How do I know if I'm emotionally draining my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

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10 mo

How can you tell when you're draining someone? That's all I'm asking, thank you to everyone response

[MemeSupreme]

do you ever push him away, look for fights, say a lot of negative stuff, or not show interest in his well being like openly?

i feel like a partner is draining when they bring a lot of a lot negative energy to the table especially if they don't try to work on it.

[Asker]

No negative energy. okay good, no negative energy mean no draining right?

[MemeSupreme]

maybe, but sometimes we do stuff thats negative without realizing it lol, so you could ask him if you do anything that drains him

i know i can be a handful as a partner, so i try to make up for it by doing nice things for him to show him i care. like i'll bring him food after he's worked all day and just cuddle him, so he can just be relaxed. it can be anything that shows you think about him

[Anonymous]

You’re asking this for a reason, look into why.

[Opinion Owner]

In regards to your update, the feeling of being drained is different for everyone, so we will all have varying responses that may or may not relate to what your boyfriend is experiencing. So when I say “look into why”, I’m asking what your boyfriend is doing to trigger you asking this question. Like is he less talkative? Tired? Disengaged? What’s his behavior, because you don’t ask this question out of the blue. Only you know your partner and if he’s acting differently, and only you know if you trigger it.

[Asker]

He not acting differently, but sometimes I feel like I drain him

[Opinion Owner]

What’s he doing that makes you feel that way?

[lightbulb27]

ask him. if he's less responsive, yes.

[In_Trance]

ask him

[Jadebamboo]

He tells you.