Hero Opinions

I told her there was no need for her to know about the plans i had for tonight untill i knew for sure it was happening. There was a big chance it wasn't gonna happen and yet because i thought i could trust my hairdresser she blabbed to my mum, then mum kept making comments claiming i was over reacting and he couldn't possibly like me? She even tried to make out i was making it up And no such person existed and she made other comments too like they were digs. She tells me Not to keep secret s but what does she expect when she interfers.. She knows this guy and most of our family know him (i dont think she knows who the guy is tho) but im not an idiot i do my research as much a si can. All i wanted was a drink in the pub we'd already been to, nothing else. Yet it appears from Them im Not allowed this at all? she's always been like this interfering in my business and getting too involved. Even with my brother she's like. "yes go out with this girl when the kids are at school and dont introduce them to her" etc like he's a child and not a grown man

I met him in high school. I had a crush and we were friends but he didn’t seem interested. Then suddenly, randomly one day he did, I don't know what happened. He invited me to his prom, he was super chivalrous. We went on a few dates (this started towards the end of us being in high school and carried on into the first year of being in college) he treated me well but I didn’t feel a spark. He paid for our food or whatever we did, and I enjoyed his company but didn’t see it going anywhere. I didn’t wanna hurt his feelings but I couldn’t keep seeing him, especially with him paying I wouldn’t wanna take advantage of him. Anyways I got to the point I just made excuses when he asked to do something cause I was afraid to hurt his feelings even though I probably did regardless. Eventually he stopped messaging me and we haven’t talked since. I’m s few years wiser now. I can look back and see he treated me MUCH better than the guys I’ve been with since. I knew at the time he was such a good guy and I was so mad at myself for not being in love with him, I should be. Any girl would be lucky to be with him. Anyways, I wanna reach out and at least apologize and maybe give it a another chance, if he would even give me the time of day. I’m nervous too though, and I’m nervous to give it another shot and still just not feel any thing and potentially hurt him again, although this time around I would give him an explanation instead of just ghosting. Should I give it a shot or leave it alien?

So my bf’s been in a bad mood for a while now, he gets pissed at the little things that I do. I’ve been giving him space and distancing myself from him, I don’t bother him anymore other than just to have a quick chat sending funny videos, I don’t talk about my problems with him bcs he has a lot to deal with already, I even keep quiet and learned to take the punches he throws at me (not literally, emotional punches) and brush it off as him having an off day.

Earlier he got annoyed because I asked him a question about how his day was and he said that I’m being insensitive and annoying. I said “it was just a question, no need to be aggressive please”. Then he went to work, he then sent me a bunch of texts consisting of long paragraphs detailing my mistakes.

He does this a lot and usually I would respond with me explaining myself and how he took my actions the wrong way, I also always apologize and promise to do better. But then he would blow up and start an argument, he would also say “let’s drop this” and I’d say “okay let’s” but then he would proceed with prolonging the argument all over again… I know his pattern and I’m not gonna play along with it anymore so I simply said “Okay, I understand” and left it at that.

He then texted me back saying that he doesn’t believe me and that he needs reassurance that I won’t annoy him again. I just said “Trust me, I understand what you’re saying, I hear you”. Then he said “k.” I know he’s pissed when he responds with that. But I didn’t bother responding after that.

Did I do the right thing or was I being rude? I just don’t want him to weaponize my words to start another argument so I kept it simple and straightforward. Plus he already painted me as the bad guy anyway…