The other question I asked was about a job change in a relationship and us not seeing each other that much. Well lately it seems he's been distant since he started the new job. He says he's been stressed and I pointed out how he's not open with his feelings with me much anymore, or doesn't talk about his day.
He said the other day after a year of dating that I over say "I love you" too much. He says he still loves me but when he isn't physically here it feels like he's just withdrawn and doesn't care much to talk to me. I don't want to bring it up again and be annoying so I texted him and said "i just want to let you know that I am here for support and to listen with whatever you are going through I noticed you have been stressed and withdrawn and I just want to let you know that I am here". his grandmother causes him a lot of stress and he just got this job and his goal is to move out, which I don't blame him because she is crazy.
He still loves me right? what gives? why is he acting like this? he's done this several times before. I have read that book "men are from mars women are from venus" in the section abut men wanting to go to their caves. And I understand it kind of, I think its odd that women are the complete opposite of men, we want to talk and yet men push us aside when stressed and ignore us to deal with their own problems.
I'm at the point of just giving him a taste of his own medicine and giving him just a ton of space but I don't know how to equally balance that space, I don't want it to come off like I'm uninterested in him. we have been boyfriend and girlfriend for a year. I just think its weird how he withddraws and then makes the comment how I say I love you too much. ever since he said that he doesn't say it back that much and it pisses me off and bothers me. but I feel like he won't care if I say that and say "you don have to say it all the time" or "please I'm doing that to make you cut down on it".
Idk what to do.
He said the other day after a year of dating that I over say "I love you" too much. He says he still loves me but when he isn't physically here it feels like he's just withdrawn and doesn't care much to talk to me. I don't want to bring it up again and be annoying so I texted him and said "i just want to let you know that I am here for support and to listen with whatever you are going through I noticed you have been stressed and withdrawn and I just want to let you know that I am here". his grandmother causes him a lot of stress and he just got this job and his goal is to move out, which I don't blame him because she is crazy.
He still loves me right? what gives? why is he acting like this? he's done this several times before. I have read that book "men are from mars women are from venus" in the section abut men wanting to go to their caves. And I understand it kind of, I think its odd that women are the complete opposite of men, we want to talk and yet men push us aside when stressed and ignore us to deal with their own problems.
I'm at the point of just giving him a taste of his own medicine and giving him just a ton of space but I don't know how to equally balance that space, I don't want it to come off like I'm uninterested in him. we have been boyfriend and girlfriend for a year. I just think its weird how he withddraws and then makes the comment how I say I love you too much. ever since he said that he doesn't say it back that much and it pisses me off and bothers me. but I feel like he won't care if I say that and say "you don have to say it all the time" or "please I'm doing that to make you cut down on it".
Idk what to do.
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i don't know how to deal with this but kind of ignore him and not text him as much because it frustrates me by what I said and how distant he is. what if we were to get married would he finally change and be more vulnerable? or will he always be like somewhat closed off like this? It feels like I hit a wall every time I ask him his feelings. only when he is drinking does he let the wall down. I hate it. just tell me you love me and compliment me after a year. I feel ugly sometimes when he doesn't.
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