Why am I never good enough? Why am I not desirable to a guy?

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Got told no one would ever approach you unless you distanced yourself from your prettier sister hurts. I'm not good enough standing next to her, but if I move behind or ahead of her I'll be approached? that's pathetic. I knew men were pathetic. I'll never be good enough. I'm the settle for less and she's the better one. happens with my friends all the time, guys come up to them, not me. guys come up to ask me about them. Everyone finds her attractive. I'm a bbw, and I'm in a few bbw groups and I made a threat about me being vulnerable and they asked for the photo of her and I. I've never cried so much, I've put it on here and got shot down. I'm bigger, and guys say it's in the eye of the beholder. But guys who claimed they like bbw told me "she's hotter than you" "no one will approach you if she's around" "You're ugly". They told me to stand away or go out alone. Or find ugly friends. Like wtf.. why am I never good enough like I am? Why can't someone approach me and WANT ME? Even if she is there or if someone else is there. why am I not good enough to be approached and be someone's apple of their eye in a room full of women.. beauty isn't subjective. guys say they like bbw but choose my sister, lol. so much for that. I guess I have to stand away from distractions. I thought someone would want just me. I thought I'd be someone's type. same thing applies with my friends I've never had been approached or bought ne a drink. like my friends get all the time. :/ oh well. I'm done. I know a model whose mutual friends with my friend and she comes over and talks about how guys are weird and simps. that they will do anything for her attention. whenever she comes over she talks about how my friends dad is creepy and has to keep her blinds closed. I wouldn't want my future partner make a woman feel uncomfortable. I wouldn't even stand a chance between Megan fox or someone of that nature. 😐 so you aren't as special as you think

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I was watching a interview with Irina Shayk guys in the comments were like "I love my wife, I love my wife"Who the fuck says this? this is why I give up on men.
this is what guys want, this is what guys follow, admire and like on social media. they don't want someone who looks like me. if every guy had the confidence he wouldn't want someone like me they settle for less with me. BEAUTY isn't subjective. That's what I learned

t-8900 · Accepted Answer

Okaaaay this is gonna be a post that might shock some people that know me on here and you might get the wrong impression about me off the bat. HOWEVER I am doing this to try to help you so read my post and lets engage in conversation to try to troubleshoot your situation a bit. Sound fair? Okay!

"I knew men were pathetic."

y'know maybe... you're projecting certain thoughts a feelings and that makes you unapproachable.

"I'll never be good enough. I'm the settle for less." well if you're not good enough why are you aiming for the top guys? Drop the arrogance, which works both ways. arrogance builds and breaks people and right now you're exuding it.

"I'm a bbw, and I'm in a few bbw groups and I made a threat about me being vulnerable and they asked for the photo of her and I."

Yes... and I'm a fat guy, which means my life doesn't even count to society. You won't be finding fat guys on the cover of magazines but fat girls or sorry "bbw"? Yeah they still get that and called beautiful but men who are fat are just slobs and no counts. Also "threatening" people? Yes no man wants a knife wielding woman. Beauty IS subjective actually. But more guys like certain body types overall. I think the guys that liked BBW were like 13-21% of the total polled men in an online poll for IG models. It's a niche type for a niche guy.

About not getting bought a drink... well be a guy, we never get that treatment. I've been bought lunch, twice in my life by women. The rest of the time I was having to do the work and I was barely scraping by. Just like you say men like BBW and it's a lie I say women who holler about equality are also liars. Want proof? How many chicks you know going dutch every dinner. THAT'S RIGHT! FULL OF SH*T! LOL. but it's okay because i personally hate when a woman pays for my stuff unless its like a gesture of some kind, unrelated to dating.

"so you aren't as special as you think"

EXCELLENT MENTALITY! WHY? well because everyone in general is so full of their own shit. I was, you are, your sister is, my friends are, my neighbors are. Yes welcome to American, where everyone thinks they're f*cking special. I'm sorry but people have such overinflated egos, hell I was one of those people until some shit happened to me! I've got something to share with you on that to give you some perspective! Of course you're special in that you are unique. Your life has intrinsic value and no one should ever say otherwise! But too many people have egos that build them up or beat them up (yes a big ego can go both ways).

