Guys, Why doesn't he look at me during sex?

[Stephrose88]

So I just reconnected with an old lover from the past. We are so in love and crazy about each other, and he's always checking me out.
However, during sex- and it doesn't seem to matter what position we are in, he doesn't really look AT me. Missionary, he's either closing his eyes, or if the tv is on he's looking at the TV!! Also, he can ONLY come from behind, and sometimes he can't even come. If we're doing it from behind his head is up with his eyes closed. If he's on top he's got his head down by my shoulder. He also doesn't let me touch him at random times like if we're watching TV or whatever, he's just not always in the mood for it. I just don't get it. It really bothers me and I will ask him about it I just don't know how to go about it. Any KIND advice or opinions appreciated. Thanks!

[MrOracle]

in my opinion, it sounds like he's trying to prevent himself from cumming too early, OR he's nervous and has some erectile dysfunction and he's concentrating on staying hard. Neither of those really has anything to do with you, or say anything bad about you. A lot of guys get nervous with a new partner for a while and because of that have trouble keeping it up, and that's probably what's going on.

[Stephrose88]

Thank you!

[AustinMan]

Indeed. Do ask him but do it in a calm, direct, matter of fact way that's not judgmental and is looking for a solution and not to establish blame. Here're some tips that I hope help. I'd love your feedback.

How to Talk to Your SO About Sex ↗

[Stephrose88]

Thank you I will check it out for sure. I'll post update soon.

[AustinMan]

Great. Would love a follow.

[Browneye57]

Fuck that. This is ALL about JUDGEMENT. It's called DISCERNMENT - and this guy is a dud.

[Stephrose88]

Hey chill out. Why let other ppls business get u so worked up...

[Browneye57]

What exactly makes you think I'm 'worked up'? This is YOUR stupid question, so let's keep the shoe on the right foot. You got a fucked up relationship with a loser guy, shitty sex, and here you are whining about it on a public forum. And you think I'M worked up? LOL

[AustinMan]

@Browneye57 Hey!! Back the fuck off or we'll get you banned!!

[Stephrose88]

Haha @AustinMan thanks ☺️

[ohshee]

I don't have a clue for me I need to look and look deep be cause your eyes the color of your cheeks the way you breath and moan tells me everything you want me to do in that Moment with out saying a word and if not I pushing deeper and harder so so they do

[ArrowheadSW]

The only thing that I can think of is that he might be shy. But I do wonder why he would be looking at the TV.

[Berethor]

Maybe he is shy, and yea it quite odd, considering that you been having sex for a fairly long time.

[JPrez]

Just gonna throw this out as a possibility. He’s trying to cut his feelings out from the act as he doesn’t want the commitment. He only wants the sex and not a relationship. Just a thought but I betcha that’s it.

[Stephrose88]

I don't know it makes sense that someone would do that. But like I said we were old lovers, reconnected and he's already having me look at wedding rings LMAO. So that can't be it, but thanks!

[JPrez]

Ok. Wasn’t sure how in depth you guys were. Wish you well. 👍

[Stephrose88]

Thank you

[Avicenna]

Id imagine it’s because he’s thinking about other women

[Stephrose88]

Why would he need to tho when the woman he loves is right there pleasing him

[Browneye57]

"So I just reconnected with an old lover from the past."
I quit reading here.
Taking an ex back is like rooting through the garbage - you know, dumpster-diving?
You might find something you like but it's still trash.

Your sex life is fucked toots.

[Stephrose88]

We didn't end on bad terms. One of us was underage and forced to split up by parents.

[Browneye57]

Your sex life still sucks. LOL

[Browneye57]

Okay, I read through your drivel... You know, you ENTIRE job in dating is to be able to discern, to make a determination as to their worthiness, whether they're a match, whether they're worth your substantial investment in time and emotion. Most simply will not be compatible. But here you are on a public forum whining and fussing about YOUR MAN. OMFG This is one GIANT COLOSSAL FAIL. :)

[Stephrose88]

Look I didn't get on here to get bashed okay I just simply wanted to hear some KIND opinions on the matter. Thanks.

[Browneye57]

I don't owe you jackshit toots. This is an open forum. If you don't want answers to your stupid questions, DON'T ASK THEM. You know what they say..."If you can't stand the heat get out of the kitchen." You went back to a LOSER. And then come whining here. COLOSSAL FAIL

[Wise4myage]

His eyes are closed because he's enjoying how it feels, so don't hold that against him, but do ask. And don't be afraid to mention why he doesn't like you touching him.

[Stephrose88]

Thank you

[Wise4myage]

You're welcome.

[Cowboy6666]

this really has anything to do with you, He is shy and nervous. and he is missing that eye contact is lovely, its my huge turn on to have eye contact.

[minuteman12]

Just blow him and swallow. He will come around.

[Stephrose88]

Haha.. yeah tried that and he couldn't come. But thanks

[minuteman12]

Did you suck his balls?

[Stephrose88]

They were up in there LOL

[minuteman12]

May be try some dirty talk. Let him spank you or put your tits in his mouth when you are riding him. Or may be just directly ask him.

[Valnac]

Is he shy?
Or does he have relationship anxiety?
He may need counseling!

[Stephrose88]

I don't know he doesn't seem the shy type. And we have a history together. I think he just needs to get a physical and bring it up to his physician. That's my conclusion 🤷🏼

[Valnac]

Good idea, get his testosterone checked!