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After how many dates should you have sex?

I know that some people do it on the first date and others take months. But on average, what's the ideal number of date?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • There is not an ideal for all people and there is not an ideal for you that would equally apply to all relationships. The factors you should consider:

    1. Are you concerned about developing a large "body count" or slut reputation?

    2. Are you dating hoping to find a partner for a serious LTR or just casual dating?

    3. How well do you trust your partner?

    4. How confident do you feel about getting naked with someone else?

    5. Do you want to have sex because you are feeling horny or do you want to have sex as a way of getting closer in the relationship?

    6. How confident are you that your partner won't post something on Facebook about banging you until your bottom fell off?

    7. If you break up with him a month from now, will you regret that you had sex with him?

    8. Are you feeling pressured by him to have sex?

    9. Is your attraction to him based on anything other than his physical appearance?

    10. After sex, do you want to spend the night together? If not, why not?

  • Whenever you feel you're ready... its the same like the Chemistry for the : fast paced beating of the heart, for the first kiss, for the first play in the hair, or for the deep glance in the eyes... its same withe the sex... Your body will signal you, when aroused, when ready, when it feels itself Desired... so.. nothing to worry about!

Most Helpful Girls

  • This is a hard one... because i think it depends on the connection.
    I really enjoy the time spent building up sexual tension, because I know it will never be the same after we do it. I love the feeling of wanting someone so bad... and not having them, yet...
    I think it makes for a better first sexual experience to wait it out and let it build up to a moment of absolute passion explosion.

  • Do it when you are ready not by how many dates you go on

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  • Depends if we really hit it off and there is chemistry between us,

    Virgin: No later than the third date

    Non-Virgin: First date

  • Generally I avoid text links, but I wrote this My Take and direct answers your question. If it sounds too procedural, that's intended. It is designed specifically to help girls navigate the hellhole that dating has become.
    Girls: The 10-date rule. Filtering out players, predators and hit-and-runs.

  • Marriage. Or I guess the 8th date

  • I don't date before sex.

  • Hard to say how many dates. I used to have sex early on but now will wait until I’m in a committed relationship.

    • I used to go by the three date rule and that burned me more than once. Most times she got clingy after sex and I still was dating others.

  • When you're both ready and want to take the relationship to the next level, unless you're just looking for sex. Don't be afraid to discuss it with the other person.

  • First one

  • Ideally the first or second date

  • There isn't any such criteris tbh

    • *criteria

  • After marriage.

  • Depends on the parameters set up for the date. If it's casual, make it through dessert, and go for it. If it is with long term in mind, take your time.

  • I say the first date. Because i wanted to know if we fit. My wife boned after two hours. Love her. You gotta have similar tastes with your parntner if you want to be together forever. So if you don't want too and your partner is wanting it date number whatever. Then it isn't right. Look for the click. because when those puzzle pieces fit together... it's just out of this world amazing. Better then the sex itself.

  • The ideal number is as soon as we want to. That's all.

  • I would say it depends on the person. Some are willing to wait and others are ready sooner. There is no general rule.

  • I wait at least 3 months if she's not a virgin 6 if she is. After that she decides, unless it's after 2 years in which case I leave without sex.

  • generally 3

    but, that's just a guideline

  • That’s an individual choice, whenever you are ready!

  • 3 to 4

  • It's not about how many. It's about when both parties feel ready

  • First date

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