"How Do You Feel About Me?" Best Answers to This Situation!

[Anonymous]

I like you as a person, I think you're intelligent & interesting, I like hanging out with you...I'm 'attracted' to you...i also think you are weird & you freak me out. translate please. (history dated 1year ago & the asker had to leave so it ended. No one rejected anyone & at the time the askee said that they still had feelings for the asker...tho this year they have ignored each other for about 2/3 of the year...been spending a lot of time together for a few months now)

[ahmetakkaya]

"How do you feel about me?"

This is a question that we often find ourselves asking in a variety of situations. Whether we are in a new relationship or have been married for years, we want to know how our partner feels about us. The answer to this question can be difficult to determine, but there are some key things to look for that can give you a better idea.

One of the best ways to gauge how someone feels about you is to pay attention to their body language.

• Do they make eye contact with you when they speak?
• Do they smile or laugh when they are around you?

These are all positive signs that they enjoy your company and feel comfortable around you.

Another way to tell how someone feels about you is to listen to the things they say. If they regularly compliment you or express their affection for you, then it is likely that they have strong feelings for you. However, if they are constantly critical or negative towards you, then it is possible that they do not feel as strongly about you as you might hope.

Ultimately, the best way to gauge how someone feels about you is to simply ask them. This can be a difficult conversation to have, but it is the most direct way to find out. If they are unwilling to talk about their feelings, then it is possible that they are not as invested in the relationship as you are. However, if they are open and honest with you about their feelings, then it is likely that they feel just as strongly about you as you do about them.

[The_Box]

I think that from that context alone, that the askee certainly likes the asker but doesn't really understand the asker. The askee is intimidated by the asker and while the askee likes the asker, the askee is afraid to get close.

Of course, that's just the most logical conclusion, I think, based on what you've given me right here.

[Asker]

Thank s for answering :-)

Do you get the sense that the askee , is purposefully evasive?

" liking someone as a person" - not code for' I just want to be friends,' or ' I do not LIKE like you' ?

"i think you are weird & you freak me out, " do you think that has any significance- is it bad?

[The_Box]

I would say that the askee isn't. evasive. The askee seemed to have spoken the askee's mind. The askee liking the asker as a person is not a code for just wanting to be friends I'd imagine, but showing that the askee respects the asker on a deep level. As for the askee thinking the asker is weird, it is bad. It means the askee is intimidated by the asker. Like I said before "the askee likes the asker, the askee is afraid to get close."

Of course, that's just on what you've given me.

[anydaynow]

it sounds like at the time...the askee may have been a little confused about his feelings for the asker. But if you guys are spending a little more time together these past few months, I think it could be a good sign. It really depends. Its doesn't really help translate what he said to you. I'm guessing that last line might mean that you're different from other girls he's met and maybe that intimidates him. It could mean a lot of things.

[Asker]

Lol I was trying to make it non gender specific .

i was wondering if the liking as a PERSON was suposed tomean as just a friend aas like ont lore than a friendf..but t is confusing to me because person to,e means I resoet someone wether otr not I like tham as a friend ..it has nothing do with 'liking' more than Friend or not .

& I would have asked but he thru me off with the sweird comment. he said he does ont understand why I do the thing I do...which really did not help clarify anything.

[Asker]

Btw thank you for answering :)

[anydaynow]

Haha, Oh I see now. Hmmm, wow, this askee person is quite a mystery. To be honest with you, I really do think he was confused about how he felt at the time. I once had mixed feelings for a guy. Like, he had a lot of quirks and did a lot of weird things and yet, at the same time, I was still kind of attracted to him. So maybe that's what the askee meant...

But you're right, his choice of words is leaving you stumped as to whether or not he's interested in you as a friend or more than a friend.

[Asker]

Yea.......i'm not as a rather intimate moment.....we were kissing & he was half naked- well he started out that way lol

it is the person thing I am confused about......i wonder if he was using it as a life raft incase things did not turn out he could always say he meant as a friend....

:)

[anydaynow]

have you ever considered bringing up the conversation again and asking exactly what he meant by it? :)

[Asker]

No. lolol it was already way past anything I would ever do.

> he asked me why I did not ask him how he felt about me 2 years ago when I decided to stop talking him

i felt I should have asked then , since he was hurt, so I did it now, out of curiosity, but I never talk about feelings & I don't want to feel like I'm nagging& I really did not mean to have that convo& I guess if he wanted to be clear, he would have been

i just wonder if he used person 2 make a point about being friends.

[Relationshipexplain]

I've been exploring how to respond when a girl asks about your feelings for her. Here's a concise guide to help you navigate this often delicate situation:

• Be Honest and Direct: Start by saying, "I feel for you differently than others." Always be straightforward and respectful.
• Consider the Relationship Context: Your response should be tailored to your relationship with her - whether she's a girlfriend, a friend, a colleague, or someone you've just met.
• If She's Your Girlfriend: Emphasize your deep, romantic feelings. Be expressive and specific about what she means to you.
• In a Flirtatious Context: Keep it light and playful. If the mood is right, flirt back in a respectful manner.
• Serious Discussions: If the conversation is serious, especially after a disagreement, reaffirm your feelings without letting the conflict overshadow your emotions.
• If You Want to Break Up: Be honest but gentle. Acknowledge the good times but explain your perspective on why the relationship might not work.
• If She's a New Acquaintance: Be open about your feelings, whether it's a growing interest or just seeing potential for friendship.
• Professional Context: Be diplomatic. If you're interested, express it subtly. If not, focus on the professional admiration you have for her.
• With a Friend: If you have romantic feelings, be honest but considerate. If not, emphasize the value of your friendship and how much you treasure it.
• Handling Confusion: If you're unsure about your feelings or the situation, it's okay to express that. Take time to understand your emotions before responding.
• General Norms: Maintain confidence, avoid rudeness, respect her feelings, and be clear and unambiguous. Don't escape the situation; address it maturely.

Remember, the key is to communicate your feelings honestly while being considerate of hers. Each situation is unique, so adapt your response to fit the context and your true feelings. Feel free to check out my post on Relationship Explained for more details on any of these points!

[Crimsyjo]

Wow. Wish I could pin that to the top of my social media or whatever way of communicating I have with guys I am seeing potential in and wondering how they feel back? One guy I really like is so unable to clearly communicate his feelings for me! I get confused and don't know whether to keep investing in him or pull away. I much prefer if a guy says yes I like you, I'm uncertain orrr I do like you but not like that... you know. Be so much easier! I'm sure guys think girls can't handle the truth and will go crazy mean or stalker or something!

[exitseven]

It depends on the context. If it is a girl who was romantically interested in me and I did not feel the same way, if we were friends I might say that i love you but not the way I am supposed to.

[abc3643]

I think the real question to ask is "Do you feel like we do?"

https://www.youtube.com/embed/hUioud7Qtsw

[CTHuskyMan]

If someone's asking this about you, I think the best answer is the truth. There's no point in lying about how you really feel.

[MCheetah]

Okay, cool beans.

[BJP21]

Indecisive?

[Iron_Man]

Odd indeed