Are guys on dating apps mainly looking for hookup?

[holeymole]

[V_Injector]

We take what we can get. I compare our (us men) sexual appetites to our general IQ, while women tend to be incredibly average and predictable, we have more geniuses as well as the most retards.

fucking A right?

So what is going to drive a man to make a profile at all? Sex. I mean damn, isn't that what the site is for?

I have to move around a lot and I mainly use those sites to get a feel for what I'm dealing with in my area. There's a big difference in the women looking for me in San Diego California compared to Bremerton Washington. One has way more hot sluts and the other has way more fat and old wannabe sluts... It's like taking an area's temperature or a reading on where I stand as a man in that area. Who hits me up? Well, in one place it's a bunch of gay guys and complete whores (3 to 4 ratio) and in the other it's women that shouldn't even think they have a chance with me, but they do think they have a chance because they're used to the men being incredibly desperate.

I'm on the higher end of the sexual marketplace, so I get to sit back and pick and choose. I'm there to fuck. Women on the other hand... I mean a good grip of them reject me from the start simply because I've been doing the soft guy era for over 2 decades, drizzle drizzle baby. I'm the prize so they need to pay me, buy me things, and entertain me. The gold diggers are out. Then I have to deal with rejecting all the chicks that are on a war path to find commitment... because they've been sucking and fucking their way into their 30's and now find themselves single with children and now all of a sudden they've decided they're ready for something serious. I'm sure they are (Not), but I'm not interested in someone that's done having fun and wants to throw responsibilities in my lap that I didn't create.

You're right... we dudes are mainly looking for the bedroom fun. Women could be on there for nothing more than some attention. A pay pig or even a babysitter.

I'm just talking out my ass right now so I'll end this right here... I'm just looking to sensually assault some vaginas.

[Finchie40]

All guys’ want sex , it’s how we were made. Some guys’ control it better than others’ do. So if a guy is showing interest in you? He more than likely already pictured you naked in his arms , The hard part is not knowing what his true intentions are with you, if he does end up getting you interested in him , he either just wants sex or he wants more with you. This is the same thing us guys’ experience with girls’ , we aren’t mind readers and we can’t predict the future , We can easily assume we know what this person is after but we really don’t know for sure. It’s a chance we all take when it comes to meeting someone new and exciting to us. We hope they are on the same page with ourselves , but sadly it’s a 50/50 chance on whether they are or not. From my personal experiences with girls’ I feel it’s best to just go for it if I am attracted to her and not really think about the future , I am focusing on enjoying our time together , if she wants to lie to me and keep secrets that’s her problem not mine , and sadly she will suffer the consequences of her actions if i eventually find out the truth , that’s the other thing , I no longer play investigator with a girl unless I hear things about her from other people that know her , but other than that I just treat her the same way I want to be treated in return. I will not give my heart to a girl that can’t be honest with me , that isn’t showing trust and respect to me , I might fuck her , but I won’t commit to her until she gives to me the same way I give to her. Sadly I had my fair share of lying selfish girls ‘ that I had fun with , basically thanks for a good time , but not a long time. Most people in general have a hard time being honest , they just say things that they think you want to hear but when push comes to shove their true colors shine , why I no longer jump into a committed relationship with a girl , FWB’s is the best thing , mainly because how society is today , with so many selfish people on this planet. I will not give my heart to a girl until she proves she is giving me her heart in return.

[sheikalana]

Different people both men and women use dating apps with different expectations. Some use it for casual dating. Others use it for hookups. Others use it to meet different people when travelling. Others use it with hopes of finding someone long-term.

