Guys, if a man ignores me, does that mean he isn’t interested?

[Anonymous]

A guy I kinda have a crush on at the gym I noticed was looking at me a few times, but now he kind of ignores me but you can tell it’s intentional. Not sure if he is no longer interested or if he just doesn’t like me? I know initially he did so I’m unsure

[blueonblack22]

You are likely overthinking it. Or he’s interested in you but doesn’t want to come off as creepy because he worried he misread your signals. Men are even more paranoid about this is at fitness gyms nowadays.

Anyway just say hello to him. What’s the worst that happen? At worst he might be slightly annoyed given he’s focused on his workout. Too many women think men judge women the same way women judge men when it comes to this. It’s very rare for a guy to get “creeped out” unless you really go over the top which the majority of women rarely do.

You have a lot more leeway then guys do when it comes to this. Women don’t have to worry about being video recorded by guys at gyms and then having a video posted saying “look at this creep hitting on me”’. Never heard of a guy doing that to a girl.

[Asker]

Thanks for your input, although that last part is funny considering in my gym, the ones recording themselves the most with tripods are men. Also most girls don’t care about men looking at them while recording unless they’re the narcissistic type, which most people who record themselves on social media are.

[blueonblack22]

Interesting gym set up you got there.

Anyway really think of the risk/reward of just smiling and saying hello to him. Worst thing that can happen is he continues to ignore you and doesn’t respond. Who cares? Even if he isn’t interested he will most likely acknowledge you. He might be focused on his workout (I personally get tunnel vision at the gym).

But if he is interested he now knows it’s safe for him to talk to you. That’s a huge relief on his end (trust me). Just smile and say hello. That’s all you have to do.

Being a man there is actually more risk then reward of me approaching women in the gym nowadays. I quit doing it 5 or so years ago. Especially if the woman is under 30. But you have nothing to worry about.

[Lightningbolt005]

He was probably checking you out and is trying to get some signals from you. If he isn't going to proceed in anything than he may not actually be interested, or you may have given off the "wrong" signals for him to not approach. The gym can be an intimidating place for some, but it's your choice to approach him if you're that interested.

[Asker]

Thanks. I ended up talking to him and this was the case.

[Claire2002]

I'm glad!! All the negative answers prove that people assume the worst

[Lightningbolt005]

That's great, hope it works out for you guys.

[Dutchgirl97]

Have you talked to him? Maybe he’s wanting some reciprocation from you? He probably noticed that you know he’s been looking at you and doesn’t want to continue doing it all the time because he doesn’t want to look like a weirdo lol. He’s trying to be respectful and maybe waiting to see if you will give him some looks too?

other option is maybe he became uninterested over time- which could be because of many reasons

[Asker]

I did try talking to him by asking if he was using a specific machine but it was weird because the way he responded was like he expected me to come and strike a conversation.. he said yes he was using it but I noticed that when he was done it seemed like he was trying to tell me he was done with it but didn’t want to come up To me if that makes sense? Like he was just staring my way wanting to say something. I don't know. I stare at him a lot and he catches my glances. I’m very shy so I don’t know how to react. I think he knows I’m interested because I stare at him so much but I am unsure of his interest or what he thinks about me staring at him so much.. lol

[Asker]

I don’t think my stare makes him uncomfortable or anything but I notice when I stare at him he will ignore it then look in my direction and I revert my eyes.

[Dutchgirl97]

Oh no no - he’s shy and likes you 🤓

[Asker]

Thank you very much for your answer I appreciate it 🙏🏻

[Claire2002]

He coukd be as shy as you.

[Asker]

Only real answer thank you

[Asker]

@spartan55 I’m definitely blocking you. No one asked for your commentary on every single answer.

[Lightningbolt005]

@spartan55 Ever heard of pursuing? Sounds like you haven't bro. If you keep staring at someone, it's an obvious reaction for them to stare back which was his intention- he wanted her to notice him doing it. He should've talked to her first if he was interested in receiving her attention since he put out the signals first (works with me usually).

[Asker]

@spartan55 You do need permission because it’s my question. And your permission is denied.

[spartan55]

Can you show me where that rule is pink anon? Go boss someone else around.

[Asker]

@spartan55 First of all, even if I wasn’t anon, everyone on this site is anon. That’s why you run your mouth so much because you know no one listens to you in real life. From your answers I see you like gossiping like a high school teen I wouldn’t be surprised if there was underage girls on your phone…

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is physically attracted to you, but wouldn't consider approaching you just because he likes your appearance. Many women don't like it when random guys approach them... or even if they do, it just boosts their ego, it doesn't mean they are attracted to the guy. Maybe he has a girlfriend.

