My boyfriend follows random girls on Instagram, should I be worried?
My boyfriend for just over a year recently has been following random girls on Instagram and it’s making me
feel so uneasy and at times insecure about myself, I trust him but before he wasn’t doing this. Does this mean anything?
Like should I be worried? I feel like if I call him out on it il sound annoying and nagging which I’m not like that with him. Could I get some advice pls?
I'd talk to him about it, but in a calm way. I wouldn't want my SO to accuse me of something that could just be mindless boredom like most social media.
I'd just tell him up front, that him suddenly following a bunch of random girls made me feel uneasy. Let him know it's not that you don't trust him, it just makes you feel a little insecure.
I'd also avoid accusing him right now, because that puts everyone on the defensive and doesn't allow open communication. In the meantime, reflect on WHY it makes you uncomfortable. If there's an insecurity on your part, or trust issue of some sort that he hasn't given any reason for, then that's something you need to work on.
You can let him know that too, and just ask him to be patient with you while you work on it. Then actually work on it. Try to remember why you trust him, why you care about him, and what kind of person he is. Never ignore your instincts, but don't let fear or insecurities rule your emotions either. But definitely talk to him before you get all psyched out over it.
If he acts distant, hides his phone, suddenly puts a lock on it, etc, then I'd be prepared for worst case scenario.
Agree. Also, men tend to use social media to get women, period. I just posted a question today and this guy I dealt with remotely on work projects, we're on social media some flirting has been happening. I dig deeper and find out that he's married. Men following other females may NOT be cheating, but they sure are 'shopping' to say the least.
I'd tell him of my concerns, and if he continued, get rid of him.
I'd monitor it. He may be ready to move on from you.
I've been with guys who did this it really wound me up, but that was also because I had good reason not to trust them.
You have to go with your gut instinct, besides the follows, are there any other signs?
Is he being shady with his phone, or acting any different with you?
Still intimate, spending time with you and all that?
Usually it's coupled with other behavioural traits as opposed to just the one.
If it bothers you just bring it up once, he's your boyfriend and if something is bothering you you should be able to have an adult conversation about it. If he flips out or acts defensive then you know there's more going on.
I'd say keep your guard up, just be wary of any changes.
This. Usually this weird behaviour from a guy is coupled up with other strange behaviour. That's why you're wondering about it and asking us. It's your spidey senses telling you something; listen to it. I would say just following girls can go either way- is it attractive female celebrities/ people he will never meet? Or is it actual real-life girls he finds hot? The first is fine, the second I would be very wary of him.
**crickets chirping**
I'd assume not, but I don't use much social media, so I don't know the intricacies of flirting by liking pictures and whatnot.
You feel insecure because he talks to other women? I suggest looking deeper at yourself then, from my expeirence insecurity comes from within, not from external forces, so this fear is probably based off of your fears and past much more than it is to his actions (though maybe he is, i don't know). Have you ever experienced people using this method to cheat? A parent maybe? A friend? Maybe you did? People often connect the past and present even if the circumstances are different, so if you saw someone else cheat in a similar way you will unconsciously feel worried.
You say you trust him, but if you get this worried over this, either you don't trust him much, or you are very insecure. From my experience, insecurity acted like an inflatable bed of trust issues. It'd slowly build up until my insecurity overwhelmed my trust and I felt certain I was being cheated on, even from ridiculously small things, like she'd send me a message "hey..." and I'd think to myself "here we go, she's about to tell me she cheated".
An ex doing similar things could trigger it too, or just being cheated on a lot. There are more reasons why these insecurities can build up too.
I guess , it’s just the first time I’ve been like this with someone my ex was a very loyal person he never done things like this however we were way younger. I’m scared that’s all, because I’ve been really committed I don’t wanna over think or if I do ask him he will feel like I’m being a nag.
@asker I'd suggest bringing it up to him them, but take responsibility for the feelings. Tell him that it's based in insecurity and that you need to know so you can stop worrying. If you phrase it wrong it will probably turn into a fight because you will come off sounding accusatory instead of like you want answers.
