Are there just good guys and bad guys?

[sage2021]

Another question on her inspired me to ask this.
Like why don't women want a good guy? Do you like bad boys?
aren't there any guys you can describe that are both and what would he be like?

[blueonblack22]

Men are way more complicated then this.

But it comes to empathy. Some men have more of it for women and people as a whole then others.

But unfortunately an empathic man is considering to available and “nice” (which subconsciously translates to “weak” for women). Women also have this mental quirk that they believe they can “change” and bad boy and are attracted to the challenge of it.

Anyway I am not going to preach to women about who they should and should not date. I believe in free choice and unfortunately these mental quirks are often evolutionary.

However I absolutely do believe that society needs to stop giving women a shoulder to cry on when a “bad boy” screws them over. They knew exactly what they were getting themselves into. You got what you asked for. Quit thinking you will be “the one” to change him.

Women need to start being held accountable you their stupid dating decisions. They are not “slaves” to their emotions.

[MrOracle]

Women see good guys as BORING, while bad guys are dangerous, unpredictable, and love drama, and a lot of women find those things exciting. Of course, when all that chaos and danger eventually gets aimed at the woman, she isn't so happy, but she will usually go right back to another bad guy.

[Pinay_ako]

A good guy can be a bad boy too. But some bad guys can pretend to be a good guy to get your love and trust then break your heart later on when they’d had enough of you…

[sage2021]

@Pinay_ako
You're completely correct and that is usually the case. The bad boy type usually isn't in it for the long haul and will end up breaking heart's ❤️❤️
along the way.
Where as a good guy would probably be in it for the long haul if women could just be attracted to them, but usually they aren't. It's a complicated mess it's it? 🤷🏼‍♀️🎀

[dustybiker2]

There are plenty of "good" guys with a fun hidden wild side. I say no.

[sage2021]

@dustybiker2
If people would take more time to get to know a person without writing them off before they've spent enough time together to see the guys "fun, hidden wild side" - the right person could easily draw that side out of the good guy if she gave things time, and throws her sense of humor into the mix. It could bring out a whole other side of him and not just say "Oh, he's one of those good guys, and they always finish last" because that is a crock of poo poo. 🙂

[dustybiker2]

Exactly.

[PizzaDaddyo]

Awesome question! It made me think of a realm I normally don’t tap into.


Short answer:
Kinda - Most Likely



Not speaking for other people but, I can read the Good guys from bad real quick. It’s legit harder for men to be nice and It don’t t take much for someone to be an asshole. As I think it matters on what you are given, how you portray yourself; using all characteristics to your advantage. I think it’s a crazy mix of good, bad and in between; it’s hard to say. Yes the ones farthest on each side don’t really change but I know there are plenty of good guys out there that do bad things and vise versa. Just judging from the groups of people I’ve known through time… some mofos I was kinda friends with did some really fucked up things and friends who I just play and watch basketball with only and nothing else. Most people are either or.

[sage2021]

@PuzzaDaddyo
Either or huh? That's what I thought. That's why I asked this question, which I am glad you liked 🙂

It would be nice if they had guys in between and we could call them tweeners (in the middle guys)

[PizzaDaddyo]

lol my bad. Most people are stuck on greater end of good or bad because how could one be exactly 50/50 with “good and bad” intentions. You either have good intentions or bad intentions, with that comes consequences that may be good or. bad. So take away the lesser amount of people that are extremely one sided (100%ish good or bad). Now we’re left with the inevitable group lost people that have intentions in and out of their control that are trying to find themselves or they think they know who they are but a very unaware of their actions, consequences, or even just the future. These people aren’t stuck forever. They move back and forth through the poles of good and bad and are harder to keep grounded because something is keeping them from being all good. For example like do all good things but, are a druggie or a cheater. I just think the problem is it’s hard to tell where a person is really at mentally until you really know who they are and how their brain works.

[LiamJHayden]

There are:

1. Good guys who are actually good guys.
2. Good guys on the surface who are manipulative jerks underneath.
3. Bad guys who are bad people.
4. Bad guys who have hearts of gold underneath.

There are also subgroups, such as genuinely good guys who will bore you to tears and genuinely good guys who are also fun and adventurous.

[FunkyMonkee]

No, there's really bad guys, good guys that CAN be bad and bad guys that MIGHT be good, at time. Sometimes there's good guys that are really bad at being bad and they end up being good and bad guys that are really bad at being good so, they stay bad.

[sage2021]

@FunkyMonkee

Is this in mansplain? You made my brain hurt reading your reply 😅😃🤣

[FunkyMonkee]

Lol.

[WilliamPamer446]

Yes but there's nuances.

Good Guy - Nuanced, Good, bad phases, Bad Boy.

Bad Guy - Consistently an arrogant, self absorbed jerk. Never self improves. Evil.

[DJB72]

As someone who has been a biker and a church leader I can tell you I tell my son if he gets lost to find the most badass biker he can. Most of them are good guys with a rough exterior.

Ted Bundy was a clean-cut looking guy and a serial killer. Don't let the outside fool you.

[CriticalCatDad123]

In other words, don’t judge a book by its cover

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Decent women like and attract decent men as their energy and values match.

Trash people attract other trashy people as their energy and vaules match.

It's literally how life is.

[Chazmatazz269]

Everyone is both. Nobody is all good and nobody is all bad.
It has become very fashionable to declare that someone is one or the other for sociopolitical clout. It’s nothing short of ignorant and hypocritical.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Nobody is all good, or all bad for that matter.. You change the circumstances and you change the person (to a degree)
Even Putin is going to be nice to his grand kids (assuming he has any)

[CriticalCatDad123]

I guess women are the ones who decide that just like how men are the ones who decide whether women are considered good or bad. Funny thing is women love being able to criticize men but hate when men do it to them. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[CrabCakes11]

Most women don’t want “bad boys”. Stop asking stupid questions

[sage2021]

@CrabCakes11
How would you know Mr.18 years old?
Someone else in the post said this is an awesome question, so there you have it.

[sage2021]

*Ms. 18*

[CrabCakes11]

Because I’m not a dimwit. Please touch grass sir

[genericname85]

no there aen't but the sake of conversation and discussion it's unavoidable to simplify cause it's impossible to have a meaningfull conversation that includes each indiviual.

[Pupweb]

No I don’t think there’s such thing as a absolute good nor bad guy

[boggboss]

No most people a a combination of both I'm yet ti see a actual guy that only good or bad

[Charliefretz329]

Guys are mostly simple creatures who are who they are. No guises.


Some are players though who invent a false narrative to fit your fantasy.


Time reveals all.

[Likes2drive]

I guess I’m one of the good guys so I never got noticed

[sage2021]

@Likes2drive
Like I wrote earlier, if women would just take more time to get to know the good guys, and mixed some of her sense of humor and whatever else to the mix, it might bring out some very good qualities of the good guy.

But sometimes after a woman has been with mostly bad guys, and when she's had enough of them, I good guy might be very appealing 🙂

[CriticalCatDad123]

I’m sorry, but women who knowingly get with bad guys constantly aren’t just suddenly going to accept a good guy. I’m living proof of that.

[Likes2drive]

It usually doesn’t work that way unfortunately, they just keep doing the same thing thinking it will change

[Awesomesauce2005]

I'm good through and through. That's why I'm still single.

[clampfan101]

When I heard the title “Fall Guy” I was expecting the characters to look like clumsy beans… 🤣

[OtterMan68]

there are all shades of moral behavior from saints to psychopaths

[handsomelad70]

Very few are always both. Good guys are sometimes bad, and vice versa.

[DreamLife7]

This sounds like it was written by someone in grade school.