I have known this guy for a few years but for the last couple of months we have really spent a lot of time together (shared hobbies) and have texted every day with very few exceptions. This just suddenly started and has gotten more over the last couple of months. Long messages, all hours of the day and sometimes quite late. He initiates contacts a lot and when I first message he always gets back to me quickly. We could be texting and messaging hours on end and sometimes it’s just one long conversation throughout the days. When we are together we can talk for hours and have occasionally lost a few hours when we bought thought it should be way earlier than it actually was. We have the same sense of humour and he always manages to make me laugh. He is always there for me and very, very helpful. Having spent so much time together (the other day it was over 10 hours spent together and then more messages once we parted ways) I feel I know him pretty well now as he has been sharing a lot about himself with me lately. I really like him though I am scared to bring this up as I don’t want to ruin our friendship. I wish I could read his mind!!
It sounds like you really care about this guy and you have a great connection already. I think the best thing to do is gently try to test the waters without directly confessing your feelings yet.
Suggest just hanging out one on one more casually - like getting coffee after your hobby together instead of messaging each other. See how he acts in a more relaxed setting when it's just the two of you. Does he seem comfortable? Try subtle flirting too - little jokes, compliments, light physical contact. Pay attention to how he responds.
You could also bring up relationships/dating casually in conversation to get a sense if he's interested in anyone. See if he asks your opinion on it or what you're looking for. Reading his body language might give you clues on if he's into you as more than a friend.
If things seem like there could be chemistry, I'd say go for it and ask him on a real date, making it clear it's romantic and not just friendly. The worst that can happen is he says he wants to stay friends - and at least then you'll know for sure and can start moving on if needed. But from the way you described it, it really seems there could be something there. You won't know until you put it out there a bit more! I'm rooting for you guys.
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You are the poor guys dream come true. He hasn't hung around this long because he didn't want you. Go for it, 99.9% chance he'll be THRILLED. On the off chance I'm wrong, unlike girls who tend to stick out when the guy they don't want crushes on them, guys can usually go, "Oh, gee sorry, not really I to that. Want to go to a movie?" and drive on. I really doubt that will happen though. My guess is he's going to feel like he won the lottery.
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Maybe what your really asking is, "how do I manage my own feelings here?". Which is a better question (I don't think a friendship can be ruined, only out grown or becoming fixed).
Remember this, if you don't express how you feel, regret is 100x worse than rejection or causing him hurt.
Your only true way to understand his motivation is to first, reveal your position (start small and work up if your already in love, just so not as to overwhelm him out the gate) and then ask what he's thinking about your connection together.
If you simply try to 'feel out' what his feeling might be, you'll open yourself up to going too far either side of what's real with your infered understanding. Either you'll end up in a mess, falling in love with the idea of what your sensing his feelings are or you'll push him away confusingly in fear he doesn't have enough of them (I know because I've done that myself most of my life and I royally regret it).
I'll tell you the same thing I told another lady. Tell him "hey we should go to dinner" this is fantastically ambiguous. If he is favorable tell him to let you know when. Let's him lead. Make sure you dress up a bit if you are interested. If he is interested he will dress up too. If he doesn't you will know and if you dressing up comes up then you can always excuse it with something "I wanted to look nice its been a while since I ate at a restaurant"
You just have to tell him you like him and see what happens.
If you let fear stop you from admitting you like someone, you'll be alone forever.
You already started it the right way, so tell him what you want.
The worst he can do is say no, and stop talking to you, and if he's going to do that, he needs to do it now, so you can start over the same way with a new best friend, and then ask them out and see what happens.Letting someone know you are interested requires vulnerability. There is no way around it.
It wouldn't hurt to ask him. If he is truly just a good friend, you have nothing to lose all all to gain!😁
Play different mind games with her and keep playing until she realizes that she likes you.
Flirt with him hard. You are way past being friends already in your mind. Nothing to lose.
You can't. You will lose a friend, no matter what happens
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just ask him n be direct
Can you send hints with plausible deniability?
Sounds like friendship. Nothing Romantic
What do you want from him?
Just ask them no big deal
You can't
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