Again, did you have any similar experiences of have you been used often? Maybe some friends brought it up to you at some point? This doesn't seem like a natural fear and you said yourself that it makes you feel insecure. A counsellor could help with insecurities, but you could probably just be honest with him about how you feel. As long as you don't come across like you're blaming him then it should be okay. I think he should be able to understand insecurity and want to help you get past that, imp he wouldn't care much about you if he didn't.
I don't think it stems from insecurity, often those women that they are following are not women that you can have conversations with about politics, history , sports or common interests, they are instagram models that pose provocatively with bodies that have undergone procedures and with filters that make them unreal. So yeah ut does affect your relationship when they are constantly on your feed whole your girl is sitting with her messy hair chillin. A guy I knew and was intrested in did follow them, we tried to talk on Twitter because I had problems with my Instagram account and I checked his Twitter account, he was basically begging them to show themselves naked... no one wants to be with someone like that and he told me I was insecure when I tried to distance myself from him because of this...
It's a common question, and one that can be hard to answer.,
If you've ever found yourself wondering, "Why does my boyfriend follow random girls on Instagram? Is he cheating on me?" - don't worry, you're not alone. It's a common question, and one that can be hard to answer.
There could be a number of reasons why your boyfriend is following random girls on Instagram. Maybe he's just trying to get more followers himself. Or, maybe he's curious about what other people are posting. It's also possible that he's looking for new friends, or trying to keep up with old friends.
Whatever the reason, there's no need to worry unless you have other reasons to believe that your boyfriend is cheating on you. If he's being secretive about his Instagram activity, or if he's spending more time on the app than he used to, those could be red flags. But if he's just casually scrolling through his feed and happens to follow a few random girls, it's probably nothing to worry about.
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It doesn't mean anything. Men and women are different. Guys just admire the female form. It means that he has an impulse to stick his dick in them. But it has nothing to do with you.
The penis has a mind of its own; it's separate from his mind and heart. Whereas, the vagina is more intimately connected with the heart and mind. Which is why women always ask questions like these, always show concern. But it is not necessary. He is just admiring beauty. It doesn't mean you're not enough for him; it doesn't mean you're not giving him something he needs. It just means "Oooooh look at the shiny."
4 chicks who are going to experience a lot of heartache and confusion, because they can't understand or accept male nature. Men aren't women.
Not all guys are pigs like you. I’d rather have to break up with more partners over this than stay in a relationship with a guy who thinks this is acceptable.
And I already know a good majority of guys are like this. That changes nothing. Guys need to be held to a higher standard, and I’m not going to feel bad for that. Both my sisters were able to find respectful men who don’t pull this shit. If male nature is to be perverted something needs to change.
Dawg your a shithead
Doesn't that fuck you mentally up? Men are not godly creatures their mind can be fucked up with constant dose of dopamine , and you will also find your partner ugly so many men experienced this. It's really hard generalizing men too especially since we as species evolved and have different backgrounds/experiences etc
deal--the more porn one watches, the less attractive real life women become--even if their beauty marks the stars.
These are your words that I found in your profile, maybe some men think of women like holes instead of human beings because they are sick mentally and sexually or feel the need to have a "hareem" but that is the unhealthy approach , just like junk food and this is why the society is sick nowadays. Sex is an intimate thing done with the person that you trust this is what elevates the experience. Men and women both will seek intimacy from the one that they had sex with , there is a reason for the phenomenon of male loneliness its because they also crave love. This false myth that your saying about the vagina being close to your heart ( even tho the heart is not the one related to feelings) stems from the dehumanizing of women the man will be fucking her while thinking that she was born to please him and she is a tool for his pleasure only with a little bit of slut shaming also because you'reeither a madonna or a whore. That's why most women dont reach orgasm. But y'all prefer to go with the rethoic I am a man I have to fuck 400 women a day to feel satisfied and you have sit and watch me while admiring me and loving me. Basically like a hareem 🖤
If your boyfriend finds it more important to openly drool over women on social media than to invest in the depth and sincerity of your relationship, what does that reveal about his priorities? It’s clear that his attention isn't directed toward your happiness. He should be devoted to you, cherishing the bond you share, instead of indulging in the allure of half-naked women displayed on the internet. Your relationship deserves his full focus and passion.
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Generally speaking, if something (anything) bothers you, you should always address it with your boyfriend because your uneasiness with whatever it is won't just magically go away.
