My boyfriend had his all firsts but he is my first ever boyfriend. am I not special to him?

[Anonymous]

[TommyMountainFigure]

ooooh that's a tough one to answer. My first instinct is to say yes, you might not be as 'special' as his first, BUT let's define special!

I remember my first kiss with a girl. in fact I can honestly say I remember my first everything with different girls, but you know what they all had in common? Every single one of them let me down and broke my heart!

They were special in that they helped shape me to the guy I am today, but I really like who I am now, and I wouldn't wanna change me for anything!

Would I ever want to go back to a time when I was with them? No damn way! The one I'm with now is worth a thousand of any of them, and if your guy thinks like me then I promise you, you have nothing to worry about!

[AaronKrieger]

No, you are overthinking it because you are new to relationships. It is an exhausting thing everyone goes through at some point.

After your first few relationship (s), you learn how to not overthink so much and feel insecure while in one. That is why he might seem like he isn't as clingy or cares as much as you. It is just a process you'll have to stomach out.

[Asker]

sure I will try my best
thank you

[jaskin777]

Ask ur boyfriend that.
Did he do it before y'all Met?
I'm sure ur special to him
If he treat u special then u r special trust me I know exactly how the fuck u felt

[Asker]

yes he do treat me special and in comparison to his past 3 relationships the one with me is the longest and I hope it last forever

[WhitneySnow]

You are still special to him. Not his fault he already had his firsts.

[DoggyDude]

The answer is, how he is felling will be unknown; You can enquire, carefully and without making him awkward, but I wouldn't recommend that (as its too easy for him to lie, or worse to get self consious about things).

To my thinking, it's down to how you feel in the end, as to how special you are to him (oddly). If he's making you feel special and looking out for times when you appear to be feeling less special (and then doing his best to make your day), then I'd say yes your very certainly special to him.

As a deeper answer, it depends on how those firsts happened for him and what made him move away from those firsts. If he's the type that just rushes into everything, then you may not be that special to him (since then he's be all about going head first into stuff). If though he sort of stumbled into things (finding his feet) and just wasn't mature enough, or felt maybe he was expected to be something in those situations he found himself. He himself might be feeling less special towards those things generally and his time with you may reflect what he's now finding special.

[WhiteSteve]

“Firsts” are overrated. The “first” often isn’t “the best”, haha. I’ll always remember my firsts, but I don’t forget the seconds, thirds, and so on. If I let you into my life for however long, whether it’s forever or just a period of my life, as long as you don’t do me dirty in the end, I’ll always remember you and think positively about our time together. It’s not like “she was my 14th [whatever], I ain’t even gonna remember her name.”😂

[Nirmroth]

Girl what? Why would you think that? He didn't even know you before.

My ex who was my first everything had 2 guys before me its just normal. Dont focus on the past your the one he's toghether with and what was before ended for a reason.

[Asker]

yes I realize I was being immature and I apologized to him too. Thanks you

[Asker]

thank*

[BearKitty]

It really depends on how he is treating your firsts in whether or not you are viewed as special. If he is patient and making sure you’re ready, he still values you. If he rushes it and just takes it all, I would say he doesn’t.

[slatyb]

If course you are. You don't want to be the first, you want to be the last. Get over the purity culture notion of being the first.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Don't look at it that way. If you weren't special, he would be single now.

[Camaron1]

I have been in your shoe, I can tell you this you’re not like the first one but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love that depends on your relationship.

[Slim57]

You've gotta let go of that insecurity about that, if you weren't special to him he wouldn't have made you his girlfriend, it's the same for my girlfriend I was her first and she's very special to me just as any other girl I make my girlfriend

[Asker]

yes thank you

[andreasderjuengere]

Each 'new' girlfriend in our life is a 'first' in herself... to us.
Don't worry.

[boggboss]

If thats how u view the situation then end the relationship and stop wasting your time

[Anonymous]

Most people had a life before they met you. What matters is that he's with you now. He makes the choice to be with you every day. He wouldn't do that if you weren't special to him.

[Avicenna]

I wouldn't assume that

[jjj101010]

What firsts has he had? I’m sure there r new firsts u can experience together

[laly520]

focus on being the last

[justabuddy]

This right here. You can't change the past, but you have a chance at the future.

[laly520]

@justabuddy yes indeed
she can't be his first but she can be his last which matters more

[JayBones]

If your his last, your the most special

[Asker]

yes thank you

[maneskinfan]

U are special to him ofcourse

[karekaaaa]

No u can be
Its in ur hand