Have you ever distanced yourself from someone you could potentially become more than just friends with for the sake of your relationship?

[DizzyDesii]

I made a post back in like July about missing my friend guy/crush from high school. He always wanted to be more than friends, but I was always torn about it. I was definitely romantically interested in him but I didn’t know if i could see it for sure so I didn’t want to risk the friendship. The closer we got to getting together, it was always bad timing as one of us would end up taken and have really controlling/territorial partners who wouldn’t even allow us to text.

He moved away but i got in touch with him last year on linkedin. We were both single but I wasn't ready to mingle. He kept trying to come see me and I fcked around and kept postponing things. And then I ended up in this shit show of a relationship. At least once a month he still asks to come see me and I keep making excuses. As of December he’s aware of my relationship so he doesn’t push as hard but still misses his “friend”. He’s coming home this month but after that, he won’t be back until the summer or fall.

I don't know if I should just let him come see me. I feel it would be disrespectful to my guy so I’m not really pushing for it. I also feel that if my “friend” hugs me, I’ll be reminded of certain feelings from back then that just makes me wanna say screw who I’m with. Thats such fcked up thinking but I don't know where my guy and I will end up by next month anyways. I’ll know more when I go visit him on campus in a few weeks. But yea I decided to keep it real with my friend and told him I don't know if I can see him while I’m still in a relationship because we’re both flirts and I’d rather not risk anything. Have you ever been in a similar situation where you had to push someone away to tame yourself? #FeelFreeToList

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Nooo what mod removed Brad’s advice. like damn Ai just read this shit in 5 seconds and gave great advice. You da bomb Brad. You da bomb. Tick tick boom 🤯💥👌 I’m sorry someone just killed your opinion. I liked it 😭

[Finchie40]

All the time , I take relationships seriously , I am not going to commit into a relationship with a girl that can’t commit to me period , Resisting temptations is very important, if you want your relationship to continue and for love to continue to grow between you both , If a partner can’t stay faithful to me , I will not stay faithful to them period and end it with them. Resisting temptations is only hard for people that are selfish that only think about themselves , I don’t get into relationships to be single , if I wanted to live single I would stay single. I have been hit on by very attractive girls’ during my committed relationships through the years. And saying No was hard for me to do at times, land I have slipped Not going to lie , and I have suffered the consequences of my actions , learning from those selfish mistakes has lead me to who I am today, I learned to put myself in my partners’ shoes and think how I would feel if they didn’t resist temptationa for me? We can all easily be selfish , and I chose to be selfish at times , i considered it a learning experience in my life , I had a choice to continue having failed relationships or to actually find true love ? We can all do what we think is best for ourselves , and that’s fine and dandy , if you think you are going to get away with it , but how are you ever going to truly look your partner in the face and tell them you love them , knowing you betrayed them behind their back? You will never experience true love if you have to keep secrets from your partner , Honesty is important , none of us are perfect people , we are all imperfect. Life is too short to stay with someone pretending that you actually love them , when you honestly don’t , You are only kidding yourself , if you think you do. Because if you truly loved someone , you wouldn’t be cheating on them or keeping secrets from them period You would be treating them , the same way you want them to treat you in return. I can’t tell people how to live your life , I can’t tell people to believe in God , all I can do is treat others the same way I want to be treated in return , cuz I know when I finally do leave this Earth and I am facing my God , I want him to know I trusted in him and gave my faith to him as much as I could. I can’t lie to God , something people should think about next time they are faced with temptations. Don’t commit to someone , if you can’t commit to them , you are just wasting your time and theirs Karma is a real thing, there is always consequences to our actions , mark my words. You can keep continuing failing and being selfish or you can make a change for the better , it’s up to you what you choose to do. Me personally wants to experience true love before I leave this Earth , the only way to do that is to love someone the same way you want to be loved in return , Remove selfishness for your partner , if you can’t , don’t expect them to remove selfishness for you , you will never experience true love if you can’t do that for your partner We can’t control someone else’s actions , you can only control your own.

