Do girls lie to other GIRLS about having sex with guys?

[ManOnFire]

I was watching American Beauty last night, and Kevin Spacey's daughter had a girlfriend who always claimed she was giving head and being a slut, when near the end of the movie she was actually really nervous about having sex with Spacey and had to come out and tell him it would be her first time. But his daughter didn't know any of that was happening, and he ended up not sleeping with her friend.

So it made me wonder: do girls who are still virgins lie to other girls about having already had sex so they won't get scrutinized for being virgins or so they can seem like they have experience? We know that there are guys who also do this with both guys and girls, because male virginity is frowned on by both genders much more often, but does anyone know of it being the same way with any girls?

[Mickey9999]

Sure. Depending on the people you’re surround with, it definitely does. Some will judge you for too much experience and some will judge you for too little. Back in my day it was more prevalent than today I think but I’m sure there’s still the same pressures. Hell even on here I replied to a question about number of partners and even though mine was a single digit, a man jumped on to call me a slut... for under 10 partners in 50 years? Wtf. And yet no one on the post said anything to his slut shaming? So most people can say the numbers don’t matter, but they obviously do whether it makes them or you look too experienced or inexperienced who knows. The judgement is still there

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I could see a woman lying about having sex or sexual experiences if she's a lot older. Or it could just be a way for her to not have to answer whether she's a virgin or not. In these days, I could see women start lying, especially since our society is so hypersexual. I mean, most people will think you have to lose virginity in late teens or early 20s. The same does go for women because people will make her feel weird for "waiting too long." Both men and women are sexually pressured at early ages.

[MannMitAntworten]

Never saw the movie but had a woman tell other’s we had slept together when it never happened. Then another woman alluded that we had but as I was told fell short of saying we did. Just gave the illusion. One when I was in my teens and the other while in my mid to late twenties. It strangely feels like a dog lifting their leg on you and marking you as their territory.

[ManOnFire]

Damn, that's unfortunate.

[JackSmy]

I can only say about the two virgins I knew! One was REALLY popular, but had never, but told many, things, details, to make the lie believable!
The other didn't care, and freely admitted to being a virgin, and it isn't a 'bad' thing!!! Somehow, so many get the idea that being a virgin, male, or female, is something bad, especially well into your 20's!! WHY?

[btbc92]

Yes as does many since late elementary school to whatever age. Goes shows that a lot of men know nothing about women a d the pressures we go through.

[jessiethemessy]

I have. It's different for us. Guys are glorified and girls are shamed.

[Alex_988_2]

And that's biological

[jessiethemessy]

That's not biological at all. That's societal.

[hahahmm]

Women lying in general is biological. Physical weakness = more lying

[jessiethemessy]

LMAO... Whatever. Don't be so sexist.

[ManOnFire]

@jessiethemessy Guys are actually shamed more for NOT having sex. By both genders. How Women Create Sexual Frustration In Men ↗

[hahahmm]

@jessiethemessy I’ll stop being sexist when you women start marching to end child support for women to lazy tp work like a man. Then we can take the idea of equality seriously.

[Alex_988_2]

@jessiethemessy it is biological for men to spread their sperm to maximum women. And women to get impregnated by the strongest man. It's basic stuff. Did you finish school?

[jessiethemessy]

I never said it wasn't biological for men to WANT to be with lots of women. I said it was societal to glorify it for them but shame women for the same thing. You don't seem to be able to follow what was actually said. Makes me wonder if YOU finished school.

[Alex_988_2]

, read my comment again. It's okay for men to be promiscuous. That is why it is encouraged. It's natural. And discouraged for women because it's not OK.

[jessiethemessy]

You are literally too stupid to argue with. The fact that you think biology supercedes free will, personal freedoms, and sexism tells me all I need to know about your opinion. It's also incredibly ignorant to think a woman's biology somehow makes her not enjoy sex as much as men just shows how little you know about women.

[Alex_988_2]

I deeply regret trying to start this conversation now. I don't know where the fuck did I write women don't like sex. They do but again biologically and psychologically asserting, women are naturally not promiscuous. So it's not a normal thing for women to fuck around, coming from both men and women or society. So that is why society doesn't like promiscuous women. Because it's not what naturally most women want. Also if a woman fucks around, her cunt is then source of AIDS. Like whores. But men, no problem. They can fuck dozens of cunts and still all of them be healthy. So in no way it's acceptable, biologically, psychologically, socially or naturally for women to be promiscuous. Please finish school and then we can talk further. And by the way do follow me here

[jessiethemessy]

Holy hell. You are quite possibly the most miseducated and ignorant person I've talked to here. Almost nothing you said in there is actually true. You're just throwing out incorrect information every chance you get. It's so ridiculous and ignorant that I have to wonder if it's because you're really that misinformed or you're intentionally trying to be aggravating. If you want to talk about my education, you should probably look at yours first. You lack facts in your argument and replace them sexist nonsensical bologna. Plus, your grammar and punctuation is terrible.

[thegirlfromthething]

I would think so, especially when they’re teenagers and more easily influenced by peer pressure to act sexy and experienced. But that seems more common in the past than now because of the huge, recent push to end bullying and peer pressure so girls are probably less afraid of being treated differently if they’re inexperienced. And American teens are losing their virginity later than they used to so it’s more normal to be a virgin and lying won’t make them fit in as much as it used to.
I think my generation is pretty nonjudgmental when it comes to sex. I’ve never seen any boy or girl being treated poorly for being inexperienced. And when I tell my friends who have had sex or hooked up that I haven’t done anything, they don’t care or see it as a flaw.

