If stay home mom was such a good job then why do most women chose to work jobs?

[nastyb]

[desidoll]

Because I want to earn my own income so I can buy whatever I want with it? For now I am a stay at home mum but once my baby reached the toddler stage, I might start working. My husband provides everything including my personal shopping, but I still want to be financially independent.

[desidoll]

Thanks for the MHO

[IslaTheWitch]

because staying at home is boring, full of menial and repetitive tasks, and does not give me a chance to grow.

there are women who like it, enjoy it, and find themselves in it, and honestly, I respect them... for me, it's the worst punishment...

[TonyMetal___86]

A punishment 🤔 that's too much, anyways people have different opinions, what looks a punishment to you is heaven for others!

[nastyb]

@TonyMetal___86

Lotta women become housewives cus they are too lazy to work a 9 to 5

[IslaTheWitch]

I work 6 to 3 :D

[TonyMetal___86]

Sooo? Don't know why you're laughing miss isla 🤔

[TonyMetal___86]

@nastyb you're underestimating the role of the housewife too much, maybe you're warching too much desperate housewives or housewives of orange county, these ain't no housewives, these are gold diggers with sugar daddies!

[nastyb]

@TonyMetal___86

You just admitted in the other comment section that housewives have it easier than working Moms

[monorprise]

Say at home Mom is an essential job for the long term well-being of the family. But it is also one we as a culture for the most part can no longer afford to finance.

What we are expected and required to finance today is beyond the capability of most boomer men, much less the ones who never received a compatible education thanks to failed post-90's education practices.

This is part of the reason we are collapsing with sub-replacement birthrates and ever higher rates of delinquency among the ever fewer children who are born.

So ultimately in anther century or so stay at home mom will become a popular job again among the cultures that replace us and the few of our own that survive.

[AviatorTom]

I think the statistics would not support your theory. US labor numbers say about 55% of women work. That is not "most". That's barely half of them. The rest (45%) are either single or stay-at-home moms.

The traditional setup where the husband works and the wife stays home, taking care of the house and kids, is not dead. Maybe not as prevalent as decades ago, but there are still a lot of women (and men) who prefer that.

[strateguy632]

sorry for nitpicking but your own interpretation self refuted. you admit some women are single, so 55% is not only a literal majority most, but due to single that 55 is more than 55% of mothers. agreed with asker most.

[nastyb]

Research shows that only 26% of moms are stay home moms. The remaining 73% work

www.pewresearch.org/.../

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Well, women having the choice to work is liberating. The reason we do is mostly to support ourselves or family. Realistically it's almost impossible, unless you have one party making 6 or 7 figures or on government assistance, to support a family on one income. Some women just don't want to be trapped in the home either.

[Apple1996]

Being a stay at home mom is stressful. I have a few friends that tried being stay at home moms but they couldn't deal with their kids 24/7 so they work a few days a month for a break.

One of my friends I help babysit her kids sometimes and she literally pays me more than what she made that day but says the time working as a nurse is more fulfilling than making money or being with her kids

[nastyb]

And you think working as a nurse isn't stressful? You sound like you need a wake up call.

[nastyb]

Nurses work 12 hr shift then come home to continue to do housework

[Apple1996]

For her it's a break. Also I have a cousin who is a ER nurse and also chooses to work for fun instead of being with her 2 kids

[Apple1996]

There is not much housework if the kids have been out of the house all day

[TonyMetal___86]

Being a housewife is a nurse too!
A housewife does everything, come on miss @Apple1996 release you powers and tell them how priceless the housewife role is! 😁

[Apple1996]

@TonyMetal___86 it is true with all these boys constantly playing rough I feel like a nurse 😅

[TonyMetal___86]

That's true, a housewife gived the 1st aids to her kids and sometimes she heals her husband and kids if they are having a mild sickness as much as she gets experienced with it...

A nurse only heals physically but a housewife can heals physically and mentally!

[nastyb]

@Apple1996

Nurses call for change as many reveal they're ‘extremely likely’ to leave profession: ‘Emotional, stressful'

www.foxnews.com/.../nurses-call-change-many-extremely-likely-leave-profession-emotional-stressful

[nastyb]

@Apple1996

[There is not much housework if the kids have been out of the house all day]

And who is gonna cook dinner, prepare lunch boxes, teach the kids to make sure their homework is done correctly, buy groceries, wash clothes?

When you work a 12 hr shift, u dont get a break besides half hr lunch break. While when you're a housewife, you can take a break whenever you want

[nastyb]

@TonyMetal___86

you're so clueless. Nurses take care of unstable unhealthy injured people who can DIE ANY MINUTE. and the nurse must be able to rush and know what to do at any point when someone is about to die or be able to immediately recognize the signs of when someone is about to go down.

Nurses can take care of up to 30 or 40 very unstable, ill , injured people , who require A LOT of attention, all at one time. Nurses are also responsible for what happens to their patients. If a nurse is stressed, over worked and accidentally gives out the wrong dosage medication, it kills the patient, she can go to jail, lose her livelihood.

