching porn and masturbation simply because I was so happy with her that it never seemed to cross my mind the whole time. As to her watching porn, I don't know if she did or not, but hypothetically speaking, if my next girlfriend did watch porn regularly, I probably shouldn't let it bother me, but on the other hand I might feel insecure that she might be watching it because I probably may not be satisfying her enough. I wouldn't break up with her, but I would at least discuss it with her.

[btbc92]

I wouldn't even date somebody who watches porn. Because once marriage hits and you have sex he will not be happy with you and may force you into sex practices that hurts you sexually. No way. That is the #1 deal breaker. Porn and masturbation besides premarital sex. He'll no. They will go elsewhere who is willing to tolerate that.

They will know right away that I do not. That's why I do not believe in being strangers. Number one reason why I only believe in dating friends because you get to see this and notice right away. Woth strangers they always hide. Business first, lovey dovey later when I know I'm compatible with the right person.

[jadspop]

Uhm... Maybe if you were a little more accepting of people... YOU'D be that other person who they go to that accepts them... Or rather... They wouldn't feel the need to go off somewhere else... It sounds like the simple version of what you said... I'd no you wouldn't date anyone who watches porn cuz eventually they will realize what your not giving them... If that's the case then maybe your just using this to cover up your own issues... Not even addressing your since less accusation that if he watches porn hell cheat on you in marage... If he's going to cheat on you when your not giving him sex anymore it has nothing to do with the fact he watched porn... If he really cares then he wouldn't cheat.. no ifs and or buts about it... But I'm assuming your basing these facts on your previous mariges? Like I said in my post... If who you are you just don't like your partner watching it... That's fine... But don't vilify him for it... Most men enjoy porn in some form of another. So it may be hard to find a guy that dosent partake... Even in your friends group... Cuz the younger the generation the harder it's going to be too find that

[btbc92]

First of all. I am not going to be with a person who spiritually fornicates themselves. I honestly don't care. God is not going to put me with a person who does things that is not acceptable. What issues am I covering up? I am a virgin. I don't watch pornography. I don't masterbate. I respect sex. I respect men. I respect myself. So I'm going to be with a person who's going to disrespect me? First of all that's a quick way for me to actually not be with that person sexually. I know my business as a wife and that's to be with my husband sexually. If he even there's messed with that he's not getting any sex. I'm not being disrespected. You're already cheating just by watching sex. And not its spiritual abuse. I have never been married. Therefore I will not be with a person who does those things. Not every man watches porn so don't speak for all men. Thank God I know better that you only be with one person not them all. And first of all not all of my friends was watching pornography either. That's why I wasn't even going to date them. So don't go around assuming and generalizing people. You want to live with that whoredoms and filth you go right on ahead.

[btbc92]

I don't like guys like you that do. You people are really screwed yourself up. So why am I going to be with a person who basically sexually screwed themselves up to the point that never going to be really happy with just you? That's not how sex supposed to go. I am accepting that. That's what having standards is for. That's what having morals is for. A worldly man is not attracted to me and the story. I wouldn't have sex out of marriage in the first place. I respect myself that's why I've always kept myself. So I already know what type of guys I am dealing with. Somebody who's going to treat you like garbage because you're not performing the way how he wants you to. That's sick. If I treat a guy like that because I done the same thing I would be considered a whore. I am not a man's whore.

[btbc92]

I ain't accepting that* I find it even more embarrassing how so many of you are so Point addicted you got to be having ED pills just to try to fix your problems. Sad. Porn hurts families and marriages.

[jadspop]

You really are clueless and blind... I didn't say all men. I said most men... And I pointed out that the younger the generation the more likely it is that they do... I at no point said.. all men or all of your friend... That's on you.. I'm not even get into religious matters cuz that's a whole other can of worms... Just know I respect your right to believe what ever it is cuz that's your belief... But I also think your sorely off base and blind to some important meanings... But that's my opinion... And the the point of mentioning your friends of cuz your the one who mentioned only dating in your friends and I was just clarifying that if this is your standard for finding a partner then that's fine but it's going to be really hard to find that cuz your narrowing your field by a lot... Lastly... And this is a big one.. cuz most of what you've said so far is a personal preference and I can't argue with what you like or don't... But.. Masterbating prevents ED... Not causes it... If your going to take a stand point and argue your perspective that's fine... But know your facts before spitting in the have of the majority of the human race... For someone so "spiritual" you should really read more into God's message of accepting others and not judging... I hate people that use God for there own twisted crusade... It's about your self fulfilling happyness... Not the people around you... So maybe get off your high horse and try making some friends... If you don't like porn... That's fine... Your more then welcome to hate it... And if you want to find someone who dosent watch it then I 100% support you... But those are your choices and beliefs... You have no authority at right to judge those who chose something different That's not very god like of you... And I think you need a little more Jesus in your life

