In 2018! Me and the Mrs took a two weeks vacation to California and have a reunion with my three cousins (all women) that lives there. So on our vacation there, we had a road trip to LV of course, one of my cousins came with us, she had off that weekend. We are there in vegas, it's warm, it's amazing, the lights, the strip, the people, it was crazy. We see the DOWN UNDER poster (GIRL'S NIGHT OUTBACK) and i asked the Mrs. (Let's doooo thiiiiisssssssss) with a huge smile on my face. She says no 🥺 The reason is! My female cousin is with us, my cousin says: Am cool, i have been in there and it's tons of fun.
Me: Baby please let's go.
Her: No.
Me: My cousin is cool with it, it's gonna be fun.
Cousin: I can go back to the hotel or do something else if you want to?
Her: No! Stay. We can find something else we all can go to.
Me: WTF 🤨.
Cousin: Sure 🤷♀️.
Me: Baby? What is it?
Her: I feel embarrassed, don't want to go in a strip club with your cousin.
Me: She just told you that she has been in there and it's fun, why would you be embarrassed?
Her: I don't know, i have this feeling that i don't want to go through, can we just go now?
Me: OK 🤦♂️. Let's go.
Cousin: You guys wanna go to see Zumanity?
Her: YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAS. LET'S GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Me: WTF JUST HAPPENED?
So! YES! I would love to go to a strip club with my partner, but she does not. I tried again in Monaco and she said no.
All i wrote looks good to me. I bet bet it's gonna look all fuck'd up when i hit (SEND IT!)
Yes! It all looks fine 👍
You girls are seriously underestimating the male sex drive. He’s either going to be horrified that you’re there in an environment where he’s usually acting like a carnal man (and so he won’t be acting like he normally would in that situation), or he’ll be LUSTING OVER ANOTHER WOMANS BUTT, TITS AND PUSSY RIGHT IN FRONT IF YOU. He will get boners as another woman rubs her butt all over his dick. If you like watching that, have at it. But if you think you’re going to be his attention that night…well….. I hope I’m wrong
No one goes to a strip club with her partner and thinks that their partner is going to be oogling them all night LOL
@subarugirl... did u went with ur patner?
OK. This is raining on your parade, but here I go. The sex business isn't a clean one. Women don't go into it because they enjoy dancing semi naked and doing lap dances for strangers. If they are nymphomaniacs and DO enjoy it, it's because they have a sex addiction and addictions are not good to have. They're mental DISORDERS. I've been to a strip club with a partner a long time ago and it was an unpleasant experience because of several of these factors. The young woman who was dancing made no eye contact and seemed miles away, as if she were drugged. Her face was blank and she looked all of 18. I was only a few years older and it creeped me out. If sex workers were well paid, didn't depend on tips to make bank, had generous benefits, since this isn't a job you can keep for life, had child care, so they could go to work and not worry about their children's welfare, I'd say, "Oh yes! It's a bit of sexy fun." But the FACTS behind sex work drain ALL the pleasure out of those few moments on YOUR side of the stage, for me...
Why do you CAPITIALIZE a word now and THEN?
From @aerissa_jade "I used to be an exotic dancer in one. I would have no issues returning and taking my man with me. I even have a pole at home, so I can do a dance for him just like I would back then. I have given thousands of lap dances, they can be fun. These clubs aren't that bad of a thing just know what your getting into and be prepared for it." Doesn't really seem that bad.
@Juxtapose It really depends, like I've said before it depends on the club. Sounds like @screenwriter went to a low class shithole, the kind where anyone can do anything and get away with it. They get shut down and a new one pops up someone else. It also sounds like this was a very long time ago, not sure what kind of regulation they had back then... they are highly regulated these days. I do not consider it sex work at all, it is a performance... we had our routines and our costumes but lots of rules, regulations and laws to follow. Like any other job or business, the better quality is better. The one I worked in was considered medium high class, and as for pay. I was a independent contractor, not an employee I actually paid to perform to get on the schedule. How much I earned entirely depended on how good I was, I made eye contact all the time. I tried to get repeat customers, I enjoyed doing it. I made a lot of friends, and never once did any kind of sexual act with any person ever. As for pay, I was making 250k a year, my single biggest night was 10k and I never sold myself for sex, or did drugs or any of that. But in a lower class less enforced club, that can totally happen, just as Screenwriter stated. Choice and quality matters. I will say, my friends who got hit from shutdown due to covid, some have had to turn to sex work, taking money to make it, even though they really do/did not want to. Independent contractors have got the shaft from shutdowns and they did what they had to do to survive.
I used to be an exotic dancer in one. I would have no issues returning and taking my man with me. I even have a pole at home, so I can do a dance for him just like I would back then.
I have given thousands of lap dances, they can be fun. These clubs aren't that bad of a thing just know what your getting into and be prepared for it.
