Am I the problem?

[luna1820]

So, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years and he says I'm his "dream girl". But he always will watch porn.. I don't care if it's every once in a while, I get it, and we do stuff pretty often but it's almost every day and sometimes it's at 4am.. and just recently he went and bought a girls onlyfans.. is this stuff normal and I just don't get it? I talk to him about it and he apologizes and gets depressed and says he won't do it again but then he goes and saves it on his phone on a random app so I don't notice it? I guess I just need some sort of advice or answer

[AustinMan]

Are there things he wants sexually that you just won't do? Are you sure he's getting all the sex he wants? A lot of guys just like porn.

Why Men Watch Porn ↗

[Vero4567]

I dont think you are the problem. Since he is young, it might be one of the reason and I think some guys have a different appetite for porn. Maybe you could try watching it with him? If you enjoy it?
I understand it does makes you feel insecure, but comparing yourself to pornstars does not make sense at all, because its fake and exaggerated. But it also depends on you though. If it's keep on shattering your self esteem, I dont think its emotionally healthy. It's your call.

[TheCotellian]

It's totally natural. The voyeur amd fantasizer in us all. You have never fantasized or masturbated thinking about someone besides him? Don't make him hide it it's a great opportunity for you to watch with him and open up and really take your sex life to another level of comfort and intimacy and understanding. Find out what each other likes.

[Iron_Man]

Get him help if he refuse it then leave

[itsmatty]

Sounds like he may have an addiction and/or not give a crap about you. Have you tried spicing things up in the bedroom?

[TheManTheMythh]

Absolutely leave him. Honestly id be concerned about your Sel-Esteem if you think thats acceptable. He is a pathetic weakling if he can't resist porn and shit when he has a girlfriend and real sex available in life. What kind of a man if he if he can't hold his sexual desires in for you and be exclusive. Just pathetic

[In_Trance]

how old is he?

[luna1820]

He's 22

[In_Trance]

yeet!!! It is normal; very common. It will calm down with age. How much or how old depends on the guy

[luna1820]

That's good to know.. It was just weird to me when he bought it.. I have terrible self image so I guess I just needed the extra reassurance instead of him saying it's just porn and blowing it off 😅

[In_Trance]

Rest assured, this has nothing to do with you

[Anonymous]

It is not normal to pay for porn when you have a girlfriend.