Does your boyfriend make you feel special all the time?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes

Or not much,

[AmandaYVR]

"All the time"? hahaha.

But your other options are realistic.

"Maybe it's something wrong with me"

No, that's not the way to look at it.

To be clear, it's not just women that need to be treated well. It has to be a two-way street, and men need to feel just as special and appreciated. There often seems to be this expectation from women that they should be "wined and dined", and think about that - why is that? It was a custom, but it's starting to make less sense today.

Women do seem to want more, on an emotional and conversational level. Which often leaves men feeling inadequate, as they are criticized for not meeting her needs (which are probably more wants.) And when men feel criticized, and that they were making effort and they aren't acknowledged, praised, or rewarded for it, they can tend to get an all-or-nothing attitude, and tap out. They have this thinking more than women do. Possibly because they are more decisive with problem-solving, and tend to look for (or create) cause-and-effect, and react to that.

By your phrasing, "Maybe it's something wrong with me" it sounds like you feel inadequate, and maybe not deserving of effort from him. There could be some truth to a disparity, and that you haven't been taking care of him enough, or not been inspiring to him. Or, maybe he just isn't putting in the effort he should, and doesn't appreciate you. There are many guys like this.

I would caution you, however, to be thinking in terms of making you "feel special all the time." Those are usually in the heady early days of great relationships. It's very, very difficult for couples to sustain that over the long haul. You didn't say how long you two are together. Some relationships are strong out of the gate. Some build slowly over time. It all just depends on the people involved. They may be stressed with work, life, and not focused on their relationship. Or they have been burned many times before, and now take much more time to fully trust in another, especially a partner. Or, the guy could just be an unappreciative dick who takes advantage, puts in the bare minimum, and hopes his woman keeps her mouth shut and doesn't demand more.

[Asker]

Let me stop you there.
I spoil my man... he has a play station to open up at Christmas and he gets this treatment alll the time...
I on the other hand have to pay half for a dinner and movie lol

[Guy13]

Are you implying that we men are not good at making the woman feel unique and highly valued... Sometimes I am good at it and sometimes I am not.

[Asker]

Lol not at all.
I'm wondering if other women get special treatment by their men where they dont feel like their men dont love them. It's really not against the men. As I believe other women do get wined and dined. Maybe it's something wrong with me

[Guy13]

Usually it is the opposite and we go find another light socket to plug into.

[Msputiton]

No he never ever does😭