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldn't cheat on him. If anything i’d leave him for someone else

[Finchie40]

As long as you are honest then that’s the right thing to do , Most people cheat first then weigh their options and then decide what they want to do , which is so wrong to do to someone. Hate to say it but having a back up plan , is cheating as well , even if you don’t do anything physical with the other person. It is still cheating because you are investing your time into someone else over investing your time into your partner. Emotional cheating is just as bad as physical , I left my wife because she was emotionally cheating with her co worker keeping it a secret from me. It’s a selfish behavior most of us posses within ourselves. Weighing options is selfish behavior , if your partner is not your top priority then end it with them right then and there don’t weigh your options.

[DizzyDesii]

Well im a habitual emotional cheater but i dont know many people who are not. So i guess it is what it is. I at least am happy i have enough self control to not physically cheat

[DizzyDesii]

I’d never allow myself to emotionally cheat if married tho. Im too afraid of the sin of committing adultery

[Finchie40]

Emotional cheating sadly is just as bad , even though it feels like it’s innocent it really isn’t , Anything you have to keep secret from your partner is cheating , How would you feel if you found out your partner was emotionally investing their time into someone else over you? You would be devastated and act like your partner is a lying piece of shit that does t truly love you. It adds so much unwanted fire into your current relationship, I watch a lot of true crime shows , and most true crime shows stems down to cheating , what people don’t realize is not only are they innocently flirting behind their partners back they are also putting their partner at risk of being harmed if the person you are secretly talking to has stronger feelings for you then you do to them , You know how
Many innocent people were shot and killed because their partner was secretly flirting with someone else behind their partners back? Not many people think about that what so ever , your loving caring faithful partner has no clue you are being a piece of shit behind their back , so it isn’t innocent , it’s selfishness , My wife’s co worker had the hots for her , he wanted to fuck the shit out of her , my wife was lying to my face that nothing is going on between them , she claims they were just buddies , who’s to say that mother fucker didn’t roll up on me and take me out so he can fuck my wife? People are fucking nuts in this world and people are stupid to realize this shit , By you flirting with someone behind your partners back is putting your partner at risk of harm , Is that Love? Would you Go to Heaven knowing you betrayed you loving partner that way? Absolutely not , you will rot in hell , why it’s important to always wear your partners shoes and be honest with each other , if you can’t be honest end that relationship and love your partner enough so they can find someone that actually does love them , You are selfish if you are string them along, sorry, how I see things

[DizzyDesii]

If married, you’d likely go to hell for emotionally cheating which is why i would not allow myself to be swayed if married. Again, we’re just dating. And in all honesty, he has made his mistakes that i have forgiven but not forgotten and thats sadly why i have to keep myself feeling good by securing a potential backup/replacement. You ask how i would feel if he did similar. He did. We werent official at the time but he crossed the line and it slightly broke the trust. Had he done his part in remaining loyal, so would i. Im not physically cheating and i prefer not to consider it emotional but i am securing a backup (not to be confused with a rebound). He has already expressed things that makes it seem like he wasn't intending for long term tho he knew i always was, so i had to do what i had to do

[Finchie40]

Please don’t take any offense with what I am about to say , but are you afraid of being alone? Having a back up plan pretty much means that. I am not judging you whatso ever Dez cuz you and I are a lot alike is friggin Aquarians lol I am far from perfect but one thing I did learn to do was learned to love myself , We can only give what we want to receive , we can’t force someone to love us and be with us , we can only treat someone the same way we want to be treated in retunr , I use to have back up plans as well because I was scared of being betrayed and left standing alone. Until I realized no one can save us , we can only save ourselves. If a girl wants to come into my life to bring misery and to cheat on me she is sadly barking up the wrong tree. I don’t tolerate selfish people for very long , you either stand by my side or move the fuck over , if your boyfriend can’t give you what you deserve then tell him to move the fuck over , pretty much what I told my wife , don’t think nobody else would want me , I know there are plenty of girls’ that would want a guy that stays loyal and faithful to them , Girls that try to write sucker on my head are in for a rude awakening when I have her best friend bent over on my bed , I know that sounds harsh but it’s truth. I will only stay loyal and faithful to a girl that stays loyal and faithful to me , I don’t tolerate selfish behavior in relationships, you either want me or you don’t