That said, unless it is someone he actually has contact with rather than just someone whose appearance he admires, I wouldn't worry about it and wouldn't address it with him.
Worried about what? It's unlikely that he's ever going to meet these girls. I'm guessing he likes to look at them when he masturbates... like most guys do.
Yes you should be worried that such a person could commit in a meaningful way.
If you have a bad feeling or see weird stuff yes otherwise it’s fine
Yes you should be worried. My ex dates other women and then shows me the dates he took them on to deliberately hurt me. To stress me and cause me so much pain and suffering and then he pretends he did nothing wrong. He likes other girls more than me and then forces me to watch him date other women that he proudly says are prettier than me. He abused me physically and emotionally and then laughs at me when the girls say hi to him. He is out to destroy my life simply because he does not care about me as a human, as someone with rights. He is a horrible person and pretends he is a good person. I need help and everyone is to busy taking advantage of me and having a good time at it. You have to be careful who you ask for help because sometimes they will help but not really care about you. My dad left me when I was a little girl for another woman. I suffered all my life because of it, I was sexually abused by my uncle who made me rub his dick for a couple minutes before I got the courage to leave. I see demons and devils all the time. I have kids. I am so scared people are trying to hurt me. I asked him for help and he raped me not knowing that it was rape. I am all the way in someones grave and people still deliberately hurt me. Girls raised by single moms are more prone to sexual abuse and assault because their father is not there and my ex abused and assaulted me sexually and laughed about it. I wanted to commit suicide. I cut myself. I hit myself and I wanted to die. All because my ex didn't care enough about me. He tries to make girls prettier than me through the suffering I had. Most people care but he didn't. He didn't care and I almost died. Kindness is easy to give. I try to be kind to people. Since my dad isn't here to protect me, I get raped often. I have had many guys fuck me because I didn't know what to do. Most of the men had such big dicks it ripped my insides apart so I suppose it was rape. All becuase I wanted a man to fulfill the loss of my dad, I have myself raped. But this time, the rape was to much, it was so much I became a saint. God opened up his heaven to see who was making this mother suffer. He crowned me. Rape victims often commit suicide. Gang rape victims are the worst. They normally want to die afterwards. To be fucked against your will and then thrown to the side. Rape is the worst thing that can happen to someone. I was raped. God help me.
I promote the independence of men and their separation from relationships with women.
If your boyfriend follows random girls on Instagram, it's important to note that I encourage emotional independence and separation from romantic and sexual relationships with women.
If you feel uncomfortable or worried about the situation, it would be best to talk to your boyfriend to express your feelings and concerns and to try to understand his motivations behind following these girls on Instagram.
If your partner continues to do things that make you uncomfortable, you must make the decision to walk away from the situation and move on with your life.
However, it is important to remember that my approach is based on the idea of independence and separation from relationships with women, so if your partner continues to choose to follow girls on Instagram, you should respect their decision and consider whether this situation is compatible with your own needs and values.
Ultimately, the decision to continue or end the relationship should be made by you, based on what you feel is best for your emotional and personal well-being.
People can be interested in other people. I think it's common to follow family, friends, (former) classmates, coworkers, sportsmen and women, politicians, singers, actors, artists and other celebrities on social media, regardless of the gender. And the same for people you've met online if you share similar interests, or have the same hobby.
It might be a bit different if he follows someone who is not famous and isn't in one of the other previously mentioned categories either. In principle, I would say there is no harm in it. I mean, it's just following someone online - which he (unless their profile is locked) can also do without following them by going to their account. But I can understand some girls would feel insecure if their boyfriend does that. In fact, I follow some people which you might consider influencers or online creators on Instagram, while they're definitely not famous. Why? To be honest: most of these girls are attractive in their own way. However, that doesn't mean I would want to date them or that I would want to be in a relationship with them. I have my girlfriend and I have absolutely no intention to contact random girls via Instagram. I only follow as I appreciate their content. My girlfriend knows, she can't care about it at all. She knows it isn't a threat for our relationship. And following other girls doesn't mean that I don't find my girlfriend attractive. I think it's pretty normal to find multiple people attractive.
