How to avoid feeling worthless and avoid falling apart because he’s more attractive than me?

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He’s a few years younger than me but works harder than me. I’m actually putting him in a pedestal because he’s a very attractive guy. He’s perfect.
I’m not that attractive and the only reason why I think he keeps looking for me is because he’s lonely in this country and just wants sex.
I travel for work a lot like him.
I have ghosted him to the point he changed his attitude towards me but he keeps looking for me maybe not as before but still. In the beginning, he told everyone I was his girlfriend then told me not to fall in love that’s when I ghosted him.
I have has other guys who are blonde blue eyed or business owners but his more attractive than them. 😩 I feel ugly not worth it next to him (he doesn’t know) they sent me to work to another country and I’m back and he message me again.
My ex told me to stop putting guys on a pedestal and to start feeling like I’m worth it. We already had sex. I ghosted him because he told me about his ex an he still talked about her like he loves her. So he was using me that’s why I blocked him everywhere.

Cheapskate · Accepted Answer

I think the problem is that you think you have to be someone else to be acceptable and worthy of love. So maybe you let this guy use you for sex and you put him on a pedestal, because you felt that that was the only way you could be with someone attractive. But I don't think that is true. I actually think it would work better if you are just yourself and you set boundaries and you don't let people use you and instead of worrying about not being good enough, you try your best to be real, to be you. And then see what happens.

Hansomedevil69 · Accepted Answer

Literally he is messed up, reality is your worse. I already slept with him. Then I wonder why he keeps calling. Why in the heck would you be worried if he is better looking, you’re not even the same sex. I wouldn’t have slept with either of you with your crummy attitudes.

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

You're ex is right. "My ex told me to stop putting guys on a pedestal and to start feeling like I’m worth it."
Stop comparing yourself. Stop looking at others, look at yourself only and work on what you can work on.

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

He’s just a regular guy no matter how attractive he is. He doesn’t deserve to have sex with you unless he’s willing to make a commitment to you (unless that’s what you want, and I don’t think it is).

boggboss · Answer

So whatbare u asking u let a guy have sex with u that u know didn't want more then sex has nothing to do with your looks has ti do with allowing people to treat u like shit

IslaTheWitch · Answer

start to accept and unconditionally love yourself. Your worth comes from yourself not from comparing you to others.

Chelsdope0 · Answer

Then you don’t need to be with him. Please don’t show any man your weakness and DEFINITELY don’t put them on a pedestal. You’re the fucking prize. NOT HIM. YOU

Twalli · Answer

You think he was using you and you don't consider yourself attractive. I don't think I am more than a 5 on a good day. Clearly my girlfriend feels differently. All I care about is how she views me.

laly520 · Answer

u allowed him to use u move on n seek therapy u have low self esteem

LiamJHayden · Answer

I get it. I am dead average in looks and have dated stunning women. Just don't overthink it. He's into you. Rather than self-doubt, enjoy.

Anonymous · Answer

Silly. Everyone puts thier pants on 1 leg at a time.

Anonymous · Answer

What’s so attractive about them u feel they are over your league

spartan55 · Answer

You don't know that he was using you.

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