[btbc92]

I do have the right and authority to judge as long as I do not do the same sin. It's righteous judgement. So don't talk about my relationship with Jesus because I have Jesus in my life. Maybe you need to get your stuff right maybe you would not be having to try to think you're going to educate me on what is and what's okay to do. If you're selfish then you don't love a person. Plain and simple. I have more than enough friends thank you very much. I do not have to accept anything that is not godly. How about you actually go read the Bible for yourself instead of trying to think you're going to shame me for speaking out the truth. It is a sin. And it does not prevent erectile dysfunction. That's why a lot of people have problems. You want sex so much you get married. It's not about you. It's about the other person. It's not a personal preference, it's what pleases God because he does not want us to be in sexual sin and perverting what he made good. It's nothing religious about it. It's straight up fact. I think you're the one that needs a double check yourself about being clueless and blind. I don't care about what youngest Generations used to do. I used to be young myself and I know better than to be making that as an excuse. So if you want to defend your sinful lifestyle you go ahead and defend it. But I'm not going to defend it. You don't like what I got to say then please get off my comment feed.

[btbc92]

First of all I'm supposed to be with one person. One person. You're supposed to be with one person. So Nehring a field is pretty stupid because your own supposed to be with one. Choose one, be with one, and be with that one for the rest of your life. Not so difficult. You don't get to make that decision God does. he is in control. You don't like it, too bad. I know my God. I will not believe in trust in a false god or religion of this world. It's sin against him. You don't like the fact that I'm saying it's a sin? Well then take it up with God, because I didn't make that rule. He did. So continue to say what you want to say because you obviously like hurting other people with it. And not care about who you hurt in the process. So when you people are unhappy with your sex life, do not complain.

[jadspop]

It literally says in the Bible that no one has the right to judge another but good himself...

[btbc92]

One can give righteous judgments. It also says that one day we too shall judge angels. I know what my Bible says. That goes to show that you don't know anything about what those scriptures mean. The Bible never fully had said that no one has the right to judge another. We are to judge each other in righteousness. That means we don't do that to be having pleasure in taking down someone else. When you make judgments, how old were you going to know what it is that you need if you don't make a judgment? Then you might as well allow God to control everything that you want in your life. He gets to make a judgment then. But then you'll say how God has no place in your life because you don't believe in God. So don't go around talking about God and you don't not believe in him, you don't read his word, and you have no desire to turn to him. He says is a sin. I have every right to say it's a sin because he says it's a sin.

[btbc92]

It's when you're committing the same kind of sins is when you cannot judge. I'm not making judgments for my own pleasure. I hate the things that is of sin. Anything I do I repent. And I don't do it again. That's it. It ain't about the struggle of sin. Is whether or not you know what is sin and if you're going to do it again. You have free will to do whatever it is that you please but it comes with consequences. Better for somebody to tell you now while you are still alive, than for you to God forbid die and you meet your maker and get judged that way. Because the Bible is readily available for you to win and you choose to not pick it up and read it.

[jadspop]

When did I say anything about what is or isn't a sin? I think your fighting yourself now... Your not even making any points against what I said... You know... Other then the medical fact that masterbation helps prevent ED... And... I didn't say you didn't have Jesus... I said you needed MORE Jesus... Though I did just add that cuz I knew it would drive you crazy... But in all seriousness... The Bible teaches that no sin is worse then the other... It dosent matter if you've committed this sin or another... You have sin and thus shouldn't judge others for there's for all for short of the grace of God and it is only threw his son that we may seek forgiveness. So no... You don't have the right or Anthony to judge anyone for even you fall short of the grace of God. I'm not even taking about your preference on who your with... And yes it's a preferance... Cuz good may put people in your life but he gave you the free will to choose for yourself You say all this is fact but all it is, is what you believe in... And that's fine if that's your belief... Witch is also a preferance by the way... I just don't like people who use Gods name to look down on others... It literally speaks against that in the Bible...

[btbc92]

I'll tell you one thing I just heard from him: ye hypocrite. I don't even want to get in the middle of that one. I ain't here to make a point, I'm here to tell you it's sin. You want to come of my comment feed to defend it. I ain't here to make no other points against what you have to say I'm here to say it's a sin. And about a sin being more than the other. I said I don't want it around me and that I don't want that in a person. Did I ever say I don't have no sin? Never say that. Don't put words in my mouth. Oh yeah I fall short of the glory every single day but I know what the Lord has preachers for me to say to people. And if he says and half of me to say what needs to be said and I will say what I have to say I will not quench the spirit. I don't care what you don't like because you know what the Lord says? They hated me that is within you long before they hated you.