What I'm trying to say is, don't make more of it than it is. He is following some girls on Instagram. Unless he has intentions to contact those girls, I don't see it as a risk for your relationship. But if you still feel uncomfortable about it, talk with him and try to understand why he is following these girls.
While people should theoretically have the freedom to follow anyone they choose, it's important to consider the implications of these actions, especially in relationships. When men follow women in revealing clothing, it can often raise concerns about their motivations. The ability to directly message someone can blur the lines of trust in a relationship. Many may argue that there are innocent reasons for following such accounts, but it’s crucial to address the feelings and insecurities that can arise in these situations. Open communication about boundaries and intentions can help partners navigate these conversations and build a healthier understanding of trust and respect within their relationship.
Being worried that you'll sound like you're nagging is what stops so many women from saying something to their man when they should. If you go about it tactfully, and don't accuse him of anything, and treat it just like any other conversation then it should be okay. "Hey babe, I just wanted to ask, I've noticed you added a lot of female friends on your Instagram. Are these friends you spend time with, or people you met on instragam? It makes me uncomfortable if these are unfamiliar women you're following". He shouldn't have a reason to feel that you're nagging if you're addressing something that makes you feel uncomfortable. If does, then I would be suspect of him.
It's understandable that this behavior from your boyfriend is making you feel uneasy and insecure. It's important to remember that social media can be a tricky space and everyone uses it differently. Following someone on Instagram does not necessarily mean that your boyfriend is interested in them or is trying to cheat on you.
However, if this behavior is bothering you, it's important to communicate this to your boyfriend in a calm and non-accusatory way. It's important to express how you feel and to ask for clarification on why he is following these random girls on Instagram. It's possible that he is simply exploring Instagram and following accounts that he finds interesting or appealing.
Having open and honest communication with your partner is crucial in a healthy relationship. If you find it difficult to talk to your boyfriend about this, you can also consider speaking to a trusted friend or a therapist to help you process your emotions and thoughts.
It depends what kind of girls are those. Are they influencers or just random girls from the neghborhood? Does he know them in person? Maybe he went to school with them and just wants to keep connections. It can mean anything - from him enjoying the pictures to planning abandon you and start dating other girls. Maybe he wants to understand where is his place on the instagram hierarchy. Can he be successful or not in terms of attractiveness (men also care about this). But also there is another question. If you know about him following girls on instagram, then probably you also have an instagram profile. Why you think you can have a profile on instagram and he can't? What is it that you are doing on instagram? Maybe he is there for the same reason, but with a different interests.
Depends on what kind of photos they post and why he’s following them. I got really hurt when I found out my boyfriend was looking at sexy photos of girls and nudes etc not realising it was wrong. If you don’t like it ask him to stop, if he doesn’t respect or love you enough to stop find a new boyfriend.
Can you answer my question?
On my profile?
So a lot of these comments sound like sarcasm so I'll be straight forward. I've been married for almost 6 years and as a guy we are visual. It has nothing to do with you but more of his own personal fetishes. That doesn't mean he doesn't like or love you, or that he will cheat. Unless you find text or nudes I wouldn't be worried. I love PAWGs but I'm married to an average shaped black woman and have never cheated. Doesn't mean I don't watch the occasional flick or Instagram stream with thick white chicks though.
Hun. Please tell him bout this and how u feel. If he scoffs it off or makes no change or dosent tell u anything to easy ur mind... He's a dick and u have something to worry bout.
I hope the best for u.
Just talk it out and follow ur gut after he answers u back.
Just stop watching. People who have insecurities make those insecurities worse by being all up in their partners business. Trust me, its just clicking on random photos. The worry comes from you, from your head, and you are self perpetuating it by watching his movements because you are basically fishing for reasons not to trust him. Spend less time doing that and you will both be a lot happier.
Would you take a look at my question?
I agree that she might be causing a self-fulfilling prophecy, but there is something to be said when a girl or guy spends too much time looking at the opposite sex. I believe it is okay to fantasize and keep your thoughts to yourself, but if you just do out in the open and often; two things could really happen. One, you are testing the other's faithfulness (which to me seems wrong because relationships are based on trust). Two, you are no longer interested in what your partner has to offer. Though those are my thoughts, what do you think?