I see some attractive women at the gym, but I don't consider approaching them because I don't feel anything. They usually notice when I'm looking, they are looking at me to see if I'm looking or they look at me like they want me to look at them, haha

[ProbablyClueless]

With the amount of women who have blown up at dudes for vaguely kind of looking at them at the gym, there's no way to tell from the info you've included. He could be ignoring you because he's genuinely not interested. Or he could be doing it to avoid having his reputation destroyed.

[Asker]

I don’t think attractive or well of men have this issue in life to be honest. And he’s quite attractive

[ProbablyClueless]

You'd be surprised how common that kind of treatment is from women. There are a lot of women who look for reasons to lash out at men, so there's no reason for us to take the risk. It's just safer and easier for us to keep our eyes to the ground. Particularly if we enjoy going to that gym.

[Asker]

Nah it’s just the weirdos. Most attractive men don’t get that treatment which is why so many attractive men are complete dick heads

[ProbablyClueless]

Well, I'm not sure why so many men's life experiences don't line up with what you're saying, but in any case; that's reason your gym guy seems like he's ignoring you.

[Asker]

Because most men are not considered attractive that’s why.

[ProbablyClueless]

Well yeah, and most men know that. So the guy you're talking about knows that it's more likely than not that you don't find him attractive and would therefore take issue with him looking at you.

[Asker]

Actually I did, my literal first sentence was “my gym crush”

[ProbablyClueless]

But does he actually know that you like him?

[naartjie]

How do you know he even liked you in the first place? I wasn’t aware just looking at someone meant you liked them… or that’s because it doesn’t.
The gym is a place we’re many go, I’ve shared glances with many, some very friendly smiles and even brief chat. It doesn’t mean anything.
One thing you need to learn about men is that if he wants to, he will. Their actions will how you how they feel more often than not.
Go to the gym, workout and go home.

[Asker]

I’m quite aware of social cues that’s how I can tell. He’s looked at me many, many times, also once followed me around the gym. I don’t look at people I am not attracted to over and over, so why would he? I’ve also known guys who had crushes on me do the exact same thing.
Seems like you’re gaslighting.

[ManOnFire]

Girls always think a guy must be into her just because he looked at her here and there. He could've been into you, or maybe he was just curious about you. Maybe he thought you looked like somebody else he knows. Maybe he intentionally ignores you now because it's the gym and he's worried you might be another one of these girls to say some guy was watching her.

[Asker]

Meanwhile a man will still approach a woman even if she didn’t look at him once.. lol?
And frankly, how can someone be worried about being judged for watching someone when they were indeed watching someone? That’s like saying a molester is worried about being called a molester after groping several women.
And from my experience these real life men don’t give a damn about being accused of staring. They do it anyway, loud and proud. I’ve even been followed to my car once.

[ManOnFire]

Men approach women who are open and friendly. That's why you hear about women that complain no guys ever talk to them like they do with their girlfriends. Because she wants to be cold and standoffish, so guys don't approach.

I guess you haven't heard about the pandemic of females on social media doing videos at the gym and waiting for guys to see so they can say he was being a pervert? THAT'S what he could've been worried about, I don't really know. I'm just saying. But either way, he's not looking anymore and ignoring you for whatever reason. Walk away. Curious that now you seem to care that some guy was watching in interest, but think it's wrong that any other guy would do it "loud and proud."

[Asker]

That’s also a lie, men will approach any woman if they’re bold enough. I have a general RBF and have been approached.

Oh brother, here we go with that social media BS…that’s every man on social media’s favorite line not realize how uncommon it is and how most men AND women in real life could not care less about you. First of all, those people calling out people on social media are narcissistic, and self centered. There is not a pandemic of women doing it only influencers, and because you spend so much time on the internet, it becomes your reality. In reality, at my gym, MEN film themselves a lot more and it’s a male dominated gym, and I get stared at PLENTY.

There are plenty of perverted men out here so please don’t act like this isn’t the case, almost every woman in my family has been molested at some point in time and my mother was raped by her grandmother’s boyfriend. There’s legitimate reasons for women to think this way. But you need to log out and touch grass because I garauntee you go into a gym thinking it’s going to be a social media charade when you look at woman meanwhile she doesn’t even acknowledge you exist.

[Asker]

So funny because while there’s an influx of these videos there’s also an influx of women posting themselves simply walking and the harassment they get. Do we not forget what started this whole movement, the lady walking around NYC for 10 hours as a woman and the harassment she faced? But oh, yes, it’s not the man’s fault who harassed her. He’s not a pervert. It’s the woman’s fault for filming. Meanwhile, she was fully clothed, and had a very unfriendly look on her face and was STILL approached.