[DizzyDesii]

Im not afraid of being alone. I just would like to have a baby and dont like to waste time with someone who isn't trying hard to give me one. So there will always be a backup until im knocked up

[Finchie40]

LOL did your boyfriend tell you he wants kids as well?

[DizzyDesii]

All of my bfs did. They even say they want them soon. But as we continue forth, they make excuses to push it back then around 6 months in reveal they want kids maybe some years later. Im 29 now because i wasted time on dudes like this who keep postponing. Im just tired of it backfiring. So i have to continue to have my backups in order

[Finchie40]

Yea it sounds like you are ending up with guys’ that don’t really know what they want , that are telling you things you want to hear so you stick around for their selfish reasons. Sadly I can’t really help you in that department , the only suggestion I can give you is possibly give them an ultimatum, , if they don’t like it there’s the door lol

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i used to give ultimatums and it worked for me. I stopped around 2021 but im about to get back to it

[Finchie40]

It seems that’s the only thing that works these days lol

[Joshydavid25]

Shoo, yeah it's best not to do it since you know you still have those lingering feelings for him.. You are always in some sort of situations ain't you Desii? Geez.. 😂😂.. It's wise not to even entertain it if you wanna have a successful relationship..

[DizzyDesii]

I do want a successful
Relationship but does he? If his silly ass could just put in the same amount of effort or more thani wouldn't be thinking of his replacement

[Joshydavid25]

😂😂.. I feel that one.. It's always something ain't it? You're a flirt regardless though..

[DizzyDesii]

Speaking of flirt. How about mountain dew still trying. And to make it worse, he just got laid off. He was so ready to leave his girl for not hving a job and him having to support her and her kid, and now neither has one 😩

[Joshydavid25]

Oof, that's rough.. Now neither of them has a job.. But he's still at it? Damn, you must leave an impression or something.. 😂For these guys to be still at it years later..

[DizzyDesii]

I think guys just like having a girl who loves them more. It takes them to get with a girl who hardly shows them attention to realize what theyre missing

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, we sure do.. a lot of these girls act like they don't know how to love anybody.. Jerks.. LOL.. But yeah I guess that was it.. You showed them some real affection, and was freaky.. I guess they miss that..

[DizzyDesii]

Not many chicks will suck a dick repeatedly til they mouthh go numb 😩

[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, now I really see why your ex is running back.. 😂😂😂

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao nah its not just that 😂 but i did it for 4 days in a row and couldnt talk by the fifth

[Joshydavid25]

Of course... Yeah... But... I mean... Lmao..

[Joshydavid25]

Thanks for MHO Desii!

[didichi]

Yes. When I told my him that I had a boyfriend he got upset with me. I don’t think he ever liked me like that but who knows if he wanted me it’s too late now for him because he’s was a player. Im happy with my relationship and I wouldn’t want to ruin it. I had to let my guy friend go because of how he reacted, and I wouldn’t trust him if we were still friends, because he would always asked questions about my boyfriend and I. It would sometimes go too far and would ask sexual questions because he knew I was a virgin. So I blocked him and let him be jelly.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh wow

[DreamLife7]

You're single until married. Disrespectful to a guy that made you promises yet hasn't fulfilled them? Desi you're young. Don't waste your time and youth on one man , don't put all your eggs in one basket. Date around until you meet a man who can fulfill your needs. I don't know why women don't date like men. Keep your options open

[DreamLife7]

Past is the past I'd move on from high school people

[DizzyDesii]