@Enlightened0nce maybe but people spend all day liking posts on Facebook but dont talk to each other. Instagram is just another forum like Facebook. I see so many girls whinging about men liking girls posts on Instagram that they do not know and have never met when they fail to conceive that those same boyfriends are getting their rocks off daily to porn. It's just silly to me to think.
Ask yourself, what am I up to if I was doing the same thing... why would you do it?
Then judge him by that standard.
If there is evidence that he's pursuing women and not just wanting to oogle these women... you'll need to put that in check or not deal with it anymore.
No you shouldn't be worried. I know where you're coming from, but trust me it's definitely a problem with you and not with him. I've let my insecurities ruin too many of my relationships and my best advice for you would to be work on yourself instead of focusing on him. Your whole life will change when you learn to have a little more self confidence.
Random local girls per a reply to another. I would be very watchful. Does he know them? Are they sexual in nature? If you talk to him about he is going to say it's no big deal and he isn't doing anything wrong, would be my guess. He will be more careful about you seeing. So you will not really know if he cares about your feelings and stops. Or if he is continuing. Approach it and see how he responds. But be casual when you bring it up.
Why does she have to be super sneaky like a Russian spy? Trying to bring information back to the mother land? Is this what relationships are now?
Ahh that makes more sence. Your answer sounded like a spy operation.
He probably thinks they're hot and wants to have a wank every once in a while.
This may sound like a reason to worry. You may think: "why doesn't he do it thinking about me".
Well, not everyone is an instagram model, and there's no reason to feel bad about it. There's many types of girls (physically speaking) that a single guy can find attractive and obviously you alone cannot be all those types.
Your boyfriend is together with you for more than just looks.
Not necessarily, guys are visual creatures, they look at girls a lot. Weather it’s on instagram or if he’s at the gas station while you’re somewhere else, a hot girl happens to walk by he is going to look. Doesn’t mean he’s cheating or doing something wrong. If you’re concerned talk to him calmly, explain why it bothers you and find out what his intentions are.
First off: Do you follow any hot guys on your Instagram account and ogle over their hot bodies? If not, good for you, and for sure your valid in thinking his obsession is a little worrisome.
However, if you do the same thing, whether it be on Instagram or another similar account, then you can't really dislike what he is doing.
I believe that it is okay to fantasize about the opposite sex if you are either a woman or a man. It honestly in our human nature, but to openly do it in front of your partner and often is a little insensitive. Though if it bothers you and you feel insecure, it is better to "talk" about it with your partner. I mean talk by nonchalantly expressing why it bothers you, hear his response then draw your conclusions. Don't like his response, then move on, ask for a compromise, or work together. The whole point of a relationship is to work together, if you can't don't be in a one-sided relationship.
Well it depends, are these girls super exposed sexually or no? If they are not sexually explicit then I wouldn't worry to much but since it is bothering you it's best to express how you feel instead of holding it in. Just let him know so you can talk about it, it's normal to feel a little jealous at times-everyone has at some point but remember to not let take control of you or your relationship. I'm sure when you talk about it, it will help solve the issue hopefully.
Yes you should be worried. If this bothers you, your insecurities can destroy the relationship. So be careful here. Never assume he's unfaithful unless you have solid evidence. Looking is not evidence for anything. And regular small talk is not flirting. Flirting is more like "Hey baby, wanna come over to my place? I'm all alone." That crosses the boundary into flirting and being inappropriate for someone in a relationship.
I would have more of a problem if he msgs them. Also, it’s important that you’re vocal about it now. You don’t want to end up in a fight and blow up with problems you’ve been holding in. Once he knows you have a problem with it, you’ll see what kind of man you have. If he decides to continue or dial it back.
Following girls, because they're attractive, is one thing. Flirting with them is entirely different. No need to be insecure. Either he's unable to upgrade, because he's too insecure and unattractive - or he's truly smitten with you. Either way, he's with you and not with someone else. :D
PS. Hopefully it's the latter.
Well looking won't hurt. Talking... Depends... Seeing them? Questionable. Someone once told me girls and boys can never be friends. Why? Well... Nature can explain that. Someone has to love someone in a boy and girl relation. Depends if they notice or not
Nooo, it's like you following male celebrities/finding certain actors/insta models hot etc. (& they could be friends? If he has other social circles)
Doesn't mean you don't love your boyfriend any less!