[ManOnFire]

I go to the gym regularly, and there are women who watch me as well. One of them I caught filming me on her phone and I know that's what she was doing because I looked up at her she quickly put her phone away. Whether it's only brainless 'influencer' girls on social media doing it or all women, it's still enough to stir up trouble and make men feel like they're doing something wrong even when they're not. Especially in a world full of white-feminist ideology that teaches women to view men as perpetual predators, even the ones who aren't.

I remember all those dumb videos of chicks walking around just to see if they would get cat called. They were no noble heroes. They were just a bunch of chicks just trying to show "ooh ooh look, guys are cat calling me, guys are following me around, they think sooooo hot." Women enjoy exploiting all kinds of attention they get even when it's negative.

You would not be the first or last person to have women in your family who have been sexually abused. I've had girlfriends who were as well. It's unfortunate, but not something the vast male population is doing to their sisters, nieces, etc.

[Asker]

Lmao, first of all, as many videos as there are of women filming men, there are of men sexually harassing women. I can send you a video right now of a woman who was attacked in a gym by a stalker man she simply opened the door for. A woman who was almost trafficked at a gym simply walking to her car. A woman who was murdered walking to her car from a target. Yet, you wonder why this perpetual stereotype against men exists? Oh boy. Another one of the men who refuses to acknowledge that there are men, a LOT of them, who actually DO commit sexual assaults.

It’s so funny you cal the videos of women walking (which, by the way, was orchestrated by a man) a cry for attention, but take videos of women filming guys looking at them seriously to the point you base your entire opinion on them.

“Ive see had girlfriends who were sexually abused” FURTHER PROVES MY POINT. You didn’t even disagree that women are being sexually abused which is a laugh. Look, if you want to stand by the belief that women in the gym are all recording you and going to post it online on TikTok (which, by the way is weird if you as a grown man are using) then I will stand by the belief that every man out here will sexually assault me. It’s an eye for an eye.

[ManOnFire]

Everyone has seen that video of the girl getting attacked at the gym when she opened the door for him, and the other ones. Just because these cases exist doesn't mean the MAJORITY of men are doing this. That's the evil of white-feminism. It teaches that all men are predators just because of the ones we see, but shits it's pants when the news starts talking about women being involved in trafficking other women, women who helped a guy rape another woman, or women who make child porn themselves. I guess you didn't see that video where the cops knocked on the girl's door right when she was in the middle of making a child porn video.

Cat call videos are created by women. She probably just asked the guy to film it for her. Like I said women like exploiting any attention they get even when it's negative. They just like letting people know there are guys who like them, even if she doesn't like them back. White-feminism teaches girls that they are perpetually preyed on because they're sooooooo desirable.

"You didn’t even disagree that women are being sexually abused which is a laugh." - Knowing that women are and have been sexually abused is not the same thing as saying all men are predators and all women are at risk.

You obviously support a bunch of blonde gym rats who think they're gorgeous when they’re average, and want to say other guys are watching them. So you can keep that ideology. That's not important.

[McLlovin]

Sometimes a man may ignore a woman if he feels that giving her to much attention will make her uninterested.


Sometimes it may be because the woman gets to much attention already and has a high ego. ( not in your situation, this is just an example)


Sometimes he just isn’t interested, and he was just glancing because he was curious.

[Finchie40]

He might be unsure about what you think about him , most people are shy and don’t have the courage to walk up to someone they are attracted to because they are afraid of being rejected , so they don’t make the attempt what so ever. If you like him approach him instead

[CVNT5]

perhaps he is afraid of the reprecusions if you reject him, you should strike up a convo with him and see how he reacts, then tell him you have a crush on him. and then give him your phone number. guys like direct communication. when you give him your number, its a green light for him to start to lovingly annoying you until you become his girlfriend. if you give him your number and nothing happens, then he might not be into you, sorry babe😔

[BoopBoopBeep]

Toxic tiktok women have made the gym so risky for men, he may just be trying to avoid being in a video accidentally. You should talk to him.

[Claire2002]

These things that happen on tiktok are so rare to sew in real life. I wouldn't be concerned about it. It's more likely to have your airplane crashing.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Claire2002 I've literally watched it happen at least 6 times. I've only been in one crash, and that was a helicopter, so, respectfully, my experience does not back up that data well enough to advocate for men to do it when there's tons of other places to talk to women that isn't a minefield.