[wiltingrosepetal]

It's about 50/50 from what I've seen. A lot of guys still go into it looking for a relationship

[Avicenna]

I would assume that until he proves otherwise by his actions

[MrNameless]

I don't know.. It's hard to say. I would say the older they are, the less likely they are into hookups. Look at their profiles. They'll usually say if they looking for a serious relationship or not. And then look at how they behave towards you. I'd ask questions about getting to know you and how they behaved on the first date. Ask him what he's looking for as well in person to confirm. I would think most guys would be truthful (like if they are looking for a serious relationship on their profile, they really are)

[CaptainOverthink]

I think most guys looking for relationship on apos aren't very good at signaling their worth.. or just don't have rizz.
Meaning.. They aren't picked.
Mostly because having texting-rizz, profile-framing and so is something people with dating-succsess do. And if you feel like you are valuable like that (sexual affirmation let say), then most want to sleep around some until somewhere around 27 .
But there are plenty who want relationships, but they do way better outside of apps.

That is my thought on it..

[JacobJordan]

Yup. Most of the guys that want to marry are already married. They didn't even make it to dating apps. They met the girl in their late teens early 20s got married and done. That was the window. 3-5 years whatever is left generally doesn't want to get married

[Serkee]

I don't think that's true at all. There are a whole lot of men that want to marry, we just aren't charismatic enough for women to want us.

[JacobJordan]

@Serkee charisma has nothing to do with it.

[Serkee]

It has a whole hell of a lot to do with it. You're simply wrong if you think most guys who want to marry are already married.

[JacobJordan]

@Serkee no I'm really not sorry to burst your bubble most marriage focused men get married in their early 20s. There are of course men that get married later. And there are also men who decide they want to get married later in life as well

[Serkee]

Most attractive* marriage focused men get married in their early 20s. A huge chunk of men can't even get a date.

[JacobJordan]

@Serkee I am average maybe slightly above average. I got married in my 20s. Nah reason people aren't getting married in their 20s is poor choices. Lower your standards if you aren't a top tier man stop expecting top tier women. If you are fat, min wage job and a slob find a similar partner or change so you can get better. This goes both ways. If you can't deal with western women go overseas more than enough foreign women would love an American men even a "unattractive" one

[genericname85]

no but chances are that the guys not mainly looking for hookups are fed up with being ignored cause girls ignore men as a consequence of being pissed off from the few men who will try to fuck any girl. which is amplified by the fact that there's probably 100 men for every 1 girl on these apps.

[Serkee]

Some are, but I don't think most are. Guys just aren't very good at putting our thoughts into words, and a lot of us are scared of being passed over for looking too clingy or emotional so our profiles are pretty bare.

[blkgold33]

I’m looking for hookup relationship and even a sugar momma if I’m really lucky

[Benjiman19]

I am looking for a hookup, yes... But I also want a relationship. But I can't seem to ever get a match

[desidoll]

From what my friends told me, that’s what it seems to be the norm these days.

[Berethor]

Seems so, maybe try looking for someone in GAG, there is some serious guys here. :)

[Awesomesauce2005]

There are crazy ones too beware!

[scott04sa22]

The reason why I'm not on dating apps Because I never get matches and when I do get matches they reject me like instant.

[itsclearlynicholas]

A decent amount, yet I did look for relationships as much as FWBs. .
I guess I just wasn't anyone's type 😋😋😋😋

[itsclearlynicholas]

Only twice or three times in my life have different women so far, shown interest in me, yet each I either didn't want that much or I felt like, and none were ugly or fat or rude personalities, neither seemed like my type. You know? Or, I wasn't feeling the vibe 🍔🐯🐅

[Anonymous]

No. Most guys would happily take consistent sex and a happy relationship over having to struggle again and again.

I have a feeling why you are asking, and the answer to that is that you are selecting the guys that can and do sleep around.

[Anonymous]

No. Women just have a habit of choosing the men who just want hookups. Nothing worth having is ever easy.

[Nikki1989]

They are looking for anything they can get. Dating apps are for the desperate.

[VV3ZZY123]

I mainly want a relationship. But I won't turn down a hookup

[Guanfei]

I don't. And I'm still single.
Maybe I should try to look for a hook-up, that would work better.

[pethouse]

I tried downloading bumble and tinder to find a girlfriend but unfortunately no matches

[avery58]

On Tinder yes, which is why I avoid it

[boggboss]

Yeah a large quantity of guys are