. While when you're a mom , you only care for a mere few who are usually very healthy and require minimal attention.

[TonyMetal___86]

Agreed but all i'm saying is that a housewife ain't so easy the way others picture it!
About being clueless, i guess alicia silverstone gave me her clueless disease, that's if!

[nastyb]

@TonyMetal___86

95% of jobs are hard or stressful in some way. Cashiers are on their feet 8 hr shifts, nurses run around all day 12 hrs on their feet , often not even a lunch break, construction workers have to lift heavy material bend squat all day, doctors work 24 hr shifts and take years of hard work to get their licenses.

If you think stay home mom is hard, remember Plenty of people have it harder.

Plenty of moms work non stop for 8 to 12 hrs then come home to continue doing child care, cook dinner, laundry, wash dishes

[TonyMetal___86]

Agreed about the last part, that's why i prefer the wife to be a housewife because it's enough for her to work only at home 😌

[nastyb]

@TonyMetal___86

If you can't afford it, it will just make her and your kids lives much harder. Kids born to financially unstable parents tend to do worse in life

[TonyMetal___86]

They will be inside my house and they will be fed and taken care of so no worries!

[Apple1996]

Stay at home moms have more stress than any other job. It's 24/7 with 0 breaks

[Apple1996]

You are thinking only about the physical part. Most moms are more focused on their child's mental and emotional well being. Not the tasks that need to be done

[nastyb]

@Apple1996
And what makes u think other working moms never have to take care of their kids mentally and physically? Many of them do this after an exhausting 8 to 12 hr shift

You get to take a break whenever you want. You get to nap while the kids are in school. You get a husband to pay all your bills.

Other moms might not be able to pay their rent if they take off a day from work to take care of their kid if he is sick

[nastyb]

@Apple1996

You have no idea how lucky you are. You have a husband to pay the bills, nap when the baby is sleeping, go enjoy the sun in the middle of the day, food provided to you at no cost, sleep in middle of the day while the kids are at school

I know moms who have to pick between taking a day off work to care for their sick child versus not being able to pay bills

I know working moms who work 12 hr shifts - no breaks then come home to continue cooking, cleaning, teaching, bathing kids, laundry, grocery shopping which is another 6 hrs of work. Before she gets to finally shower and go to sleep

I know of new moms who have to go to work after giving birth a few days ago. Or new moms who couldnt sleep all night due to baby crying then having to go to work the next day

[nastyb]

@TonyMetal___86

Fed really isn't enough. What about your children's college tuition fund, retirement fund for u and ur wife? Paying your wife an allowance? Mortgage? Property insurance? Car for you and another car for your wife? Your kids clothing, new computer, ipads every few years? Money for school trips,

The amount of expenses are endless.

[Apple1996]

Moms that get to work are lucky because they are making themselves a priority because someone else is worrying about their kid for those hours they are out working

[Apple1996]

There are no breaks for stay at home moms like that. Not all kids nap or go to school. There isn't time to sleep when I'm the one having to care for the kids 24/7. At least for working moms someone else is playing with the kids making them tired for bed.
And I've also had to go straight back into working as a mom for my other kids right after giving birth. I literally almost gave birth at home last time because my toddler was needy for me to stay with him 😂

[Apple1996]

Also I'm more of a financial benefit to my family than my husband is. We've done the math it would cost 800-1000 a day for our kids to be in a daycare. A nanny slightly less maybe 500$ a day on the cheap end. If I died tomorrow my husband wouldn't be able to afford our kids yet if he died I would be able to make it work even with no income. Which I will say is crazy sad how much daycare cost. It is more than a college degree lol

[nastyb]

@Apple1996

[Moms that get to work are lucky because they are making themselves a priority because someone else is worrying about their kid for those hours they are out working]

You have no clue what you're talking about lady

Since when do working moms have any time to make themselves a priority if they are working a job non stop, no breaks working for someone else?

Do you think moms go to work so they can sit around, nap, take a walk to the grocery store or eat donuts while you fold laundry at home?

You dont get to eat or take breaks or nap at work. Im sure you do. But not working moms. When you're paid to work, you work non stop.

[Apple1996]

My husband regularly naps, goes to the store and eats at work 😂

[nastyb]

@Apple1996

You think working a job is easy because you never worked a job. I think you should try to work as a nurse a 12 hr shift at the hospital then come home to continue doing housework, childcare.

Because you won't know how easy you have it till you work a real job

You had everything handed to you for free. People work hard to be to eat, money dont grow on trees. you're too spoiled to realize how spoiled you are.

[Apple1996]

Like I said I know moms who work as a nurse for fun. They have partners that fully provide for them as well. If multiple different moms do it for fun or a break its obviously not that difficult

[nastyb]

@Apple1996

Nobody works a 12 hr shift then comes home to work more for "fun"

Does it sound fun to you?