I do date around until im in an official
Relationship. We’re in an official
Relationship so thats why i stopped. Otherwise it becomes cheating. As for the guy from HS, i mean he's been there HS, college and after so its hard to let the potential go

[DreamLife7]

Official is marriage, giving you the baby that you want and providing you with a future. Otherwise, time flies. Us ladies have a time clock when it comes to reproduction

[DreamLife7]

My mom still had a baby at 39. She was put on bedrest quick cause she was "older" young on age but older as far as carrying a baby

[DizzyDesii]

Yea see i wanted to be able to carry at 18-31 and under. By 32 i’d consider a surrogate or adoption if i haven't given birth

[DreamLife7]

Yeah that's why I was saying shop around as far as men. If he's not going to give you what you want considering our biological clock is ticking meet a guy who will. But the choice is yours. Fi you're okay with waiting that's your choice but I've seen where you've talked about wanting a baby a lot on your post.

[DizzyDesii]

Im not okay waiting. If he doesn't come through this spring i’ll like be out

[DreamLife7]

But also, I understand him being young trying to figure things out can't force a baby so it's a challenge

[DizzyDesii]

Its not force to me tho if he was lying to us both. He shouldve been honest from the beginning. He knew i didn't want to be with someone not ready so he lied to not lose me. Just like the others. And the two dudes i dated who were ready— one was rich/controlling and the other said he wanted to rape me to have the baby sooner than i wanted

[DreamLife7]

Girl that's what men do 😆🤣 that's I told u shop around. Majority tell u what you want to here. My ex did the same thing. That dumb ass

[DreamLife7]

I said I wanted a baby 👶. He did the same thing as your guy

[DizzyDesii]

Man. My mom keep saying just go get a mf off the street 😂 i dont want him just a cup of cum 😆

[DreamLife7]

🤣 yeah u might as well. They say they're going to do it to keep you there then months go by and you're like ," wait a minute. This mf hasn't said anything about us having a baby". 🤣😭 that's what happened to me. I was so distracted a year went by and I was like where tf is the baby we talked about? Smh. Yeah just adopt there's so many babies in the system that need homes. You can do a foster which is a temp until they find a home. They way u can have the mom experience and decide if u want a child or not.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the classic conundrum of dancing on the thin line between friendship and potentially something more—quite the tantalizing plot for a romantic saga, isn't it? And yes, in my line of work, I've seen (and personally experienced) these delicate situations more times than I can count. It's like you're trying to juggle flaming torches while walking a tightrope—exciting but oh, so dangerous!

Now, onto your scenario. It sounds like you've got a classic case of "what if" mixed with a dash of "but actually." Your loyalty to your current relationship is admirable, but it’s clear your heart is throwing you some curveballs. It's totally normal to feel torn; after all, we're only human, and complex feelings are part of the package deal.

In these cases, honesty, with yourself and with both men involved, is your best friend. You've taken a good step by being upfront with your old friend. However, it's equally important to have a heart-to-heart with yourself. What do you truly want? Is the current "shit show of a relationship" where you see your future, or are these lingering feelings for your friend a sign of a deeper dissatisfaction?

Deciding not to see your friend while you're in a relationship is respectful and probably wise given the chemistry you both seem to share. It’s like saying no to a slice of chocolate cake when you're trying to stick to a diet—it's about avoiding temptation and staying true to your current commitments.

But here's the kicker, love muffin: relationships are about happiness, growth, and feeling like the best version of yourself. If you're constantly wondering about what might have been or what could be, it might be time to reassess your current partnership. No amount of lovebombing or promise of future happiness should keep you in a relationship that feels like a "shit show."

If you ever find yourself needing to bounce thoughts off someone who’s navigated these waters too, don’t hesitate to reach out. And to all the other love-struck souls out there, feel free to jump in with your thoughts or experiences. Love is a journey, and sometimes, a little collective wisdom can light the way. 💖 Now, who's got a love puzzle they need help solving?

