When a girls says "I'll let you know" what does it mean?

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If you ask a girl to go do something with you, like going to a sports game or bowling or whatever, and she says "I'll let you know" is she just letting you down gently? I told this girl to let me know in two days and she repeated "two days" but from her tone and body language, I'm not sure if she's seriously considering it.

itssarahloveee · Accepted Answer

She's not interested. If she had been interested, it wouldn't have seemed to you like she wasn't. She'd have made it known to you that she really was considering it, there wouldn't be any room for question. If you're not sure, I wouldn't continue to pursue her. If she's interested, she'll come to you. Don't remind her that she has to tell you soon, just assume she's not going, then if she contacts you and tells you that she does want to go, it'll be a great surprise. But don't even text her until after the day you were going to the sports game/bowling/etc. It'll get her thinking as to why you didn't text her asking for an answer. That could possibly lead her to bring it up.

confusedgirl22 · Accepted Answer

Oh no, she's not into you. "I'll let you know" is defo letting you down gently. Its like when a guy says "I'll call you but never does". So just don't mention going to a game/bowlng/whatever to her and don't text/call cos she just ain't into you sorry! But you kinda kno she's not into you anyway so this won't be big shock tya anyway. If she had liked you, she would've asked "oh when do you want to go/what time etc?"

Mommy95 · Accepted Answer

It means I don't want to talk to you right now or at all. Or at least that's what it means for me.

Pandagurl_88 · Accepted Answer

It usually means "I'll let you know". Good girls don’t play games

fisher · Accepted Answer

If you ask a girl to go do something with you, like going to a sports game or bowling or whatever, and she says "I will let you know," she's probably just letting you down gently.

There could be a number of reasons why she's not interested in going out with you. Maybe she's not into sports, or maybe she's already made plans with her friends. Either way, it's probably best not to take it too personally.

If you're really interested in this girl, you could try asking her what she's up to on the day of the event. If she's free, great! If not, you'll at least know that she's not just blowing you off.

bobair · Accepted Answer

She's not. This is a normal sign that she's just not attracted to you, even if she considers you a good friend.

Romantic relationships require certain "stages" - the first being ATTRACTION, the second being RAPPORT, and the third being INTIMACY.

If you skipped the attraction stage, or have no idea how to create it, then go google it. Or read my blog.

Better luck next time dude, and don't wait around hoping she'll change her mind. Attraction requires you take action, so waiting around doesn't help.

~ Robby

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MusicMayhem · Accepted Answer

It means she won't let you know lol. Girls are pussies when it comes to confrontation so they deflect and delay an answer hoping you'll move on instead. If a girl likes you she'd say yes asap in case you decide to go out with another one and miss out.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I'm glad to hear things worked out well! Sometimes "I'll let you know" really does mean that she will let you know. The best way to deal with women is to confidently put a suggestion out there and let her decide what she wants to do without any putting any pressure on her.

UncleBertie · Answer

It seems initially, she was not interested or at least had reservations about the intent behind your invitation. Her ambiguous response can be interpreted as not interested or needing time to reflect. However, be wary, worst case she was playing hard-to-get - an attention seeker's manipulative and immature shit test to draw you into a game of catch-me-if-you-can chasey. Such a woman delights having a circle of simpering male "friends" showering her with attention. She makes full use their resources, despite knowing full well that she will never pay any of them the sexual dividend they crave. On this occasion, you can assume this woman has integrity and had second thoughts about your invitation after networking with her female friends, especially those who may know you. Personally, I have never wasted my time chasing women, preferring to ignore flirtatious behaviour. In your instance, I would have told the woman I was taking someone else. That's asserting control, an important dynamic in all social interactions. Provided she responds politely, thank her for getting back to you, and state that the uncertainty of her arrangement drove your decision. Tell her you'd still like to go out soon, ask to exchange numbers with her and promise to call her in a few days. If she responds rudely, with high-handed arrogance and contempt, or gets angry, then feel grateful that you have dodged a harpy who'd saddle you with a lifetime of misery.

