How do I know if my boyfriend is losing feelings?

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Maybe I’m just worrying too much or I watch too many romance movies but I’ve been feeling quite sad about how my relationship has been going. He used to tell me everyday that I’m beautiful and say and text cute things. He also told me many times that he loves me. Lately, he only says he loves me because I get sad when he doesn’t say it (he said something like “I feel like you know it already. Why do I have to tell you?”). The compliments have also slowed down. Is this a sign he’s losing feelings or is it a sign he’s just gotten comfortable with me? What are signs a guy is losing feelings?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

You can always try stepping on his toes if he doesn't feel anything then yes I think he's lost feeling lol..

Well you just answered your own question I think so you have to figure it out there's certain things in a relationship that you know in your heart that makes that relationship awesome there's certain things that are expected of the person to make the other person feel that emotion of love a bond a friendship.

And with most relationships when that emotion is not felt things start going a different way so get out of the rut he doesn't have to always make it happen you can make it happen too plan something do something spontaneous you have to make time for each other like it was in the beginning if you don't it just gets worse from there talk to him about it tell him how you feel and tell him how you would like to improve it your relationship with each other.

When you were with somebody you have to make it work every single day if you don't it gets old it gets still you get in a rut and it doesn't go nowhere and that's when there's . Resentment and breakdown of who you each are and who you each want to become in this relationship

And in order for him to understand you have to show him the question you just posted and tell him that's what you feel and you don't want to feel that you want to feel that love and that Bond and that happiness that you had in the beginning so start dating again start doing things again you have to make time for each other whether it be walking around the block holding hands. Having a water balloon fight going grocery store shopping going to get an ice cream something you have to keep everything alive just do something together to make plans do it don't make plans to spontaneously the unknown can be a happy place too at this moment

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

Everything slows down because in the beginning both parties tend to overdue it with their time their compliments their affection….. only to wake up and go omg I need to get back to reality here and focus on my other things in life. It can’t always be like it was in the beginning.

jazzyjic78 · Accepted Answer

You can feel distance from him when he truly loses feelings for you. The connection is completely gone physically-sexually, emotionally, and spiritually. It's like a void, an emptiness, a dark place. You'll know especially if you live together he'll probably be avoiding you around the house, or maybe even switch his work hours so he doesn't have to even be around you unless it's convenient for the kids and he has to help out and his schedule changes.

Otherwise you'll definitely know if you've become just roommates. If he's not doing anything that he use to do to you or for you then something is wrong honey. And it doesn't mean he lost feelings, maybe he lost something within himself and can't digest it and don't know how to break it to you because he feel like you might judge his character and personality for it instead of listening and accepting him and loving him more.

Men don't know how to show or express certain feelings sometimes, there just boy's inside of a man's body. Maybe you should try talking to the boy in him so you can find your Man and bring him back to reality.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

You’re young, and some young guys will stop saying something if they’ve said it over and over again to you… they figure you know already. (Not all guys are like this of course, but some… just don’t like to repeat themselves.)

A sweet guy might say something nice to you every day or tease you a little so you know he’s looking at you and appreciative. It may not sound precisely like what you’d like to hear but it’s their mode of expression.

Having said all this, if you’re one of the very needy types of girls who has to be told over and over again that you’re lovely… please figure out how to minimize that. Neediness doesn’t suit anyone and is one of the big things that can lead to breakups.

Finchie40 · Answer

If he is distancing himself from you and barely making any effort to spend time with you , than yes he is more than likely losing feelings for you , if the intimacy and affection you once had with him died down and he doesn’t really want to be intimate and affectionate with you anymore? That’s a sign he is losing interest in you. Have a serious sit down talk with him and ask him if he still truly loves you and tell him why you are feeling the way that you are feeling , If he truly loves you he will try to fix what is broken , if he doesn’t truly love you , he won’t make any attempts to fix what is broken , if that is the case? That is your answer to walk away and move on from him. When someone truly loves you , they won’t hesitate to fix what is broken , they will make you their priority and try to rekindle the flame and passion that was slowly fading away. . We aren’t mind readers and we don’t really know what is going on inside each others’ heads , so it’s best to communicate and express your feelings of concern before assuming you already know the answer

Bethany22 · Answer

If his eyes don't light up when he sees you anymore, then that's a bad sign. And if it's always you taking initiative to do things together. Try stop initiating, and see what happens.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Maybe he’s going through some rough times and it’s not necessarily about you of his feelings towards you. Maybe he doesn’t mean to but ask him what’s going on before jumping into conclusions.

Avicenna · Answer

You know him best and would know if something is off or different

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

It's hard when you experience all that attention and then it tapers off a bit. If you are always wanting confirmation from him about where your relationship is at, that indicates that you may be dealing with some insecurity. Guys want to care for us gals, but no guy is capable of handling the full weight of our emotional needs and insecurities. That isn't meant to be a criticism of guys or girls, it's just what I have observed and come to understand. Of course a guy should tell you he loves you, but at the same time, do you believe him? Do you own his love, or do you push it away and downplay it? Remember that he fell for something about you, and try to think about what that was or even ask him.

