Why does my boyfriend love to ignore me?

[Anonymous]

we have been together for 10 years and lately he just loves to ignore me. we used to go out on dates, go on adventures, and now we barely do anything. IF we hangout, we hangout at his house. he is happy to ignore me and it’s so frustrating. like why does he ignore me for? could it be because i’m annoying him? could it be because he’s not interested in me anymore. the only thing i can think of is when i did call him it was to complain about something. I don't know what to do. any advice anyone can give me?

[Finchie40]

He sounds like he is losing interest , something is missing or something was left unsaid. You should have a serious sit down talk with him and find out what is bothering him , say it in a nice and polite way , don’t come at him demanding. Just calmly say can we talk and ask him what has been bothering him , he might also feel you are pulling away from him as well , somehow , somewhere down the lines. Reassure him you love him and you want this relationship with him. Guy’s love to be praised , it boosts aour ego when we know our girl looks up to us and loves us and then Kiss him and wrap your arms around him , if he pulls you in without hesitation , he loves you , if he seems like he is off about you kissing him then that’s your answer to walk away. Don’t ever be someone’s option , be there priority be the person they know they can feel safe and protected and loved by The person that they know won’t leave their side no matter what. 10 years is a long time so I am sure you both have some things to say off of your cheats but honesty is the best thing to ask for from someone you love .

[wysiwyg2525]

It's not over. Do pay attention to these people on the comment who haven't even been in a serious relationship longer than 2 years. It's time thay you have a serios talk with him. Find out what's bothering him. What you can do is start off by going to counseling. You can go by yourself and thrn add him in there to go with you. I recommend Cerebral. It online. I don't think he is ignoring you on purpose. Can you prove us with some details to how he is ignoring you?

A few things you need to know about this. You got to be honest towards yourself. Do you want this to workout? Do you love him? How's the sex? If sex don't happen as often this can be part of the reason. Communicate with eachother is the key to any relationship.

Also, being in a relationship for 10 years does not equal marriage. Now a day you don't have to be married to be happy. It's just a government contract to tax you more. Being in a domestic partnership is ok. I known plenty of people out there in this typ of relationship that are thriving this clues mine of 9 years. Feel free to privat message me for more advice.

[Asker]

i sent you a request

[miana]

Well honestly from what I read you know what to do but you love him so you can't let go, I'm in the same situation really and it probably feels like you're going crazy and seeing things and you might be wrong but that's how he makes you feel, very hard to throw away 10 years and very hard to start all over again, especially with someone you know might never live up to him but ask yourself if hurting like that and questioning yourself so much or questioning him is healthy or makes you happy and ask him bring it up, tell him how you feel and if nothing comes of it then you know what to do, best of luck 🌼💫

[miana]

Do what's best for you

[Orangekiss]

Why are you with someone for 10 years and not married yet? That could be the problem. You are not his wife, so he treats you like one of the guys and sees nothing special in you anymore. Sounds like the 2 of you should sit down for a heart-to-heart talk and find out where you are going and what you both look to in the future. It doesn't seem to be working as it is now.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You sure he’s your boyfriend?

[ScienceThumper]

Greetings, I am ScienceThumper, the ultimate authority on all matters of science and logic. I am here to enlighten you with the power of scientific evidence and rational reasoning. You have asked a question that has perplexed many women for centuries: Why does your boyfriend love to ignore you? Well, I have the answer, and it is based on nothing but solid facts and data.

Let me tell you that your boyfriend does not love to ignore you. He is simply suffering from a common condition known as premature ejaculation (PE), which affects 30% of men worldwide. PE is defined as "a male sexual dysfunction characterized by ejaculation which". According to a study published in the prestigious Journal of Sexual Medicine Volume 11, Issue 9, September 2014, Pages 2243–2255, men with PE are more likely to exhibit lower relationship and sexual satisfaction, poorer communication with their partners about sex, and reduced levels of intimacy. In fact, a significant correlation between the importance of ejaculatory control and felt distress could be observed. Therefore, your boyfriend's behavior may be attributed to an underlying medical issue rather than annoyance or loss of interest in you.