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Tecilla · Answer

I said this once to guy who was quick to invite me for a date and I did like him a lot, but I felt like he was coming on too strong and I wasn't sure if he was a player. I felt like I needed time to process it as I was still hurt after a breakup and wasn't very trusting.

I'd say that if you really like the girl, be patient with her and don't jump to conclusions, and stick with her long enough to see what comes out of it.

When I did this, I was not clear with my communication and I probably hurt the guy's ego a lot.

He ended up thinking that I'm a bitch, but he had no idea what was going on in my mind haha

Biancam13 · Answer

It doesn't necessarily mean she's not interested. Please don't take this as a rejection-- NECESSARILY. I've said this to guys because I am interested, at least I am attracted to them, but I don't know them well enough to go out with them yet. Like I want to hang out with them a bit before going out. If I truly wasn't interested, I would say things like "I just see you as a friend" or "I don't think we would be a good match". I'm more straight-forward than that.

I would look for signs that she's interested in person. Because she could just be saying this because she wants to be sure about her feelings or know you better before going out with you.

GuyKyle79AD · Answer

It don't mean anything. It's not that she interested or not. That's not the right word. Cuz of not your not going to build confidence. Really it's about the theme or the time. Before anything make sure you both have interest in something. Weed or cars or games. Something to do together that you both like. You still can turn her away too. Basically doing you a favor if she doesn't. Cuz she could and still waste your time. I don't know any one or own rights to what I'm saying. I'm single. Lol

236color · Answer

Well, your update proves there is no hard and fast rule. I'm married now, but when I was single I always thought that if she told she had other plans the first time I asked her out, she may just have other plans. If I got told that twice, I took the hint.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Me telling someone “I’ll let them know” is me saying no I don’t want to but I don’t want to sound rude so imma let you think I might go. But really I don’t want to go. Coz if I am into you, as soon as you ask me out, id say yes id love that! I’d even reschedule my other appointments if any just to go out with you.

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

In 99% of cases when a girl says "i'll let you know," "maybe," or "I'll see," they have no intention of going. Absolutely none. If the stars align, or if no better option shows up they MIGHT go, but I'll let you know means NO.

Miristheiss · Answer

That's a no.

Actually, a guy should withdraw the offer. He should say something like: "it sounds like your schedule is kind of hectic let me know when you are free and want to get together"

Then walk away. Don't contact her or follow up with her any more.

PatriceONeal · Answer

Guys, when girls don't give you clear signs they're into you, then they are playing you. Girls will do the backstroke in hurricane Katrina on a Monday morning at 3am for chad, if she's not showing effort she's using you as a stepping stone as she searches for a "better" option.

ShesRad80 · Answer

sometimes it is just as it sounds, i will let you know, she may have to clear her schedule or something like see if its possible before she gives you a definite

Sour-rose · Answer

Well she let you know this time. But anytime someone says something to that effect, they're escaping the conversation and going to avoid you like a pedo. Forever. :)

Buffy6412 · Answer

"I'll let you know" is the equivelant of a guys "I'll call you". Will she? Probably not.. that saying isn't very convincing or concreate. Now.. if she would of said "Sure! I just gotta make sure I dont have any other plans that day" that seems more sincere.

Twistboy101 · Answer

It means don't bother her about it and then you two forget that you even asked her that.

Bananaman177 · Answer

You are her second option. Her first option fell through, so that's why she said yes.

LindsayR07 · Answer

It either means "I'll let you know" or she's trying to let you down easier than "nope"

rosemilk · Answer

for me it means no and i hope you forget you asked :)

TroyDT · Answer

It could be that she really has to check her schedule / other obligations. Could be that she does not want to, but is shy about saying "no."

bobbyg0313 · Answer

just happened to me today , I knew what it meant just had to make sure lol id prefer a straight answer though :)

anon1903 · Answer

when a woman says later, she means never.

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