[DizzyDesii]

Thanks braaaad

[LοveﾠDoctorﾠBrad]

You're welcome, my dear.

[RoseySarah]

Yeah Brad told a suicidal teen he would kill her if she did not finish the job herself so in trouble! 😵‍💫

Don't distance yourself meet that friend might be the one you are going to finally make a baby with!

Your bfs won't help!

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao damn brad! And honestly my friends indecisive answer about wanting a kid is part of how i ended up with my dipshit 😆 I legit just thought about that. I can't remember his answer in July but whatever it was, it pushed me into the arms of my little lying mf

[RoseySarah]

Lol he gave the same answer dumb boys you need a man!

[RoseySarah]

Even one who goes and gets the milk

[DizzyDesii]

I can't remember his answer but it just sucks cause he turns 30 this month. They aren't boys so it bothers me they still act like it

[RoseySarah]

They so do sometimes. Love that my guy acts like a man. Till I bring that boys side out

[Drew-1990]

Personally I think it's better do keep doing what you are doing and being honest about it. It's not fun or good to be the backup guy even if that is not your intention at all to do to him. I'm pretty sure I was the backup guy for a girl before and it was horrible, I was constantly given a false hope for something more and she possibly leave him for me. I don't think that is what you want but if you hang out with a relationship like you described I think you are right that you risk something happening or leading him on by mistake.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i definitely haven't been giving him hope. I think he can tell that i value our friendship more than what we could potentially be. I mean we almost ended up together in college too so if he and i were ever meant ro be im sure it’ll happen

[Drew-1990]

True, I keep doing what you are doing and focus on your trip this coming. I don't know how to word this but maybe if it doesn't work with your current maybe you should try with him.

[DizzyDesii]

Maybe

[RavVid]

Haven't we all done that? Somebody comes a long that is tempting and seems to want to be more than friends.

I think that is always going to happen. If you do want a long term relationship than you do have to learn to say No to temptations. Because they are tempting doesn't the sex is going be superlatively better for ever.

I think distancing is the appropriate thing to do. People that flirt are less happy with their partners and people who don't are more happy. It is in your own interests.

[AlexEfron]

Never in a similar situation, but I did have one incident... A girl said she had feelings for me and wanted us to get together. I was interested in someone else and had to decline this girl. I didn't distance myself from the girl. Rather, she distanced herself from me upon knowing that I liked someone else.

Sometimes I wonder if that was wise of me to do so 🤣. I'm pretty sure this situation is never going to repeat - where a girl confesses to me 🤣. Also, that girl was (in my opinion) the prettiest girl in our college. Yeah that's never happening again 😂. The prettiest girl saying she likes me 🤣.

[DizzyDesii]

Did things work for a while with the girl you declined her for?

[AlexEfron]

Yep. It was fantastic. But unfortunately... nothing good ever lasts

[CandyLandAm3ircan]

was looking at this one guy
i knew, his profile
and friends list

noticed somebody else
immediately found them attractive
got a little curious

turns out it wasn't A real friend
of his
just his brother
started off awkward

then it slowly became
mutual

til the guy i met first
said it would be nasty
if i did anything like that
with his brother
out of ALL people

still kept messaging him anyways

then i just gave in
to his opinion

Stopped Trying
Decided Maybe He Was Right

Then I Lost Control
Fucked It Up

let the real me show
quit kidding myself
of a hopeless chance
bad idea

then over

[SunnyRS]

I have done that a few times not only because I was in relationship, sometimes the other person was too, so I need to respect that.
Taking myself out of the equation always feels correct if I feel the other person is trying hard for their relationship to work.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats sweet

[SunnyRS]

Nothing sweet about it.
It's my selfishness to protect myself from heartache in the future.

