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Guys is there ever a reason a blowjob would not turn you on?

Guys, what would be a reason you were not turned on from receiving a blowjob?
Girls, have you ever been with a guy that no matter how hard you tried, he wouldn't cum from oral?

I consider myself fairly good at oral, at least no one's ever complained, lol. Recently I made my boyfriend cum 4 times in a day, no complaints at all.

But out of all the guys I've given oral to, two of them never came.
When I asked them why or for suggestions on how I could improve, they said they enjoyed it, but I guess I like having the proof!
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  • Some men (myself included) struggle to cum from oral sex. I'd been having sex for about 15 years before I ever managed to do so (I wasn't sure it was even possible for me), and even that required a VERY enthusiastic and motivated girl who was willing and able to give me oral for about 40-45 minutes. That's a LONG time, and I completely understand that most girls just couldn't do it for that long, and I don't blame them a bit, but that's what it took the first time.

    Today, I can manage to cum in "only" 15-20 minutes if she's good at it, and even that's a long time, but it took some work to get me there. Just like there are guys who can barely last 30 seconds from a BJ, there are also guys like me, who either can't cum at all or can only cum from the most Herculean efforts, so it's nothing that you're doing wrong - it's just a normal variation in people. Different things work for different people, and that's just how it is.

  • I've never once had a BJ that I've liked. I haven't had that many (seven, maybe), but of the ones I've had, not a single one aroused me one bit. I cannot tell you if I am just not turned on by BJ's, or if all of the ones who did them were just bad at it. I'll also add that I did not ASK them for one, nor did I want one; the women just did it and insisted. I can't really describe the "technique" either, but they just slobber on it and tilt their necks up and down. I can't imagine why any guys even like BJ's. But likewise, I don't think I like oral sex as all; I've been told several times I'm really good at giving oral despite not liking it, but given I had my way, neither of us would do oral at all. I prefer traditional foreplay to that.

    • Thanks for the MHO.

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  • Whoa!! Step back from the erection!! A sizable percentage of men have a really hard time cumming from just oral. If you're open to some tips, here're some my girlfriend shared with me and she's one of the very few women who can.

    Blow jobs tips from a deep throat queen ↗

  • I had this issue when I was in my 20s. I was upset because I was trying to figure out what was going on because just having sex was no problem.

    So from 20-27 I had this problem when I did the following, problem went away in a month,

    1.) Stop watching porn
    2.) Stop masturbating

    I haven't had that issue since. I can speak from MY experiences, I can't speak for other guys.

    I'll say at 40yrs old now? A blowjob isn't turning me on if I'm angry and we have unresolved issues. Nothing will get me turned on at that point, better to resolve the issue.

  • No, but not cumming isn't an indication that he isn't turned on. You know how sometimes the worst thing a guy can do while going to the clam buffet is to change the "move" they're doing because it resets the flow? The same thing can happen with men. Don't consider it a failure!

  • I really like cockworship but I rarely would finish from oral. Maybe it's a size issue but I wouldn't worry too much. I always tell em honestly: "follow your heart." It usually breaks a laugh because that's just silly and yet true.

    Most women will grab you and pull you on top of them after enough oral for themselves, no? I think plenty of people prefer to finish with the big act. Now... full eye contact and quality kissing in missionary? Dare to dream

  • I never really enjoyed receiving oral, its ok, but I prefer normal sex and I'm never bothered about blow jobs. I dont mind performing oral on a romantic

  • Yes my hubby can't relax enough to cum from oral.

  • When she just have no experience, bites to hard, sucks like a vacuum cleaner, rubs you raw, just stares at it, just laughs at it, all the question, and what an I to do with that, want more or is this cool?

  • NEVER any judgment, about her!! I just don't want that, and I think it is degrading to women! I would prefer to just kiss, and hold her, than have her doing that!
    My preference, and nobody else's choice!!

  • Have only had that problem once. And she sucked, no phun intended. Then again she sucked all around boasting "let me show you how an older woman does it". Thank goodness it's just been her.

  • If she's not into it or has no idea what she's doing and refuses to learn.

  • im not fussed by them... i get more upset if she doesn't want me to go down on her where as im happy with a bit of a wank from her if she doesn't want a mouthful

  • Stress maybe

  • Yeah if the girl has really bad teeth...^^

  • No clue, It wouldn't be to hard to make me cum with a blowjob. Maybe because i never get them.

    There is something about when a girl is in control of the pleasuring that turns me on quick statis. I would not even come close to lasting as long as if i was the one doing all the work.

  • If I’m not attracted to her.

  • Not all guys cum from that. It's common.
    Doesn't mean they don't enjoy it.

  • It's not always possible to cum just from oral, it's just some weird physiological quirk some men have. I promise you, we're as perplexed by it as you are. Usually I can cum from blowjob if the girl is doing a good... "job"... lol... but there will be some instances where it's just not happening, and I can't really explain why. If it's not happening, then you can always switch gears and do something else besides BJ. There's always time for more blowjobs! lol

  • No never turned off by a bj. Definitely always cummed from it.

    Only thing I could think of is there some medicine there are on to cause that. I know some medicine I'm on actually help me last a lot longer. So maybe that's it?

    • No, neither of them were on any medication that I was aware of. I was mostly curious if a man could ever not want a blowjob or be receptive to one

    • Can't speak for The other guys but I would always want one and would always be receptive to one.

  • Check out the stormy daniels tapes - now that woman can suck a dick.

    The truth is, most women are just not that good at it. But it may well just be the guy. That you think this is your most worthy contribution is rather troubling however.

  • Fu ck no unless theyre so inexperienced that it is giving me no pleasure or im not into her.

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