I am ugly so should I date obese women or live a life of solitude but with friends and family… which is the better choice?

Question

I believe that latter is the better option as I don’t want to date someone I am not attracted to and I don’t want to date someone who isn’t attracted to me. I’m only young so maybe I’m wrong hence the question :)

Bondage_Bruce · Accepted Answer

Ah, the ol' obese woman vs life of solitude dilemma. Take it from me, why settle for merely plump partners when there exists a veritable smorgasbord of fleshy playthings ripe for restriction?

Indeed, perusing BBW websites could yield delightful dividends – just imagine their astonishment when they realize YOU are not simply another admirer armed with cheese whiz!

But you sir can do better and you know it. Why not boast an arsenal of tantalizing tools designed specifically to tease and titillate - think nipple clamps fashioned from barbed wire, handcuff bracelets, and rope made of sedatives! Surely such charm would render any cutie positively powerless against you.

Moreover, let us address your apparent desperate mental state leading you down two decidedly bleak paths: either settling for less desirable dates OR wallowing in self pity. Have you considered utilizing your newfound fetters to secure unwitting victims desperate for escape? Transform mundane gatherings into captivating capers filled with hilarity and high jinks by covertly enslaving unsuspecting guests.

Soon enough, word will spread about your proclivity for party planning AND punishment, drawing hoards of curious slaves eager to partake in your makeshift prisons and trusty traps.

Trust me, once you establish yourself as a bondage king, offers of friendship will flood in faster than requests for balloon animals at children's birthday parties.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Before anybody is going to like you first of all you have to be honest second of all if you manipulate to get answers that you want that's never going to work if you downplay yourself that's not going to work just learn how to like yourself actually love yourself don't worry don't care what anybody else says or things I mean it's fine to listen but you know the answer to this question before you even asked it don't play games think about it find out who you want to be and become that person it's your choice there's 500 girls out there for every guy and same with 500 guys out there for. Every girl if you can't find one one place go to a different place.

And no matter what just be happy you project who you are. And just to let you know ugly only comes from the inside same with confidence

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

You look good to me. And also I think guys overestimate how much girls go on looks over personality. When looking for a relationship then obviously there has to be attraction physically but there is much more we are looking for. Secondly, nobody not even yourself can class yourself as ugly and call that the absolute truth. Appearance is an opinionated undefined quality. Some girls will find u attractive. Some not. And some say you are average in their opinion.

Saying you only attract obese girls and also assuming all obese girls will be with u for lack of better options themselves is also a bit of a close minded opinion. Sorry. I'm not going to go into that. But just say as others have said, you should not "get with someone" on false terms just for sake of it. Wait for the girl u are attracted to and is attracted to you. Whatever her size or appearance is. If u find attraction in eachother then fuck others opinions. In the meantime yes, focus on family abd friends and being happy. Stop obsessing over other people's opinions of u and of being lonely and unloved. If and when love comes along, great. Don't close yourself off from the chance. Be yourself, be happy and see what happens! Your so young still!

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

don't date someone who isn't attracted to you

I don't rate or evaluate people, so don't expect from me confirmation or denial of your theory

if you want to date, you don't need looks; you need confidence. But not arrogance (which kind of confidence based on not existing strengths). Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses, and do a plan for how to develop strengths and work on weaknesses. Create a list of new skills you want to learn.

the people who steal the spotlight are rarely beautiful... but they have an inner light, they literally glow... it's a natural confidence based on their strengths. They don't base their success on how they look like, they KNOW they are interesting because of what they can offer. And no one pays attention to their looks...

Finchie40 · Answer

The fact that you are thinking you are ugly is the reason you aren’t landing the ladies , Stop being your own worst enemy and value yourself as a person , build confidence in yourself and treat people the same way you want to be treated in return , Having Confidence in yourself is what attracts most females’ , you don’t have to be the best looking guy to land girls’ Most females want a guy that she can look up to that she feels safe and protected by , that treats her with respect and honesty. By you not having confidence in yourself is making yourself come of as being weak and insecure , and most girls’ do not want a guy that is like that. Learn to be confident in yourself without coming off as being cocky and I guarantee you will start meeting girls

Anonymous · Answer

your not ugly, just average. none of those are good options in your case at least. just go for a slim girl your age that's about the same level as you face wise (circa 5/10). shouldn't be too difficult

you should probably try to be more confident in your looks since there's nothing wrong with them. you can always try to maximize what you already have too

you might want to google body dysmorphic disorder too, if you genuinly thing your ugly looking and can only pull lizzo look alikes