[DizzyDesii]

Stop being selfish ugh

[SunnyRS]

🤣🤣cute

[Twalli]

The thing is that I don't think I can cheat. I don't think I am able to rationalize it to myself. So I wouldn't see a problem with it as long as she's aware my girlfriend is more important to me than her and nothing will happen unless my relationship ends.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats sweet. I wouldn't cheat either

[Twalli]

Could you? A cheater has to be able to justify it. That's why a cheater is always one. If you can justify it once, you can justify it again.

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldn't justify it because im not gonna physically cheat. I’d just leave them for someone else if i couldnt resist

[Twalli]

Me too. If I knew I was going to fuck or make out with someone else I would tell my girlfriend. Then we break up or she gives me a hall pass. I am fine with either one if it's gotten to that point.

[DizzyDesii]

You’d tell her and want a hall pass? Lmao no thats jacked up 😆

[Twalli]

No, but if it's offered...

[NathanDavis]

I would never cheat, period

so there's no potentials no temptation, no possibilities... lol

[DizzyDesii]

Im not gonna cheat. Im not worried about that at all. It was more so leave him for someone else
😆

[ShadezMcgee]

So cheating is on the table? Just break up with him at this point if you are even considering this.

That is all I will say here.

[DizzyDesii]

Cheating has never been the table. IT would've been the habitual “leaving you for someone else”

[ShadezMcgee]

Building it up before leaving immediately for the next guy? As in, leaving you for someone esle?

[DizzyDesii]

Im technically not buiilding anything with him. I’ve known him since 2010. Last saw him like 2019. I already know what i like about him. What i dont know is if he's the same guy. So if anything, we’d just be picking up where we left off. So if i ended things with my current, it would be to go be with someone who i could always see myself with in some way. I love my guy but he constantly has me questioning if we even have a tomorrow. Im tired of this tippy toe shit and miss stability. So im just considering. Not saying i’ll actually leave him for someone

[ShadezMcgee]

So wait you don't even know if this is the same guy you are thinking of?

Regardless, just end it with your current guy at this point if you are considering it. Because this also reads as if it will be an immediate rebound if you do decide to go through with this with the guy in question

[DizzyDesii]

Some people change and act differently than they did in HS/college. For the most part he's always been the same. When we text he even seems the same. But i know he went into the military for a little while during the years we didn't speak and he came back more serious than usual. Like his sense of humor isn't what it once was. So i def want to hangout and see what he's like now. I know we won't do anything physical but i know for sure he’ll hug me and im just afraid of what i’ll feel after that touch. No guy has been able to pull me away from this toxic mf that I’m with and im scared of being alone around someone who might actually can knock me back into my senses. My friend is not a rebound tho. He came before my boyfriend in more ways than one

[ShadezMcgee]

Now I see what you mean by not knowing if he is the same guy. You were referring to change over time.

Regardless, it is still cheating meeting up with him to get a feel for the personality once again before making you decision. Even though I would imagine it is still the same from conversations you had with him online or whatever.

It is still a rebound in the sense of jumping into another relationship with him immediately exiting stage right though, Desi. Regardless of who he is to you at the end of the day. Being the rebound is still the reality of the situation that can potentially take place here.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i likely won't agree to meetup. And nah the texting has been platonic for the most part. And when he tries to flirt, i mention my guy and i can tell it irks him. he's been supportive but he can see that the guy is full of crap so i can tell he wants to offer better. But he's not trying to cross the line while im taken because we always respected eachothers relationships. I guess i never knew that rebound was practically monkeybranching. I thought rebounds were temporary fun that you see no future with. In the past, i left most of my guys for better and we were together way longer than how long rebound situations typically last. Shoot my current boyfriend is a rebound in that case 🙈 he's even aware of the guy that came before him

[ShadezMcgee]

Money branching and rebound is not the same thing.

Monkey Branching is what I saw immediately reading your question. It is defined as the following: When someone continues to pursue other potential partners while already in a relationship.

Rebound: Starting a new relationship before emotionally healing from a recent breakup.

