Exotic Dancers
Are performers, like any other dancer/performer.
Despite popular belief, they are not sex workers of any kind.
While there are some cases of dancers who will accept offers for more, the majority do not. For those that do, they potentially have other issues they are dealing with, drug addiction is common.
It is a job, they are there to make money like at any other job.
Pole Dancing
To be highly successful one needs to learn this skillset and use it well.
Tips don't come in as fast if you stand there, wiggling your butt while taking it all off.
It takes months of training and practice while building up strength. You can get the basics down in about 3 months of near-daily practice, but you won't be very good at it.
You will spend a great deal of time with sore muscles early on and wonder if this is worth it.
You will fall and you will get hurt but expect to get right back up with some bruises and continue practicing.
For the more advanced moves, plan on at least another 3 months and even then you won't be able to do all the moves or be that great at them.
Practice practice and more practice and you do get better.
Only the very best can do the hardest moves.
There are pole dancing competitions, these are highly creative and artistic that take years of practice. Watch this for some crazy tough moves.
These competitions are different than being an exotic dancer, these are put together more as a routine and show of skills with no expectation of taking anything off.
As an exotic dancer, you should not be moving too fast, you want to move at a slower more sensual pace.
If You're Interested In Learning
PoleFreaks is a great place to start. She does a great job of breaking it down and making it look easier than it is.
It is a great workout to do even in your own home, even if you have no plans to ever perform.
Exotic Dancers Are Not Employees
They pay to be added to the lineup, some are considered contracted, others are considered to be self-employed and have their own business license that allows them to do private dances at other locations.
Tips are shared with bartenders and DJs. This is only fair, as they do a lot of great work to help everything come together.
My Stage Name Was Jade.
My first dance was super scary but I knew I could do this. I knew the first time would be the hardest. I was worried I'd fall on my face or something if I got too nervous and I did not want to look nervous either.
I was already used to dancing in my underwear in the dark black light at a previous club. Dance Clubbing
The difference now is it was dark everywhere except on the stage, and less flashing lights and I had the pole as a main part of the performance.
I was in the light, the center of it all. There were other stages on busy nights so might be two or three going at once, my first night was just one stage and I was on it.
I lucked out though, early on a weeknight just one guy who smiled a lot was there, but he was a good tipper.
As the night went on quite a few more people came in, and by this time I wasn't so nervous anymore. It was a great night, the other performers were so supportive we ended up becoming a very close and tight-knit group who supported each other and covered each other when needed.
What Is A Normal Work Night Like
If I was first in the lineup, I had to be there ready to start at 7 pm, but it involved a lot of prep work beforehand. Makeup, nails, and a costume approved by management for starters.
The club was open to the public from 7 pm to 4 am. Things were usually pretty slow for the first several hours, by 10 or 11 pm it would pick up.
No one is allowed to touch us without our permission.
After a dance, if someone was a good tipper, I'd go mingle with them. Talk to them, get to know them. This is how I would create regulars. For the next time, they might tip a lot better now that they knew me a bit.
The regulars were often the best tippers, since If they know you personally they want to either support you more or at least see you more. As you are no longer a stranger.
Some of those ultra busy nights it was hard to visit with all the good tippers, but I certainly tried.
If anyone touched me, without my permission bouncers would get involved. They were always watching, even following us around as we visited and greeting people, keeping their distance. They were our own personal body guards.
The bouncers were damn good at their job, only a fool would test them, they also became some of my best friends to this day.
Some nights it was a long night of requests for Lap Dances or Shower showers and I almost never made it to the stage. Had to find the perfect balance and sometimes make people wait.
The most I ever made in a single night was over $10,000 from a large party of business people who came by to have a all night party. They were big spenders.
Bachelor parties could get $6000 or so depending on size and if they wanted a dedicated performer or not.
More Than Just Pole Dancing
Lap dances are a way to make a lot of extra cash but optional for those who wanted to do them. It was never required of us. Not everyone would do them.
Lap dances are about confidence, having a plan, and some moves but mostly your going to be sitting on someone's lap really close while not wearing anything.
I know this varies depending on club, location, and policies but this is how it was here.
Two songs would be it, on a regular chair in the back, usually about 8 to 10 minutes.
Unless someone paid for 20 or 40 minutes for a private lap dance, in a private room.
A private room for a private lap dance was $300 for 20 minutes or $500 for 40 minutes plus tips.
There were private room options such as a giant bean bag for the lap dance, where he/she, would lay back on the bean bag in a very reclined position and I would climb on to straddle their middle.
There were also couches and other types of arrangements set up just for this, depending on what was wanted.
The private lap dance rooms had cameras to make sure no one was doing any illegal activities. No club wants to get shut down for those kinds of things.
I could often make quite a lot on those private lap dances, if someone really liked me, it was possible to get over $1,000 dollars for 40 minutes of work.
Shower shows
Were optional as well, but sometimes a great thing to have after dancing for a while and starting to get pretty sweaty.
They involved no touching while washing myself in front of the person or party. Only enough room for a couple, maybe 3 people to watch.