[Asker]

First of all, why is a grown man using tiktok. I don’t even use tiktok. Second, harassment in the gym is not common practice. I’ve been going to the gym for 4 years and never once witnessed a harassment or been harassed. I don’t use a fucking camera in the gym and frankly at my gym, MEN use tripods way more than the women. And honestly if you as a grown man use TikTok I’d think you’re a creep too because what could you possibly be looking at on there, underage girls dancing?

[BoopBoopBeep]

What grown man is using tiktok? Nobody said that. Why don't you learn reading comprehension first you bitter child no wonder your man is ignoring you. You've had at least three men politely give you the same answer, that we're sick of toxic women in the gym. You say they don't exist, we all say we've seen them but YOU know more than us about what we've seen? Yeah because being argumentative because you have to be right... that's a hot trait in a woman. Haha sounds like that guy dodged a bullet.

[Asker]

You literally just said you were using tiktok. Now you’re snapping on me because I exposed you for being into underage girls. Quite defensive don’t you think? I guess it’s true. And you call me a child I’m sure you have a lot of experience with them.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Go troll somewhere else. No, I said this happens on tiktok. I can speak of what is happening in Germany without being there. As fate would have it, turns out I was right as to why he was being reserved.

Huh, go figure...

[Asker]

So because I said something you didn’t agree with, I’m trolling? Funny how that works.
And sure you can, but doesn’t mean you’re correct. I’m sure you could also speak for how pregnancy feels without ever being pregnant yourself, doesn’t make your point correct.

[BoopBoopBeep]

No troll, because I said I see this toxic behavior in the gym, all these other guys here said the same thing, and you're like "well you shouldn't be on tiktok" like some illiterate harpy. Make sure you get argumentative and come back at me with something else. Just keep giving us more ammo to why your man was ignoring you.

Haha at this point the jokes just write themselves.

[Asker]

Trust me, I would never be interested in a man that acted like you in the first place so don’t worry about it.

[BoopBoopBeep]

So what you're saying is, you wanna make out? That's cool, and I'm flattered and all, but it's the internet not real life. Our cookies would never get dunked in the same milk.

[NWDude]

The only way to know is if he acknowledges having interest. My bias is that we should all stop tolerating or pursuing anyone who ignores us. Fuck that. It's toxic. If I pursue someone and mutual interest isn't shown, I lose interest quick, and move on. You all have value. Don't tolerate this shit 🙏

[Asker]

I don’t think it’s fair because some of us have pretty bad anxiety. I tend to ignore guys I’m attracted to because it makes me extremely nervous to do so so I don’t think this is fair because some people are just shy…

[Lionman95]

I would say he's not interested. He might see you as attractive from a physical standpoint but he's signaling you tha he's not interested if he avoids you on purpose.

[JesseP1nk]

He just do not wanna end up on one of those videos.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/n762j37vmxU

[Asker]

I dont have a tripod and most people in my gym filming workouts are men.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I suppose so. Then again, I don't bother with gym, and I likely wouldn't date a woman at a gym, from a gym, who needs a gym, or uses a gym. Same way I don't pick up chicks when I just want to get my groceries or watch a movie for one 👀😁😊😀😁

[serious_miss419]

Weather he is or not, he’s probably just in his zone and doing his Gym thing and focused.
Not everyone takes action just because of a slight, mild or keen interest.

[Asker]

Never said he had to take action I simply asked if he was interested. And frankly, he was the one staring at me and following me around the gym in the first place.

[midnightmoon05]

Glad he isn’t anymore…

[Asker]

@midnightmoon05 And sending the same energy back to you for anything in your life.

[Lisia]

Maybe he has a girlfriend? Do you know he's single for certain?

[Asker]

I’ve known too many men with girlfriends still hitting on me for that to matter.

[Lisia]

Yes but he might be respectful

[Asker]

If he was respectful he wouldn’t be staring at me and following me around the gym in the first place

[Lisia]

Lmao but he ignores you now. He might have been single before but not anymore now

[Anonymous]

It doesn't mean anything except that too many women accuse any guy in a gym setting of gawping at them.

If you like him then talk to him. Otherwise you can't assume anything except your unwillingness to talk to him.

[Paris13]

He is Playing Hard to Get. He Thinks He Is All That. He Knows You Like Him and is Conceited. Stay Clear, dear. xxoo

[PeachyPie93]

How do you know it is intentional when you don't even know him? Go talk to him, if he blows you off he is not interested lol.

[AviatorTom]

Not necessarily, it could just mean he wants to watch the movie that you're not enjoying and would rather talk. 😎

[Smashingdoozy]

Probably not interested, and if he is and is acting like that is that really someone you want?

[rosemilk]

if anyone ignores you, i don't think that's a good sign in general.