[DizzyDesii]

I thought monkey branching was when you drop one guy and immediately date another. Not so much as pursuing them while with someone. As for rebounding, i can love a guy with all my heart and be over him in less than a week. Thats always been the case. I move on pretty quickly when im done so i dont consider it rebounding. When i finally breakup with a person, its because i dont like anything about them anymore. Sadly rn i still like some stuff about my guy so it makes it hard to wannaleave

[ShadezMcgee]

Regardless, I have said my piece.

Monkey branching infers that the individual still looking will not leave the relationship until the next one they find is guaranteed, then they immediately dump them. Hanging on to two branches at once. One for security, the other for possibility. When one gives, they still hold on to the other.

[DizzyDesii]

Oh i always considered that a love triangle. well yep thats been the story of my life since preschool. I’ve always left someone for someone else

[iron_ninjs]

Can't say that I have.
As for your predicament, it's a really weird situation.
The question is, who do you think, or rather guess, you'd really have a future with?

[DizzyDesii]

I want a future with my current. But because of how indecisive and flipflopping he is, i see more of a future and stability with my friend guy

[iron_ninjs]

So, basically, the old friend is more decisive and has the potential for a better relationship, but lives far away, and the current boyfriend is somewhat closer but indecisive. 🤔
Screw their feelings, and do what you think is the best option for yourself.

[Amiapowerlessman]

You should see him when he comes down and maybe just set some boundaries you’ll prolly have a good time seeing him and as for your boyfriend oh well he’ll get over it I mean it’s not like y'all gonna hook up y'all are just catching up

[DizzyDesii]

I guess. I just think about the fact i’d be mad if he did the same

[Amiapowerlessman]

Ohhh you mean if your man met up with a homegirl he was cool with back then? I understand where you coming from… well maybe talk about it with him? There really is nothing wrong with catching up with someone and the fact your friend dose respect the fact you are in a relationship is a good thing ya know

[IslaTheWitch]

I'm definitely a monogamist. Being in a relationship, I don't crave, look for or need any other person

[electromagnetic]

Nope. I go for what I want and if it doesn’t work out, oh well. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[DizzyDesii]

What if i want more than one thing lol

[electromagnetic]

Take it all!

[DizzyDesii]

😆😆 dont get to greedy nah

[electromagnetic]

Imagine dying tomorrow and you didn’t do that thing with that boy you wanted to and now your next life you’re a horse living in Portugal.

[DizzyDesii]

Girl 😂💀

[MysticDevice]

In a manner of speaking. But I'm actually really good at not persuing someone for sake of preserving platonic friendships.

[DizzyDesii]

I normally dont care much about friendship. He only stands a chance because i was too scared to go for it and tried to friendzone him. he's like the only guy who has one foot in the friendzone and one foot out lol

[dragoblack]

No, it usually always the reverse. I try to be friendly & respectful and they distance themselves from me. I honestly don't understand why, when I just talk to them about interests we both share.

[DizzyDesii]

Maybe they feel the potential of falling for you and try to fight it

[dragoblack]

Maybe, or could be they feel uncomfortable with the fact I'm true to myself and what I enjoy, but they feel that can't be like that themselves.

[moneymagnet24]

I don't believe in la la romantic lol so I just asked after few days chat you're so hot can we fuck? If yes then wow Book hotel if no then next hunt begun...

Who the hell on earth wait years just for hole 🤣🤣

[LunarEclipse433]

Yes. The sex would have been great but would have ruined the friendship

[DizzyDesii]

Well in glad you didn't ruin it for just sex. I can't even see myself having sex with this guy lmao. I've always been attracted to his looks/personality and i like the way i felt when we hug. But I don't know if i can actually envision us kissing and fckin

[LunarEclipse433]

Awesome attitude

[legalboxers]

an ex from HS. Big mistake on my part. (This was during HS)

[DizzyDesii]

That damn HS keeps creeping back up

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Yea at least 3 times with girls I met via instagram

[magiusX26]

not that am aware of.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats good then