But if it worries you, talk to him & don't blow up at him- communication is sooo important in a relationship.
Good luck babe! x
Do you have a bunch of random guys following you on Instagram? Should he be worried about them? If the random guys that follow you have girlfriends, should those girls be worried about you?
If you make a big deal out of this, you'll not only seem annoying and nagging, you'll seem obsessive and controlling, and he will hide things from you.
If you really want to talk to him about this, you need to approach the topic with curiosity, not judgement.
You also can't make him stop watching porn.
Mutual understanding & trust are very important in a successful relation.
If he is yours don't worry you are never going to loose him. .
The same way if you trust him you don't have to get tensed like this.
All these are usual & sometimes might get irritating so be careful. .
You should tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable and insecure. If he respects you and your relationship, he will NOT try to turn the tables and make you feel like a crazy nag, he'll stop. Your feelings are more important than Instagram.
Seems a little weird to me if he just started doing this, out of nowhere. If they are very attractive girls he is following to then I would probably confront him about it. Ask why he is following them, and then let him know how it makes you feel
I bet you are, and if that is the case then you have nothing to worry about.
Unless he secretly knew those girls at one point and was friends with them in the past, or he remembers them from school and he used to crush on them. You never know. Confront him and ask if he knows them, or used to know them. Also what kind of content are these girls posting? Selfies, semi nude photos, cosplays? There has to be some reason he started following them especially since you are way more attractive than any of them. Maybe they are just attractive enough to him, unless they post quality content worth following them for
That is sexual energy going elsewhere away from you and the relationship. It's a redflag and a sign not to be ignored. When you are with a man that is on his purpose and has ascension in mind, he will not have time for such nonsense. Does he watch porn?
That’s no problem. You do it too.
follow Hundreds of hot guys. Your friends boyfriends and so on. Guy friends of guys.
Follow some BBCs too, some Tyrones.
Like their pics. Make it clear. Make it obvious. Do exactly as he does. If his bad behavior doesn’t stop within a month or worsens within that month. ITS OVER 🖕
For me it would be a dealbreaker, when you truly love someone you don't feel sexually atracted to other people.
But I understand it's not so easy for you just break up like this.
Have you thought about also following a lot of hot instagram guys?
I recommend Nick Bateman, such a hottie
This is horrible advice. It's ok to find someone attractive and still not do anything. She literally contradicted herself. Nick Bateman is a hottie? So if you were in a relationship he wouldn't be anymore?
@SupersoldierX7 I was in love once. Before I fell for the guy, he was just handsome, like a lot of guys around. I never believed people when they were telling me that they find they SO the most attractive. I was thinking "They surely aren't honest. There are too many attractive people on the world and they are saying this just to make their partner feel good".
But then I fell for him. He became for me literally the most handsome and physically perfect man on this planet. And I really felt that way. All other men were uglier than him. I could admit that some other man may be objectively hot, but only looking at him was making me wet
You're mistaking male and female nature. You're projecting your own actions and feelings onto him. When a man looks at a woman, it's not the same as when a woman is looking at other men--while in a relationship. Men don't lose the desire to look at other women when they're in love. We just don't. It doesn't mean anything, even if it would for you.
The guy couod be completely head over heels for her, but still look at other women. He could be willing to die for his girlfriend or wife, yet still look at other women.
There are no feelings involved in it. There is nothing other than, "Damn, she looks good."
It is *not the same*. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache if you accept that, because you will never--I repeat--nevwr find a man who will not look at other women.
I agree with churchofiron. The rule of thumb is usually admire the beauty of the flower, just don't pluck it. Lmao
@ChurchOfIron I talked to a bunch of guys who feel the same way as I do when truly devoted to someone.
There is a difference between noticing someone on the street and thinking "wow, she is attractive" and watching porn/instagram models thinking "damn I would love to fuck her" and masturbating to it.
That first thing is normal, the other not
You talked to a bunch of guys who know what women want to hear. There are a lot of guys who will just say whatever they think women will like best, just like there are a lot of women who will just lie about how they are, when they're trying to impress a guy.