[Apple1996]

It does tbh I've thought about working just for fun but it wouldn't be fair to my kids so I make the sacrifice for them

[nastyb]

@Apple1996

A 12 hr work day means waking up 5.30 am in the morning to get to work by 7 am. Stand all day until 7pm. Get home by 8 pm and continue to do laundry, cook, clean, bathe the kids, tutor them till 11pm. Then going to sleep by midnight.

Repeat for the next day. This is the typical work day for a nurse mom

[nastyb]

@Apple1996

[wouldn't be fair to my kids so I make the sacrifice for them]

Moms who work jobs to support their kids through college are the ones making Ultimate sacrifice for their kids.

Not moms who take naps at home when the kids are at school or eats donuts while she folds laundry

[Apple1996]

Your obviously very ignorant about how moms spend their day acutally raising their kid. For moms that send their kid to daycare all day those needs are being taken care of by someone else. It is a luxury to be able to afford for someone else to watch your kid while you can be selfish and focus on your career. Moms that give up their careers are the ones making the bigger sacrifice

[Apple1996]

I'm not gonna judge working parents but to say it's more difficult is crazy when they literally get breaks away from their kids. It's not 24/7 for them like it is for stay at home parents

[nastyb]

@Apple1996

Moms dont send their kids to daycare because they want to take a nap at work. Moms chose to work 18 to 20 hr days because they want to provide their kids a better life. They want to send their kids to college

[It's not 24/7 for them like it is for stay at home parents]

Who says its not 24/7? Plenty of new moms who haven't SLEPT ALL NIGHT have to go back to work the next morning because the baby was crying all night long.

You DONT GET BREAKS at work. No employer will pay you to take a nap at work. Work is NON STOP. You just dont know this cus u never worked a job

You had everything handed to u for free

[nastyb]

@Apple1996

If eating donuts while sitting on the couch folding laundry is already killing you, you would try STANDING 8 hrs a day as a cashier at the supermarket. Then come home to cook, clean , do laundry, wash dishes

[strateguy632]

stay home-mom is "such good" for family. kids with mom after scool or younger. any money they earn at job would go out to babysitters! not because it is a "good job".

if so why do most women chose to work jobs? they are forced, not real choice, so work enuf hours to pay for expenses, which got worse due t biden-flation! so most women got jobs.

[molonski2]

They dont see it that way , they get fulfillment though paid work , and all that goes with it , responsibility , stimulation.

Stay at home mother cannot provide the child with the stimulation and interaction they receive in a good child care centre.

[bobalife]

Because we have the right to choose our path in life like anybody and there’s more to a woman than be limited to only be a stay home mom? To be independent, to have our liberty to choose what we want to do, to be a supportive partner or family member, to follow our passion or career dreams, and more. Nothing wrong if someone wants to be a house wife or have a job, just do you and what makes you happy is what matters~

[ManInChains]

Women don't want to be caregivers anymore they want to do what the men do yet still expect men to be protectors and providers. They don't want men to have a purpose.

[nastyb]

Men can't provide well, thats why women work

[onedarkcloud]

How about the Biden economy is so bad you need two paychecks to survive. THE DEMOCRATIC COMMUNIST PARTY OF AMERICA taxes and spends over and over again, and gives it to the illegals and other undeserving parties. The people who work are left with little or nothing thanks to our useless government.

[LazerBean]

Most men don't want to or cannot provide for a family alone, and a fair amount of people frown upon women not working. So therefore, most women work.

[Finchie40]

Because sadly with the way the economy is today it usually takes 2 incomes to raise a family and to live comfortable

[noohair]

Stay at home mom was an option when one paycheck covered all expenses. That option is all but gone for most people. I was at my daughter’s graduation from UF Gainesville. Most of the psychology majors were women.

[DishLady]

Not everyone is so lucky as to find a cushy remote/wfh job in their profession, sweetie.

[LiamJHayden]

1. Boredom once the kids are in school.
2. Financial need. It can be really tough to ake it on one salary in many places. Where I live, one bedroom apartments can go for $4K/month.

[sheikalana]

Because you can't make your own money from being a stay at home mom.

[TonyMetal___86]

Is their your own money when you're married?

[sheikalana]

@TonyMetal___86 it is but I personally wouldn't want to live solely of my Husband's money.

[nastyb]

@sheikalana

Smart

[Ms_Facesitter]

I prefer to work right now because I already don't go out much and be among the people. Work is an excuse to go :p

[HelpfulWoman]

it's not as good of a job to most as it sounds and it doesn't pay so isn't viable to many

[handsomelad70]

Many must because of the economy in which relatively few men, the traditional bread-winners, earn enough to allow their wife to be a stay-at-home mom.

[captain_voidwalker]

Because you've had a feminist screaming in your ear since you were born that bieng a mother is a form of slavery, and since women are a hive mind like the borg you never question it.

[Massageman]

Many are pretty much forced into it if they want to maintain a decent level of living.