[btbc92]

I'm not here to be liked by you. I'm here to do my job as a believer in Christ. I have way more Jesus in my life to know what needs to be done spiritually. Because what you're talkin about you're believing in another Jesus. Did not Jesus say there will be many Jesus's and many Antichrist? What Jesus are you believing in. The Jesus of the world, or Jesus that is now up in heaven? First of all God of the one that's in control of my life. And he's the one that does not want me with these men. So I do have that Authority because again I don't do those things. If I did then I cannot get that judgment because I was already doing it. You obviously do not understand the spiritual significance of the scriptures because you're speaking from a carnal mind not a spiritual one.

[Tamera952]

Are you kidding me? Nobody would be in a relationship if they broke up with a porn watching partner, because EVERY GUY WATCHES PORN! It's something outside of anyone else's control --
I encourage it all the time - I wouldn't (and couldn't) even if I wanted to. Why on earth would I want him to stop? It's healthy and fun, and keeps him occupied.
I think its laughable when girls get 'jealous' of actors performing sex acts on a screen. It's no reflection on me, and guys are wired to be visually stimulated.

[Thatsamazing]

Good answer right here.

[AmandaYVR]

Nope

[Paris13]

I would NEVER stay with a Guy who did this. I do NOT mind us as a Couple Butt---Not Alone at Home. Shows me he is Desperate. xx

[jadspop]

I've enjoyed watching porn WITH my girl friend...

If been in a relationship where she had a problem with porn... And if that's who you are then that's fine... But if it's something you do or enjoy them it suggest finding someone that enjoys it to our at least it's okay with it...

If your the type that has a problem with it then that's fine too... You diserve someone who appreciates that about you and respects your wishes...

But if you are the kind of person that would break up over it... Do it cuz you two just arnt working... Not cuz porn is evil it what ever...

[RemoErdosain]

Right now, I'd find it pretty weird if my girlfriend watched porn, to be honest. I think it takes a really high libido for a woman in a relationship to watch porn, and I think such a high libido will more often than not end up in cheating later down the road, so yes, I might break up with her if I notice she has such big urges. It wouldn't be because of the thought of her watching other men and women going at it, though

[JSmith925]

Not necessarily. If they were watching something violent or repugnant, yes. I do not like images that violate, subjugate or demean women (or men).

But if they were simply watching erotica to be aroused, I would want to share it with them.
~JSmith

[JackSmy]

I would say WATCH the PORN they like, with them!! Find out what they like, and what gets him hard!! Show him your favorites then, too!! Find a way to play, that you both love!! This is simple shit!!!
It's about connecting, communicating, and learning to love how to love your partner!!

[theharshtruth]

most grls don't a lot and all guys do a lot so i don't think there's much you can do if a guy does. if you tell him not to, he still will but not tell you

[mortmccain]

I don't get jealous because of it but, if I'm there with her I prefer she gets her orgasm with me not woth porn.

[shy_guy_30]

No as long as it didn't affect the relationship

[triff]

If you like to watch porn I always feel that if your with someone then why would you need the porn The foreplay should be sufficient as a starter If it's something both of you want to shuse as research to try new things to enjoy

[David92506]

Only if it interferes with her life.
For example, we hardly ever have sex because she is too sore.

[Miristheiss]

Probably... if they do not stop.

[justsimpleguy]

No I would not. Its just like watching a movie and it’s just fantasy.

[Paris13]

With Phony boobs and big asses? lolxx

[Don-_-Don]

I wouldn't.

[Thatsamazing]

This again?
Girl-- your guy is going to watch porn... Get over it.

[Asker]

All cool I get it, do not expect your girl not to watch either though, lol

[Thatsamazing]

No I know girls don't watch it as much as guys do, if they do at all.

[oncpl]

It is not a big issue. My partner has told me that she has been watching porn alone or with other girls. I don't find any problem in it. After all I myself watch porn, and she knows. Some times we watch together.

[Dchrls78104]

Yes, I would; she would be cheating on me and degrading our relationship.

[Gedaria]

No. Why I enjoy it why can't she do the same...

[Trooper205]

My Girl watches Porn on occasion!
I can say that's it's nothing but adorable ❤️

[YourSong]

If he watches too much and doesn’t give me attention

[KrakenAttackin]

Maybe you need to try to keep his attention.

[YourSong]

@KrakenAttackin maybe I don’t have to try