Is it just me or has ghosting become the standard?

[Delle123]

I’ve been using dating apps since 2018 and have met multiple boyfriends including LTRs through them. I recently redownloaded hinge and bumble a couple months ago after 3 years of not using them. I’ve been on many dates over the years and I had never been ghosted until my first bumble date a couple months ago. It seems like half of the people I’ve exchanged texts with or met up in person ghost me out of nowhere. I’ll go on a date or two with a guy that goes well. He’ll usually ask to see me again, and then one day out of the blue he’ll start taking days or even up to a week to respond, essentially ghosting me. The first time I thought it was just bad luck but it’s been happening pretty consistently. This wasn’t a thing at all just a few years ago, at least it wasn’t nearly as common. I understand not wanting to pursue a relationship with someone for whatever reason, but the normal thing would be to send a simple text to let them know. I do believe in dating apps but this is getting exhausting. Is it just me or has ghosting become an epidemic?

[Anonymous]

Oh no. I just wait 3 days.
After midnight on the 3rd day of waiting for a response. That’s it. He’ll never hear from me again or see my face again in his existence. On this plane of existence. He’ll reach age 90 and still not see me again. He’ll die off and never ever see me again in this life.

I absolutely have ZERO tolerance for that stupid shit. I don’t care if he looks like TheRock/ Brad Pitt/ or Captain America/. Never again will you do that to me.

Im still talking to some exes and some dates and some bootycalls. To this day , after 5 years from the moment we met. Why? BECAUSE THEY NEVER IGNORED ME. Like; if I’m replaceable or some shit. I immediately know you’re a p—rn consumer with that type of BS.

there's Chads and Hotties I still talk to from the past. Not once have they ignored me. I even posted convos up here. Showing you that they respond within the following day at the latest.

This is a F-W-B I’ve seen for over 5 years. And he’s handsome/ hot/ buff as shii 😬😬.. his D is legit 6-inches. And he’s also the guy I told y'all that has a huge mushroom tip. I can’t even fit it into my mouth 😬😬😬

A grown stallion of a man. And he’s never once. Ignored or left me on read for weeks 🫵

[Opinion Owner]

It is a back and forth response. 🫵
I can’t for the life of me tolerate some imbecile ignoring and ghosting me. When I have other Chads who respond instantly or within 24 hours.

People are always on their phone. There’s absolutely no way “he’s busy” 🫵

[bobalife]

It’s not actually a standard… but it is becoming a norm of multiple reasons that they don’t want to use communication skills in the following:
- I’m not interested nor want to pursue this anymore
- found someone else
- actually taken and don’t wanna get caught/is caught
- scare and may / may not come back
- commitment issues or not ready even if they might like you
- simply don’t wanna have “the talk” to end things or don’t know how to use basic communication lol
- easier to move on
- don’t know what they want with themselves, you, or life aka they’re having their own internal/external battles and don’t know what to do with you
- life problems
- fuck boys and don’t actually wanna invest for something genuine
- fazing you out
- etc


But I second I don’t know what it means either when someone mentioned a second date+ and didn’t follow-up. Disappointing but I guess it’s better to just move forward with someone who means what they said and put action to it is what counts for me.

[V_Injector]

It's called aging or getting fat. You're just not as interesting now. Either hit the gym or accept it.

Take that loser

I mean fucking A, think about it! If you had six-pack abs and hard firm tiddies... They'd be cooming non-stop at you just texting them back.

But instead, you're just one of the rest of them. All of the demands and what do you have to give? Would you step it up and go all out at a game that's rigged to take half your shit and put you in prison? ... because that's what it is for men right now.

(Also remember your career/job doesn't mean shit to a dude... you're not offering to pay his rent just to keep him around are you?)

You are still a good cum dumpster though... us dudes just have way more pitfalls than somebody in 1990 had to deal with.

[V_Injector]

@emyywolf 's response is another great POV to look at it from. Simply put, I don't think you'd get ignored if you have anything to offer.

[V_Injector]

Anything positive that is... like a plus... I don't mean HIV+

[Chazmatazz269]

Women have been ghosting men for near two decades. It’s probably worse now because men don’t gain anything by being “the bigger person”. In fact, i know more than a few who were threatened with police involvement when they reached out to say they’re not interested in going further. You know, cuz it’s harassment to contact someone who doesn’t want to hear from you even though they didn’t bother to tell you that in the first place. Ell oh ell!
So the boys have taken a page out of the ladies’ playbook and now it’s an “epidemic”. Ell oh ell!
In short, ‘yes’ ghosting is the new standard. I don’t foresee that changing in my lifetime. But i’m old and i haven’t always been good to myself. You might have a shot!

[ProbablyClueless]

That is definitely not just you. People ghost constantly. It's not a way I will ever go through life, but a lot of people are just ludicrously conflict averse.

It's funny because I'm actually extremely comfortable with confrontation and conflict, but the reason is because I absolutely hate the idea of unresolved tension.

I deeply hate the idea that there are people out there who I could randomly run into one day, and there would be a totally avoidable, needlessly awkward shitty interaction that could have been totally avoided with basic communication.

[Rami_NL]

That's the standard, get used to it. Understand that dating is like a market where everybody is trying to get the best offer ever. So if he passes on you it's because he's out of your league and he's probably chasing a woman out of her league lol

As for me I was also shocked when I learned that ghosting was normal. And honestly after being ghosted several times, I don't see why I shouldn't do it back when I'm not interested.

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, I think this is a sign of the times we're in -- too many choices and no real connection between the participants. Just window shopping, the occasional test drive and then a return to the unending search for perfection, which, if they were serious about being successful in, they'd have recognized when they were in the presence of it.

[DrPepper12]

I've grown used to HS kids not even having the fucking DECENCY to break up face to face but with a text or insta post. Fucking disrespectful cowards. I gather adults don't even text. That's douchenozzle territory. People are so fucking soft that when you speak directly they think it's aggressive. Fuck them.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Seems that way to me. I think people are so afraid of confrontation now, they would rather walk away, even if it's likely a misunderstanding could be causing the anxiety.

[BonzoInBitburg]

It's definitely the standard. Communication skills are a thing of the past

[hellothere90]

If someone doesn't reply to my texts, then I take it as a sign that they are not interested and move on.

[DishLady]

“Ghosting” used to just be called “Not Interested” — if someone is not interested don’t wait around for them like a ninny. Move on.

[sheikalana]

Ghosting is pretty common but nothing new in my opinion.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I can't even get swipes lol or flirts in public lol 😂😆

[red324]

I probably have 100 matches in all my dating apps where were started talking and then it never went anywhere because she never responded back.

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆 You really can't be surprised by this. Did you really think that if you did this to men that at some point it wasn't going to make it's way back to you.

Women☕️🤣

[Iron_Man]

It’s not a standard for me. It pisses me off really bad.

[SomeDudeGuy]

Not particularly, it depends on the person and the interests shared!

[avery58]

Yeah, for this generation it is

[midnightcavern01]

It's the easiest

[Jennz6]

I don’t use dating apps

[Usersarepoo]

yep happen few times for me.

[BlueJeanGirl04]

Starting to become crazy.

[humblelion010]

Hello 👋