There is also a lot of different kinds of clubs, not all clubs are equal. Lower class ones or higher class ones, topless only or full nudity. You can read mytake on it, to get some idea's of what to expect.
Truth behind being an exotic dancer
I got a question but I was wondering if dancers give better dances to the guys that they think are good looking? For instance do u give guys u think are hot better dances?
@mikegerety101 Maybe some do, I thought of it like a good business to get repeat business for more dances in the future, rather than sucking and having him come back in the future and picking someone else instead of me.
Yea I think every girl has her comfort zone on how they dance ! Lot of them give me good dances but this one girl kisses me so I don’t know if that means she mite like me since she’s kind of making out with me
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I'd be rather terrified of enjoying myself. But if I knew she genuinely wanted to then sure. Would really need to make sure we pick a good place as strip clubs really do vary.
By "terrified" you mean being scared that she might get jealous?
Something to that merit. Jealous, testing me. Any kind of nonsense. But if I was truly convinced maybe I'd go for it.
I don't really like strip clubs in general... I don't really feel comfortable about being around naked women I can't tough or have sex with. But if she really was into it and wanted to go I would do it for her... and hell it might be more fun to do it with a girl I can touch and bang after.
But I would never want to do it or suggest it to her if she was not into or displayed the desire for herself.
U can touch them but u can’t have sex with them but u can get tits in ur face and all that and touch their legs
I went with my wife before our wedding. The guys in my group wanted me to go to a strip club for the bachelor's party but I was too smitten with my wife to want to go. I actually don't get bachelor's parties. I was totally in love with my life at the time so I actually had no interest in seeing other girls dancing naked. I do and did have that interest, mind you, and now I think that's fun, but not when I'm in love with a woman enough to propose marriage. That's the worst fucking timing to ask me to hang out with strippers.
So instead I asked my wife and the girls in our group if they want to all go together, and so we did. But no lapdances in my case or my wife's case. We just watched and drank and actually I could swear most of the girls along with my wife had more fun than the guys did. The one guy who was so adamant about strip club got some lap dances in a corner and hopefully he got it out of his system.
It can be fun depending on the club. Have been to a few with my guy and his friends. He was super nervous the first time I went with them, and was always watching to see if I was offended. Which was sweet, but had to stop, lol. Bought him a lapdance to put him at ease. Didn't work. So I bought one for the two of us. It was really hot and the dancer got me involved too. That got him relaxed.
Other times weren't as eventful, the dancers are always respectful of us as a couple. I try not to go often though so the other guys can relax more. They often invite, but I think they just need time to be guys.
You sound like a good wife
I am telling you if you just kissed the lap dancer he would have been super relaxed and supper excited
@cookiecrusher Not yet, but soon! Have the ring, just holding off for covid to stop fucking with everyone's plans.
Yeah I dated a girl that worked as a dancer at a club.
I’ve taken girls to one before.
I think my partner would find me a little odd. I love women's bodies and I find women alluring. But I've never wanted to get physical with a woman.
The reason being is that women challenge themselves to be diverse and flexible, adaptable to draw in as many punters as they can. They develop their sexuality and their inner charm. When a woman's dancing and she's good you can really see why, because she's perfected her craft. I can really appreciate and respect that.
Me getting into that may be too much for him...
I'd hate for him to feel like I dominated his "space"
No - the lap dance is NOTHING like the " real dance " when you go as a couple , its a waste of time , any stripper privately will tell you same , no matter what they say women really dont handle it well..
Over the years I've taken 2 different girlfriends , both times because I had no choice , but I made it though.
It's definitely fun. I bought my boyfriend a lapdance as a surprise. The dancers do respect couples, but you're also supposed to be aware of where you are.
Getting a lap dance can be a lot of fun, even more fun with a partner. Especially if the dancer doesn’t mind you getting a little frisky.
The only "stripclub" you'll find me is my own home where my girl is the stripper with just me as her audience.
I also worked as an exotic dancer like 10 years ago and actually have gone to these clubs (not often anymore like once every year or so) with a few past and my current boyfriend.
It does add a bit of spice as while I no longer give lap dances to strangers for money , my boyfriend certainly enjoys the shows I put on for him, and he has been learning to tease me back haha.
I don't think I'll ever go to a strip club
Of course I would
Have done and would do again, although I don't think my wife would enjoy watching me get a lap dance.
If you and your husband want to go, then go. Sounds like fun, and there will be more fun when you get home.
You're a moron, no wonder you're bisexual. You've no clue how it works.
No.
Strippers are skanks and I wouldn't set foot in some sleazy place like that.
Me and my wife started going to them in our late 30's and found it to be very erotic and fun for fantasizing in bed about our favorite dancers. A lot of marriages need spice, and that's a great starter one.
If it's her idea. Places like that are no my cup of 🍵.
Probably not.
I'd go with my SO to a strip club with nude female dancers if she wanted to go. I'd also go to a strip club with nude Male dancers with her (think Chippendales).
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