As for a guy losing feelings, generally he doesn't want to hang out or do things with you anymore. He is always on his phone, doesn't text you or only texts when you initiate. It sound like he is still very much with you, which is good. A guy who isn't interested anymore will start making obvious (read: lame) excuses.

in my opinion, I think you might be feeling scared of losing him and possibly have a tendency to try to split first before he can hurt you. If that's the case, hang in there and try to have some faith in him. Don't overthink it!

tzdc21 · Answer

It does sound like he's withdrawing, or maybe he's going through something right now and he's not telling you, which is common among men when in relationships with women. That's a whole different conversation. But let me ask this, how often do you reciprocate what he's doing to you? How often do you compliment him, listen to him, show your appreciation and respect for him, or go out of your way to do things for him? Because a lot of times when men withdraw from a relationship, it's because the girlfriend isn't showing the same effort towards him that he's putting into her. So that's why I ask.

rosemilk · Answer

it is okay to want reassurance from your own boyfriend. sometimes, people just get too comfortable and fade away from saying cute things. doesn't mean they don't love you anymore. but i love you should be said on a daily basis at least once a day.

BUT the red flag i'm getting here is that "you know it already. why do i have to tell you?" because it's what couples do? i would be extremely upset. it does sound like he's losing interest. i know talking to him probably won't help much because of that response he gave, but you deserve to feel loved and be said i love you too. and this dude is not putting in the effort

ThaMaskedMarvel · Answer

He's not losing feelings for you at all. It's just that his preference is to not keep stating what he's already said. You want the compliments to flow continuously. By his logic, you already know how he feels about how you look, etc. He feels annoyed that he has to say it again & again. It's a preference. He's just not that type of guy & you're the type that wants a steady flow of compliments. He feels that your relationship is stronger than a steady flow of cute texts & compliments.

You have 2 choices in front of you. You communicate to him how you feel by saying everything you've said above & come to a compromise or you break up due to not being compatible & not getting the fulfillment that you want out of a relationship.

sage2021 · Answer

I would say the least the things you mentioned yourself. He has definitely changed.

Also if he stops looking at you in your eyes when he's having a conversation with you. He'll avoid eye contact.

When you are used to him showing you that he loves you it is a big void in your heart when he stops saying the things that made you feel loved.

Mr_twoface · Answer

A noticeable decrease in the time he wants or makes to spend with you could indicate a shift in his feelings as well as changes in the level of affection, both physical and verbal, can be a red flag. Other signs to consider is if he seems disinterested or detached when you’re together, significant changes in his behavior, mood, or habits that aren’t linked to other life changes and/or if he’s less supportive to your needs and wants.

strateguy632 · Answer

you worry too much his feelings are same unless he complained.

after we say: i love you once, that "doesn't change until further notice", that is why...

we don't repeat kuz we already said it! so same, no change until further notice.

t know if lost, is when he says things are problems.

Somoneelse · Answer

"or I watch too many romance movies but I’ve been feeling quite sad about how my relationship has been going."  Yep this might already be a issue as I feel like you are cocmparing your relationship to those movies. Am I right? Stop worrying and start living. Only then you can know if your boyfriend is losing feelings or not. Now you let your doubts control you. Take control of the wheel!

Yoursweetgirl · Answer

Girl, you can step on him or slap him and he will regain those feelings real fast.
The audacity smh 🙄
Will he die if he tells that he loves you?
Also you don't know if he loves you or not if you started considering if he's losing feelings or not. I think he's losing feelings or at least is decreasing his effort to the point where he's lazy to say one sentence.

boobliker · Answer

don't worry or that will be what you are thinking when you should be enjoying being with him. if he is loseing feelings and that what is on you mind he want to know what is wrong. and as most women just nothing it pisses us men off as we would not ask if we had not seen a change in our girl

Twalli · Answer

I had this same problem with my girlfriend. The way guys think is that we told her and that's enough. We'll let her know if it changes. My girlfriend and my mom discussed this with me. It got yo the point that whenever I feel a lot of love for my girlfriend, I say it. Maybe ask him to say it every time he feels love for you, even if it's seemingly random.

Jimmy499 · Answer

I feel it may just be because you're past the honeymoon stage. Maybe give him little prompts to say things, it should help.

Eg, what do you think of my outfit, or saying ILY to him.

I don't know, be creative.

Could also do things yourself to help spark up the relationship again. Take him on a date to something he likes. Or do an activity he enjoys.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

Hi girlie! Please don't worry too much ❤️ I think it's not really him losing feelings, maybe just give him a little space. Maybe he's stressed also? From his job, school, etc.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

How many times a week are you having sex? What's his cell phone behavior? Social media behavior? Future plans or flaky? Who initiated date nights?

soe11 · Answer

Don't worry my dear  Someone not keen on you, leave behind, find some one who keen on you. Find someone who willingly run behind you. Be happy with healthy heart.

summiter · Answer

How long have you two been together? Sometimes things slow down a bit in a relationship. Is the sex still ok with him?

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