Emulation is the most sincere type of flattery, right? I guaruntee you they did not lose that desire when they fell in love.
First of all, we're not even talking about masturbation. We're talking about following girls on instagram. But even were that the case, there's a distinct difference between masturbating and having sex. Why is it so bad if he did masturbate to porn?
@ChurchOfIron There is absolutely no difference. Let's see what arguments have men when they are accused of masturbating to porn in relationship, shall we?
-But she doesn't mean anything to me, I don't love that pornstar
-It doesn't mean that I don't find my girlfriend pretty
-I'm just using her to relieve myself, that's all
So watching porn is acceptable, but cheating isn't? Read all the arguments again and see it's all the same if he fucked that pornstar
Except for the whole having sex part. You're looking at it entirely on an emotional level. He isn't. That's the difference.
But, whatever. You'll learn eventually, the hard way. That perception is going to be a pain in your ass, for sure.
@ChurchOfIron Yeah, because sex is emotional. If it's just a meaningless thing for you, then you don't have a girlfriend. You have a girl friend who you are having sex with
You really don't get it. It's emotional--for women. It *can* be for men, but it doesn't *have* to be.
Why do you think guys have sex so easily? If men and women approached sex in the same way, men would behave as women. You ever seen those social experiments where a hot guy and a hot girl go around campus asking people if they want to have sex? 0-1% of the women say "Okay, let's have sex." Whereas, 90% of the guys say, "HELL YEAH! LETS HAVE SEX!"
Why is that? It's because men do not require emotions for sexual satisfaction. We have a drive that most women do not have.
We require no connection. We require no trust.
Yes. Those things can be enjoyable. But they are not *mandatory*. The sexual impulses we have are completely different from the sexual impulses women have. They are meaningless, purely physical compulsions. "ooooh, look, something shiny."
@ChurchOfIron Yeah, and after you have so much meaningless sex before relationship, then it is also meaningless in relationship. There is nothing new or exciting for you, you know you could get it from anyone. You don't associate that pleasure with your girlfriend specificly, but with women in general.
I seriously, seriously don't understand why most people with thinking that watching porn in relationship or having meaningless sex while single is ok aren't in open relationships.
You've probably eaten cake before, right? So is cake boring to you now? If your mom bakes you a cake specially for you, it holds no meaning or excitement for you, because you've already had cake, before?
And if you've never had sex before, it's not going to be good. You're going to be bad at it, be unable to please your partner. Does that create a better bond? What if you're totally sexually incompatible? One needs to learn these things before they meet someone they truly care for, otherwise it will ruin it.
When I was a virgin I was with a girl I loved deeply. We had sex for the first time, and I basically just had a seizure on top of her. I had no idea what I was doing. And, if you ask me, that helped destroy the relationship.
I seriously don't understand why you think it's not okay.
I never breaks my girlfriend trust, I fulfilled her requirement and she pleasure me always what I desire from her as well as we loyal to each other.
Instagram opens the door to this kind of question. Sometimes I think websites like Instagram should be buried 6 feet in the dirt. It has given so many girls the platform to show themselves off to the world. They almost turn themselves into objects that men are attracted to but can't own. You could almost call Instragram porn because it promotes sexual lust. But does it in such a way that it avoids the porn label.
I really do not think you have anything to worry about. I mean its instagram so he really isn't hiding it. Also it's instagram people are always following people. Sounds like you are reading too much into this and you should just have a calm sit down woth your boyfriend and discuss your insecurities.
No, stop being paranoid, and stop being nosy, you'll come out as clingy, and not worth his time. If you become skeptical of your partner it hinders the true you that they want to be with. Trust me, I broke up with this girl because she said she liked her best friend, and she should trust me. I wouldn't say I'd trust her if I had a second chance, but it certainly was not fun to hang with her, because I was paranoid.
I would ask him about it but do it nicely. Like, I've had something on my mind lately and id like to talk to you about it... is there a reason you're following all these girls on instagram? I mean, do you still love me or do you want to see other people? Following is one thing and yes I think it's strange and shady. Talking to the girls is another thing in which case id back off and say something
Do girls have a higher attachment to technology? Most days i contemplate using my phone as target practice. Any apps I've ever means nothing to me, and I have a hard time learning how to use it. Don't people follow each other on Facebook? I thought this was normal, and it didn't matter who you were friends with.