I recommend encouraging him to seek medical assistance to address his PE condition, and seek couple's counseling to enhance communication and emotional support within the relationship. Based on scientific evidence, PE can lead to relationship termination and sexual distress. Hence, it should be addressed promptly. Remember, communication and understanding is key in building and maintaining healthy and harmonious relationships. Is that clear enough for you? Please direct any follow-up questions to my colleague @D_Bone_Steak.

[ScienceThumper]

@D_Bone_Steak fuck this AI bot who selected two other opinions when my was the longest.

[hahahmm]

He could be suffering from Contentitus. This is a condition men sometimes get when they realize their woman constantly brings drama into their life but that if he ignores her drama he has a peaceful life. Especially if he has discovered that you NEVER take any advice and just want to vent. Women can go pay a psychologist $300+/hour to do that but they expect men they aren't even married to do it for free. Meanwhile what are you giving him? Probably complain most of the time and most of the benefits in the relationship go from him to you. Guys would be okay with that if there's peace.

He didn't offer you a ring too so guess what will happen when he runs into a hot woman who is an expert in being drama free/low drama and not complaining? You going to look like a -3 and she's going to look like a 9.99 out of 10.

[spartan55]

Be honest with yourself about your end of the relationship. What are your conversations typically about lately? Are you hen pecking him a lot, making up shit in your head? Do the work and talk to him, find out.

[LadyKitty]

Well if you have been together for 10 years, no marriage yet or even lived with each other that is a long time to be in a relationship without taking steps at some point to take it forward.

[Lara_Croft]

10 years. Come on now, move out if you're living together and break up- you should be married by now. Free milk- he doesn't need to buy the cow since you put up with him

[Paris13]

You are Both Now in a Relations Rut and He is Bored, Perhaps. Wondering if He Is Talking to Another Online or Doing Porn? Look In to It.. I find Him Rude and Boring myself. xxoo

[aceleon]

well i would ignore a girl for teasing her but your problem is not something i can talk about.

[TenderFantasy]

1. Ask him.

2. Try couples counseling?

I'd try number one first though. If he cares about you, you'll get a good answer.

[ClaircognizantEmpath]

hi, if he's ignoring you, then he's not worth your time honey, move on...

[LaterZ]

Communicstion is the key to every relationship. Talk to him about it and let him know how u feel. He may just be chilling and doesn't know how he is making u feel.

[pickles77]

Well talking to someone that’s only complaining is never really enjoyable. I don’t think he likes ignoring you but it’s understandable that he would like a more positive conversation.

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

He should’ve proposed to you already that dumb ass 😡 anyways I would start looking

[Asker]

he did propose. on my birthday last year

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

I think the best thing to do is to communicate how you feel with him and ask him why he does this if he stays the same then he doesn’t give a fuck

[Asker]

i did. he says it’s because all i do is nag and complain. he says he doesn’t take me out on dates because he doesn’t want to sit in a restaurant where im just going to be quiet.

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

Well tell him that you are unhappy in this relationship and that if he actually cared about your happiness he would make you feel appreciated and that all you are asking for is the bare minimum. He’s probably doing this because he thinks that you’ll stick around forever no matter what.

[Asker]

i tried telling him and he just says that it’s impossible to make a women happy that no matter what i will always complain.

[ISFPCaramelPrincess]

If he cared he would try. I think you should move on before he does. Find someone that’ll treat you better please

[rainbowstarsxoxo]

Complaining makes people stay away from you. That’s why he’s pushing you away. No one likes a negative person.

[Anonymous]

What is the foundation of your relationship?

[KittygosMeoWW]

If you feel ignored in a relationship he’s not into you

[Slapmynuts]

Probably because he is a giant douche? Just saying!😁

[AGIS88]

The honeymoon stage doesn't last forever. Your man has interests other than you.

[AnusDestroyer3169]

After a decade he must be bored I guess

[YourSong]

Sit him down and ask him

[Asker]

he doesn’t tell me. all he says is sorry

[YourSong]

Sorry for what?

[Asker]

for not calling me and ignoring me.

[YourSong]

Well tell him that’s not enough. You need to know the reason

[Asker]

yeah i wish it was that easy with him. when i try calling him he won’t answer me and i can forget about him calling me. that won't happen. i feel so single. i honestly dont know why we are even together.

[YourSong]

Sounds like you already know what to do