Why am I such a waste of space?

[Anonymous]

guys always say how lucky the guy is when he gets a hot girlfriend. And how he scored so good on these girls.
when a guy gets with me people will feel bad for him cause I'm ugly and worthless. I'll be the settle for less type.. the best he could do. No man would choose me over an actual hot girl.

I'm the girl guys get with till someone better comes along. I'm the ugly friend who guys try to get with to try and get with my friends who are absolutely breathtaking. the guys that get with me are desperate or insecure or can't find better.

I'm not wrong, my mom and sister are beautiful always stared at by men, they are gawked at and guys instantly turn their heads. I see it all, I'm ignored. Why would I inconvenience another man when he could be with someone hot? I'm sure he will lust after her and other girls especially online. whats the point anymore?


I'm so hideous and ugly. I wish I was actually pretty. I wish I could be desirable to men. but I'm not.

oh well



So my man wouldn't lust after another girl? yes he fucking would. Stop acting like he wouldn't. He will probably be one of those men who follow half naked chicks online, and lust after models. So stop acting like someone is gonna be a great guy to me. I haven't seen it so it doesn't fucking exist. Men are too busy chasing the girl whose got every guy after her. No man wants a "too" available woman. I honestly can't stand men anymore. They aren't worth the time. They eventually get bored and start looking around.


Guys want the hot girl, until they date them and then they realize lol. Its disgusting they even wanna try. You will never be good enough for a fucking man. He will always want something better and think the grass is ways greener. I'm fucking done.


guess I'm not meant for a man, which fucking hurts. Because I always wanted to find love. But the ones who want it the most dont find it. I wish my mom threw me in the dumpster as a kid. Why am I a wasted space?

[Vencam]

I'm glad you decided to post this question and keep it open for both genders despite your feelings. I hope you'll take your time reading the answers and oimmpossibly change your mind as I really believe this is not an issue worth living bitterly for.
I can't help feeling simpathetic, as I've been in a similar situation for many years, believe it or not. But I realized later that thinking like that not only was quite shallow (I'll explain this point later), but actually made me turn away possible partners just because I thought I was "the last choice for them".

But that is the issue with this kind of thinking: you may start seeing everything in this perspective. So when someone approaches you, you think it's because he must. If he confesses to you, you think it's because he doesn't have any other choice and is desparate. If he swears he's not you doubt that thinking how he would wag hist tail behind an Instagram model as soon as she winks at him. And at that point, how can you perceive their sincerity when you're so busy projecting your view on them?
Don't get me wrong, I get where you're coming from. Many people probably DO think you could be the worst possible choice for a partner. But you should NEVER confuse "many" with "all". There ARE men who can be into your looks. There ARE men who can be interested in your character and want to be with you even if you don't fit their ideal criteria. And yes, there are too men who can love you for both.
Will finding one such men be easy? Probably not. But at the same time, with having few choices in partners you can take your time judging each one and finding the right one.
In the other hand, do you think a famous babe, wanted by millions of people, will have an easy time finding her love just because of her looks? Between the endless sea of lustful men invading their social network's feed? And let's be real... Do you really think YOU would like to have any of those fools to be your partner? Just like they do with you, they could do with her: as soon as a more beautiful chance pass by, they will jump on it. And imagine how the so confident model would feel when that happens to her

Now, I've digressed a bit, so let me make my point here.
Just because many judge you as a "bottom tier good", that is not true for everybody and should not affect how you view yourself. You are yourself, your kind of looks may attract less people, but that just means that those who do come to you have a higher chance to have sincere feelings. Don't drown in bitterness, you have plenty of decades in front of you to experience if what you feel now is wrong

[JSmith925]

Let me give you another perspective.

I knew a woman who was extremely attractive and very unhappy. She was quite bright and personable but always felt that men were simply reacting to her physical presence while completely overlooking every other aspect of her.

She also attracted all of the wrong guys. The average fellow was too intimidated by her looks and would not approach even when she made eye contact. Meanwhile, the cads who were overconfident would walk up and just about pounce on her. The last I knew she was still single.

Life is not always greener elsewhere and being pretty is no guarantee of happiness.

The only space you are wasting is the time you spend feeling sorry for yourself. Wake up and live.

~JSmith

[Anonymous]

Dont say that about yourself. If you don't like something about it maybe go and change it. I did not like that I was overweight so I worked hard and lost 50 pounds. I know you could figure out what you need to change to be a better you. I know I'm going to get crap about body positivity but tbh that is bs because you need to find motivation to better yourself. I know you can do it.

[Asker]

I never fucking asked for weight loss advice, why do I need to fucking change to find someone to love me? Come on. Wow, dick.

[Opinion Owner]

I never gave you weight loss advice I gave you how to become a better you but after that attitude everything is a lot more clear

[Asker]

Lmfao okay 😂 Bye

[Anonymous]

There is only one perfect Man, his name is Jesus Christ. He is eternal, like your soul. He died for you and values you. He even has a plan for you, but you have to repent and accept his sacrifice to see it. You are a woman in your physical prime, that alone is desirable, but relationships built in the physical won't last. If you build a relationship in Christ it will last. People have insecurities, they feel down, but true Joy and peace can be found in Christ. I pray you find you find both.

[Anonymous]

Lol you're not ugly or worthless. You're a beautiful person with a good heart. You're a good girl. Whatever is bothering you right will pass and you'll feel better again. Just talk to someone about what you're feeling.

[Tslav_]

Ask the two who decided to conceive you. Waste of space created by two other spaces of waste