It involved a shower with an audience, tips are still expected here. The more you tip the better it gets. No tips just meant water running and not much else. More tipping means using soap, washing hair and other body parts.
Nothing sexual was allowed. Don't ask her to spread them, it is not allowed, and don't try to reach over and touch her or slap her.
Table Dances
Won't go into too much detail on this as its pretty self explanatory when requested, to dance on tables instead of using a pole, same deal tip to strip.
What To Expect If You're Planning On Going - My Advice
Expect to bring at least a couple hundred in cash, there is also a cover charge to get in that goes strictly to the club.
Do NOT take your phone in or pull it out. This is a great way to get a fast escort out of there. Recommend to leave it in your car or turn it off and in your pocket. Even if you are not taking pictures and someone calls you, you'll be escorted out.
Once inside, no one takes it all off until the tips roll in. If you plan on coming in and not tipping, you won't see anyone take it all off. They will dance while in costume but that is as far as it goes.
You could get lucky and come in when someone already has it all off from another person who tipped, don't plan on it though.
Some creepy guys would wait for a tipping customer to come in, then they would get to see her take it all off, DON'T BE ONE OF THEM!
To get a girl to take it off, TIP AWAY...usually $50 to $80 for my top off on a slow night, with one or two people watching and double that for the bottom.
If there is a larger crowd it would go higher, not going to take it off for 20 people for that little. Once it comes off, tips usually stop coming. The faster you tip upfront the faster she loses it. If you tip towards the end of her performance and she takes it all off, you only get to watch for a short time before the song ends and it starts over with the next performer.
There are cameras everywhere, even in the private lap dance rooms and shower rooms, don't do anything stupid or illegal. Offering cash for sexual acts is illegal almost everywhere in the USA.
There are employees that go around asking if you want to buy a specific girl a drink, go for it. They are overpriced but don't feel bad if we don't drink them. It is the club's way of making more money, by overcharging for tiny drinks and working as an ice breaker.
What that does is show us that you are interested in us, we will often go talk to you. See if you want something extra, by extra I mean a lap dance or shower show, nothing illegal. It could also be to just get to know each other, and then when on stage next I face them and give them attention hoping they tip really good.
If you want a lap dance, don't stink. I never cared what anyone looked like, but if I couldn't handle your smell, I wasn't going to get that close.
If she agrees to the lap dance, don't touch her privates parts even though they are showing. Also keep all your cloths on. Best to just raise your arms and enjoy it.
She knows what she is doing and won't fall off. A hand in a nonsexual place won't stop the dance but if you grab anything in those certain spots, it is over.
In the non-sexual spots, you'll politely either be asked to move it or have it moved for you. You wouldn't want to waste all that money because you were being stupid.
It Can Be Dangerous
Some creepy patrons get obsessed with you and it can become dangerous, such as in this performer's case.
I've had what seems like more than my fair share of them. I even stopped taking my car to work and would take a taxi, as the bouncers would walk me to and from each night. Some guys just got way too obsessed.
I never considered someone might put a tracking device on my car. I did have guys hanging out in the parking lot waiting in the early morning to 'talk' when I did drive.
I also had regulars who were sweet, kind, and would request me but I never felt creeped out by or in danger.
They were the best kind of people out there, that we need more of in society. Treating others with respect regardless of anything or everything and not judging others.
Lap dances I had to be extra careful, especially in those private lap dance rooms, some men would pull it out thinking they were getting some.
I could either stop the lap dance and leave or ask him to nicely put it away.
If I left there was no refund's and it could lead to a scene and a bad rep, of his word against mine, especially if the camera didn't get the best view of what happened.
Some guys can not tell the difference between paying someone to flirt with them and giving them attention from the real thing. They get sucked into this thing that I'm their girl, that they bought me and they often get jealous. This can lead to them becoming a threat.
The Strangest Thing To Ever Happen
A self-proclaimed religious guy, paid to come in and watch, tipped me a ton of money, and then told me he was trying to save my soul, that I didn't need to be doing this. All while he got a good eyeful and tried to convert me to his religion. He came in on many occasions to try and convert a lot of us. Inviting us to attend his church.
Why Did I Decide To Become An Exotic Dancer
I loved dancing and I am an exhibitionist, I have always liked to show it all off.
However once you turn something into a job it makes it a lot less exciting and fun.
This was just a job and I no longer got turned on in most cases by showing it all off, like I do in other aspects of my life.
The Future
I feel that I left this type of work at the right moment. As my friends really took a covid hit when things shutdown.
They we're unable to perform and have lost all revenue and to this day the clubs aren't fully opened back up yet and those that have just aren't the same as before.
I still get calls asking if I want to be back on the rotation, and that someone is asking for me. I made such a good impression on so many people.
I have a pole in my house, part of my daily workout routine along with my twice daily jogs. Some great music for a great workout.
When I get in a long term relationship I'll happily perform for him...no tips needed.
Now I know there will be some mean misogynistic people here who hate on others and are judgmental, I'll just say in advance...no need to comment if your going to be that way.
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