Well first of all parent with the addiction has to want help. I mean you can recognize that they have an addiction but if you go and try and talk to them and say listen I know you know what you're doing and you going to get the s*** screamed out of you and yelled at him. You going to be highly embarrassed people on the diction with an addiction. They have to make the first move to want to get off. You can try it from now. I'll tell the damn earth blows up. It ain't going to happen. They got to have to want to do it. You can't make them. You can't coax them for some. They have to do it on their own. It's like I had enough of this s*** that's the only way. Any other way you just wasting your time because they're going to go and then come relapse and go right back to where they were. They have to want to do it themselves. You can talk to them but don't make no suggestions. You should do this. Just talk to him and let him know you know what you doing. Ain't cool but that's your thing if you can handle it. Cool but if I see your kids start sleeping then we have to take it to another level. You can try that but no addicts got to come off that stuff down by themselves. It's the only way when they're ready
The best way to help them is to let yourself heal and grow.
https://www.nar-anon.org/
https://al-anon.org/
It has to come from them to want to quit.
Alanon is the best you can do. Someone on here gave you the information to contact them
I went to ACOA Adult Children of Alcoholic's. But I really should have gone to Alanon meetings. I went one night a week for 3 years. Even in the snow 🙂
you don't
an addict is always there to disappoint you. it's their choice to get better and like no one else can do it for them. I've just accepted for years to like detach myself from my dad
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Okay, so dealing with that situation is very complicated. I can't personally give good advice, but one of the channels I am subscribed to is someone who has gone on record on YouTube of having to deal with a parent whos got serious addiction issues (he's spoken about it in his Minecraft live streams on occasions). It's a channel called Catmanjoe, and the guy is fairly open about things (he did a long 2 hour video on the subject for members, but his main channel is a gaming one really, he's just a very up front person online). I suspect its a part of how he deals with it himself, by bioblogging how he's dealing with things (which is a brave thing to do, but I guess also helps him). It might help to join a live stream of his sometime maybe bring up this, some times its about knowing your not the only one who is dealing with such things.
This isn't me plugging his channel, it's just having joined in a number of his streams and he's talked about having to deal with a father with drug problems and the difficulties he faces.
So my advice is to find a safe way to share the stresses you will have faced (to help yourself), and as for how to help them? sometimes you just need to face you can't and do your best to treat them decently when their habbit might cause them to disrespect you a lot.
Best of luck.
THEY need to want to help themselves.
IT IS NOT YOUR JOB NOR YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO TAKE CARE OF THEM.
The only thing you need to do is to take care of yourself. Do not, do not, DO NOT get drawn into their lives of addiction. They are not the people who may have once held more love and strength in their hearts but now, thanks to whatever is gripping them, they’re dying from the inside out. You can do everything for them and they’ll still bring more troubles unless they want to stop and take actions to do so. If you don’t break your own cycle, you’ll end up hurt more than you can imagine.
Trust me. Addiction is an evil that I don’t wish upon anyone. It runs wild in my family; I’m an addict and an alcoholic, and I know that I am alive today because I made changes and lasting choices.
Good luck
Nar-Anon if you're able to get into a meeting that will be a big help as addicts need to hit a bottom before coming back up as that may never happen. I've been around 12-Step rooms over 25 years and not helping an addict may save their life as I found it hard to believe
How to help a parent struggling with addiction. Call the police, cut them off until they get clean, call rehab.
Boy it's so hard to help
Best way that have to show they want to be clean
You have to help them when they mess up and more
The problem is.. people with addictions aren't thinking rationally. They have to already be at that place they want to help them too.
m it has to begin with em
if they aren't willing to change then it won't work
YOU can't... THEY NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP
If they have kids and still can't pull their shit together they are a lost cause.
By taking their kids into care
You don't.
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