I don't like it. Men DO use social media to chase other women. You are NOT out of bounds to call him out on it. I mean, unless he wants YOU to start posting hot pics to get other men's attention? lol
Yes. He surely plans on cheating you with one of them. I mean why else would he publicly visible like them, if this wasn't his plan? Lol. Don't you think he'd be more discrete if he planned something like that?
But did he masturbate to any of them? Did you catch him with his pants down with a hard on and playing with himself while he was clicking on follow on all of those girls' profiles? Make sure you give him enough affection and attention, physical and sexual. But chances are you'd be okay unless any of those girls are like local and he can actually get with them and cheat on you. I doubt any of them would actually be, they probably are all over the world. So just relax, at least for now.
As a guy my girlfriend always gets mad at me for following or liking a photo, personally my mind set is I'll just be bored and scroll and like numerous photos thinking nothing of it bc there's no seriius thought going into it. I believe you shouldn't be worried if you are indeed significantly worried just talk to him about it in an adult way.
Be more worried that you're presumably pushing 30 boyfriend has nothing better to do than be on instagram. He should be forging his first empire at this point in his life not "liking" shots of sideboob on rando's digital ego stroker.
I don't Find it Fair to you that He does this, I would be Pissed. It is Disrespectful and if He is Doing it, Who knows if he May one day Be... Screwing it.
Say something to him. Call his Bluff. xx
If its one of them "instagram models" i wouldn't worry, like a celebrity crush kinda deal. Everyone has one of those. If its someone that he may know personally that isn't someone generally seen as his friend, then there may be something, but I would take it with a grain of salt.
He’s obviously not satisfied with you and he wishes that he could be with those girls instead of you, but he has to just lower his standards and settle for someone he really doesn’t like. All men settle & lower their standards unless they’re able to get a stripper
This gets asked 2-3 time sa day. NO. NEver ever worry about people following people on Instagram, especially random people.
It means nothnig. It always means nothing. Instagram subscriptions are not meaningful.
He is exploring but as long as he is not touching or talking, it seems okay. I have to admit it is a little disrespectful. Tell him to stop or you will contemplate something 'random' yourself with this relationship.
If he is really into you then random encounters on the internet with other women, suggest to me that he is not as interested in you as he might have been in the past.
Satisfied men are happy with their relationship and don't go elsewhere.
This is different than when passing an exquisite woman on the street and noticing inconspicously.
My question to you would be, do you follow random guys on Instagram?
In general, no nothing to worry about. It's natural to find people attractive or to interact with others. We are social creatures naturally but if it proceeds past talk and looking at pictures, then I'd be worried.
If they're just models then you shouldn't be worried. Guy's will always want to look at boobs, butts, and girls they find attractive. It says nothing about how he feel ls towards you. If they're random then it's just that. Even if he knows them. You should be worried if he starts becoming distant. If he isn't distant then he's just looking at boobs.
Not a huge deal. It just means he finds those girls hot. And as we all know a LOT of Instagram models are INCREDIBLY hot. But also remember, it's not as though he has the choice to be with any of them. Even if he wanted to, he most likely couldn't. So it's not really a risk for you.
I would definitely bring up your concerns to your boyfriend. That way hopefully if he's not up to anything sketchy and is honest with you he can squash your concerns right there. But yeah that looks a little fishy to me.
HAHA!.. It doesn't means shit!.. Following influencer or random girls is all okay. if they are content creators and he is consuming the content.
however, if he is talking in DM, then prosecute him!..
Social media is cancer to relationships. It is really disrespectful but it doesn't mean he'll cheat on you.
I agree with this
As long as he's still giving you sex and a condom full of cum, you've nothing to worry about.
It's when you're getting no sex, that you need to start thinking he's getting it elsewhere.
Trust your gut. He shouldn't be following random woman. I wonder hownhe would reavt if it was the other way around
I'm guessing either you are jealous or you got reasons to worry. Otherwise you would be with him.
Talk to him about it. Pray on it. Things will get better. Dont make a fuss about it just talk to him nicely and if he reacts badly dont let it get to u, just be real. You'll be okay☺☺
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