[Nick568]

I agree that both slut shaming and pressuring people to have sex are becoming increasingly frowned upon in this generation (thankfully). I still however think that guys get shamed for being inexperienced and girls still get slut shamed far too often. Hopefully in the future we can just accept that everyone has different sex lives and no one should be shamed for their sexual choices.

[Account]

I don't give much of a shit about such stuff in general in order to lie.

[chevymcgthatsme]

Well to me she wants it so much she can't cope with the feeling tht she can't get it when women lie about things like this they just want to hide there true self to look better because there friends have been with men it's no big deal to be a virgin it will happen at the right time dont be ashamed be u nd fk everyone else there jst showing off

[wonderingaboutboys]

I don't, maybe when I was a teenager I would have--because at that age you care a lot more about what other people in your circle (your peers, friends, etc. ) think so some people try to present themselves a certain way.

I think the older you get the less you care what others think, and the more private you decide to keep your sexual life...

[snowboarder720]

Would you say that you lied about having sex with guys or NOT having sex with guys?

[wonderingaboutboys]

@snowboarder720 when I was younger most of my friends were having sex and I wasn't so I wasn't exactly flaunting my virginity around, I kind of kept it to myself, just didn't tell anyone. If I would have lied, it would have been me saying I had sex when I didn't.

[DizzyDesii]

I hate that movie so much lol. But I don't know if girls lie. Some Guys lie about it so i wouldn't be surprised if some girls do.

[ManOnFire]

What? That was a great movie! Lol.

[DizzyDesii]

I hate how she tempted him and he looked like a fckin pedo and then i hated the shooting at the end. Just hated it all

[ManOnFire]

Well, hold on now, I don't know if I would say SHE tempted him. More like he already got attached, and that she just openly INVITED him in the end. Yeah, but the movie was really well made and the acting from everyone was exceptional, yes.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea the acting was good. I just hate the ending. I didn't want him to give in and i didn't want anyone to die

[snowboarder720]

I personally don’t lie about getting laid. I prefer to not talk about it because that’s my VERY personal information about details.
If someone asks who I just don’t answer.

[Cherokeehp]

I’ve never seen the movie and never done that.

[ssongsongie]

Most definitely. Some girls are insecure about it if their friends talk about having sexual experiences and they feel left out.

[Robbey]

I've never lied about having sex to another woman. But I also don't make a habit of blabbing about sex to others.

[JaneDoe377]

I never did. I had a friend who was telling me she didn't sleep with this guy and that guy when she was. I guess she felt bad about it. I don't see the need to lie if you are actually friends.

[Arielarrison]

I grew up in a Catholic school with a relatively conservative culture. I never felt pressured to have sex or pretend I had sex. Even when I went to a large public university I never felt the need to lie or hide the fact that I was a virgin. If sex came up in a conversation I would quietly listen because I had nothing to add. After I did have sex I didn’t feel that any of my girl friends would think of me any differently, though it led to more interesting conversations sometimes! 😉

[CubsterShura]

Never lied about this, and wasn't it very uncomfortable to watch the movie?

[ManOnFire]

No, why? It turned out to be one of the greatest movies I've ever seen. It definitely deserved the Oscar for Best Picture.

[Posterboy56]

It's a great movie.

[CubsterShura]

But isn't the movie like some 16yo girl having physical relationship with a man her dad's age, just the thought of it is so unsettling, sure the whole plot can be amazing and all but it would be a pain to watch that.

[Posterboy56]

Yeah-- that's called life. It's existed for literal thousands of years. Only recently have some people (without any actual substantive reason to do so, since someone who is sixteen is not a kid) stupidly decided that that's a problem; no, it's a problem if people don't like each other and force or intimidation is involved. And she likes him and he likes her. It's not that complicated really.

[ManOnFire]

@cubstershura A lot of people and a lot of critics put huge emphasis on that part of the movie, but that really only turned out to be a small piece of the story. It was big in the early part of the movie but eventually became forgotten until the 2 characters met again in the end.

[CubsterShura]

Hmm I kinda get what u mean. I don't mind age gap relationships, one of my favorite authors married his daughters friend but she was in her 20's plus he sent her a formal proposal that she said yes to which is why I don't object much. But 16 to me is a little too young for a man so old. Just my opinion.

[Posterboy56]

And if that's how SHE feels, then I agree-- again, as I wrote, anything involving force or intimidation or whatever *is wrong.* If you have seen the movie, it is clear that that is not the case, and she is genuinely attracted to him. I am not going to tell her what to do with her body. That is not my, or anyone's, place.

[Avicenna]

It does happen sometimes, but it’s more common for them to claim to have had less sex

[GR00VY]

Other girls have, but not me. 😌

[hellokitty96_18]

when we are putting up a front yes we do.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Sometimes we do

[fishlipsfriend]

I would think most girl would not because they would labelled a slut

[Imsmart_urdumb]

She was probably just nervous because it was kevin spacey and he's a rapey asshole

[ManOnFire]

He is, yes. But that's beside the question.

[Imsmart_urdumb]

No, it's behind the question trying to smell its hair.

[MrOracle]

He's only a rapey asshole to boys, though - he's not actually attracted to girls. LOL.