"his is what guys want, this is what guys follow, admire and like on social media"

LOL a guy who follows people on social media constantly is pretty down there hun. Go find a guy who spends more time actually trying to interact with people, help people, help their community, or just is a hustler busting his ass 9-5. Those are the guys you want, not whoever tf you been chilling with.

"if every guy had the confidence he wouldn't want someone like me they settle for less with me"

Bullshit, don't compare me to the low tier scum you're talking about. I used to be like that then I had a few near death experiences and real human interactions that completely changed me from a Black pilled SOB to what red pillers call a "Simp" sometimes. I'm just honest and tell it like it is. You aren't out of the dating scene but you need to ask yourself WHAT you want in a man first and foremost. Physically, financially, personality, age wise, what exactly are you expecting from a guy first off? Believe it or not I'm actually going to try to help you with your problems here. I might come off as rude, but it's not so much aimed at you so much as my past self and society as a whole. The girls on here who know me know I'm not even close to being a cold hearted SoB and I assure you that while it might seem like I am after this post I'm not. Please be willing to have a dialogue me. ^^

Staximus · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you have a terrible opinion of yourself and need to fix that first. The way you look at and perceive yourself effects the way people look at you and interact with you. If you think of yourself as worthless, a lot of people will think the same. A positive attitude goes a long way when it comes to the way you treat yourself and others treat you. Start doing good things for yourself and your mental and physical health. Things that improve your own quality of life. Get healthy, exercise regularly, get plenty of sunlight on your skin. Exercise burns of frustration and calories. If you are so unhappy with your looks, start eating healthy to keep your body balanced and exercise and lose weight. Start being good to yourself first. Maybe see a therapist.

Cheechee4me · Accepted Answer

No no no. There is someone or some does out there for you. Be patient.

ohshee · Answer

Wow ok time out take a breath. Are you serious if you are 100% serious and everything you just said then let's do a test I'm not going to tell you what it is. But if you want to do this test this experiment I guarantee it will change your life for the better so send me a message and either say yes or no and I will tell you what the experiment will be it's very very simple. If you say yes I will tell you what it is and it's very very simple to do I hope I hear back from you you can send me a private message or through here

Alvin1997 · Answer

Don't think of yourself like you are the only one who going through this thing, I also loved someone for years she is more like my childhood friend , it literally take me 6 month just to confess her answer"it's too boring to hang out with an introvert" instead of me she chose a best friend of mine. And a month ago she got married, she also invited me to her marriage as a childhood friend, but I am fine because I know they must be someone who like me to. Whatever you do don't make any harmful decisions, the world is bigger than you think.

slatyb · Answer

Those of us who are perhaps the most immediately attractive can still attract a partner with our personality. There are many women I initially didn't find attractive, but became attracted as I got to know them. All it takes is one good conversation and physical flaws become completely unimportant.

Genoside · Answer

Why did you repost this? We get it: You’re sad that you aren’t attractive. But your question contains its own answer:

“I’m a bbw.”

That’s why you aren’t desirable to a guy. Now you know. You’re welcome.

Guanfei · Answer

Why would any guy want a girl talking about him like you do?
Get down off your high horse, princess, you aren't special either, and with that attitude, you can be certain that no one will ever bear with you long enough to want to date you.

Anonymous · Answer

Not all of us are like that. But social media and dating apps are pushing society in this direction. Hopefully you can find a good one before he is converted to the kiddy pool.

Grubhub · Answer

Because you don’t approach guys. Most girls I come across are nervous around me. Most girls don’t have confidence

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Beauty is at least partially subjective

es20490446e · Answer

Most people won't approach simply out of shyness.

Iron_Man · Answer

You. you have to find the right kind of guy

Slim57 · Answer

You're bitter towards men and we can sense it

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Watch out for the men you like

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