Why do things sometimes feel weird between me and my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I need some advice because I love my boyfriend and really really want to be with him. But he just want to be submissive. I like balanced dominant guys who can also be a gentleman when they wanna be. He doesn’t show his affection very well and isn’t sexual with me very much. We started things long distance but I don’t know if we should be together. I’m just not used to not having a man who doesn’t seem to desire me.

But every time I talk about quitting things, he tells me he loves me and he hasn’t felt the same way with other girls.
Is there something I’m missing? Is it normal or are these just red flags?

[Anonymous]

Have you addressed this with him? All I'm seeing from you is threatening to end things, not actually having a meaningful discussion with him.

[Asker]

I have. I’ve cried I’ve talked I’ve complained I’ve got a bit loud. I just tried being honest at times saying I think we both aren’t compatible. He never liked any of my stuff and I kinda didn’t like his stuff too.

[Asker]

I love him and told him he’s adorable he’s the only guy who was never rude to me. He was sweet. It’s just difficult for us to spend time and he’s not sexual with me. I think I had a higher sec drive than him or just wasn’t his type. I dealt with frustration. Sadness and rejection. We’ve been together for some time now too. I just don’t think he loves me. It’s sad but that’s what I was noticing and what I felt too. I just feel his actions were weird, but all you picked up on was my call it quits talk. Doesn’t seem like you heard my side or care. If I’m not good for him then you can just suggest me and him don’t belong together. You don’t have to get accusatory of me or my side of the matter. I’m the one who made the question and wanted things to work but he just doesn’t seem right for me and I don’t seem right for him.

[Asker]

You didn’t answer my question too much too. You didn’t say if his behavior could pass as a red flag or if it is normal. I don’t think it is.

[Opinion Owner]

It's not normal, at least across the spectrum of men. It feels as if he is autistic. My wife behaves similarly in some situations.

I asked you what I asked because more often than not people, not just women, refuse to communicate with their partners.

[Anonymous]

It's normal for guys to be submissive to a girl they like very much.

[Anonymous]

Just normal.

[Asker]

sorry but that’s not helpful