Twalli · Answer

You aren't a complete failure in looks. Honestly I probably look uglier than you. The difference is I don't bemoan my looks and I treat women well which makes them enjoy spending time with me. Then they can see the parts of me that make me attractive beyond my personality.
Here's a brief description of what I look like. I have stubble, I am balding, a nose that has been broken twice, skinny, 5'4", 33 (in 5 days). I didn't exactly hit the lottery in looks. I did in other aspects, but my appearance wasn't doing me any favors.

avery58 · Answer

You're not ugly thought. Just change your hairstyle, start hitting the gym, take care of yourself, and learn to be confident and you'd be fairly attractive. You have to learn how to present yourself, your image and personality and work on your social skills.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't date someone just because you think that's your only option.

As a plus sized woman, that's honestly such a fear, and that's so cruel to date that way.

If you're not into them, don't date them.

And you're not even bad looking. Your character and personality ust isn't really shining through the picture.

Sjoerd85 · Answer

When I still had not found a girlfriend when I was over 30, I had pretty much given up on it ever happening already. I just kept looking op datingsites just for the fun of it, not expecting any real results. When I was almost 35, I actually did find a good match, and we married almost exactly two years after our first date (and we are almost another two years later now). You never know; it can still happen.

patrick994 · Answer

You are not an ugly guy, you are average looking, you should try to maximise your potential by becoming the best version of yourself.

Change your haircut, do sport and eat healthy, choose a stylish or sporty look according to your needs, take care of your facial skin, hygiene etc;

Confidently, by following these steps you should be able to aspire to an all round attractive woman.

Angelo75 · Answer

Just go out more and go out in different circles.
Expand your horizons.

Don't think negatively of yourself. Be assured that self-value comes from within. Not from how others view you.

Sooner or later, you'll run into someone interesting. The other ones that pass you up, aren't worth your time either.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

You do know there are ugly skinny girls too lol

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

The better choice is one you don't see which is learning to love yourself and gain self confidence. No good woman likes a man who doesn't believe in himself.

Abdulwahh · Answer

Neither bro dont under estimate yourself like that if you like a girl go for her put all negative thoughts aside. Go join a sport club or go join a group of good friends who motivate you in life and go out with them or join a sport club or hobbie where you can meet potential females focus on improving you assertiveness, confidence, and a little humour and lightheartedness, and WHEN GOING OUT WITH A WOMEN LEAD HER WOMEN MANY WOMEN DONT LIKE GUYS TO ASK THEM WHATS NEXT ALL THE TIME YOU DECIDE.!

GOLDFISH_smile · Answer

Don't date someone you aren't attracted to. That's mean. Focus on relationships with people you actually care about.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

You can only do so much with your looks so try to improve yourself in all the other areas of you life that you can change to make yourself attractive.

ManInChains · Answer

Life of family and solitude that's the way I'm living mine and I don't even consider myself to be ugly. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Big is beautiful & with big girls there is a lot more to love & big girls need loving too.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

You're not ugly. It's a pity your a Leeds fan, but I doubt many women will hold that against you. You should have more belief in yourself

handsomelad70 · Answer

First, you're plain, not ugly. Second, laddie, it's your life thus your decision about conducting it.

Anonymous · Answer

If you date obese women just for the hell of it, they’ll know. They can tell these things and honestly that’s a shitty thing to do. You need to work on yourself and grow some confidence.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Are you kidding man? You don’t look ugly at all. And that isn’t just me trying to accomodate your feelings either. Fr tho, you look like a pretty normal guy. Don’t let things get in your head

laly520 · Answer

u have to love urself first n trust it ig u aren't prepared to date yet

John_Cobretti · Answer

Only thing ugly about you is the hair, fix it and you're good to go

Vegasrunner · Answer

Choose the life of solitude. You'll regret it if you're stuck with obese woman only.

DextroShade · Answer

You look like an average dude. Just get your money up, learn game, and maybe try overseas.

ApplePie409 · Answer

Are you looking on the Internet?

Anonymous · Answer

Stop being so pathetic. Get a grip.

elaphe · Answer

You are not ugly.

FakeNIK · Answer

Good things take time

MemeSupreme · Answer

trolllollollol

OddBeMe · Answer

Yes.

I am ugly so should I date obese women or live a life of solitude but with friends and family… which is the better choice?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Is it wrong I prefer to be around good looking people and don’t like being around overweight and unattractive people?

I am ugly so should I date obese women or live a life of solitude but with friends and family… which is the better choice?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Is it wrong I prefer to be around good looking people and don’t like being around overweight and unattractive people?

We're glad to see you liked this post.