Is he just a nice guy or showing interest?

[Lucielu1]

I have been asking and trying to get advice about my recent gym interest. There’s this guy I have found attractive for a very long time and a few months ago he sparked up a conversation with me about my knee that I injured from ice hockey. I have never seen him talk to anyone prior but he asked what happened and then told me name then asked for mine. Ever since then he has always waved and would say hi with my name. We don’t talk every time we see each other but on I do remember him saying he went to a hockey game and thought of me, when I was on the cable station he asked if he could be my neighbor. and I do see him looking over at me a lot. Maybe I’m taking it all out of context but I feel maybe there is a connection.

[Kelley1]

You can't be certain. Slightly more likely than not he is interested but possibly he is just being nice. I am finding that many and perhaps most guys are extremely cautious. It is like "Hi" and if I respond, "How are you?" That is followed by "What are you doing?" and then "Where are you from? Then "How are you?" again. Unless, I do something to strongly indicate that I'm interested, they will never take the risk of being rejected.

Most likely he hates rejection even more than you do. If you are unwilling to risk being rejected, forget about him, because it will never go any further.

[Alwayreckles93]

Gurl yes there is a connection. Ok if it gets silence start a conversation about hockey since he likes hockey or even about the super bowl. He is someone you don't want to let go off. Don't loose track and whoknows maybe he could possible be your future husband look I know I might sound crazy but I have a friend that she met her husband at a grocery store. Perhaps next time you plan a cook at now that the weather is nice you can always invite him at your home for dinner or even fornyour birthday party if you still celebrate your birthday. You can always invite him at startbucks.

[Purpleronnie]

That really does sound like he is interested at least to know more. He wouldn’t be the first guy to look at women in the gym though , the mirrors , clothing and positions of people might make it easier to close our eyes that dare to be accused of perving at women so there is that also. If I were you I’d keep it natural and low key and chat to him some more to get some more affirmation of if he is flirting or just a genuinely nice guy. You might even have to make the first move !

[TommyMountainFigure]

I agree with you, there is a connection there, but unless you do more than wave to each other, where that connection may lead you will never know.

The ice was broken when you asked each other for names. My advice is tell him next time you see him you would like to speak to him after he finishes his work out.

If he makes an excuse, then no he isn't interested. I believe however he is feeling exactly the same as you are about him!

[Whitey_Johnson]

He is probably interested, but moving very cautiously because it is generally considered creepy to try to meet women at a gym. If you like him, try a line like "I'm so tired today. Wanna go grab a coffee?" If he says yes, he's actually into you.

[Tylerw]

Especially women at the gym. They really like like to be the worst.

[HawkPerception]

It sounds like he's trying to get closer to you without being creepy. Some guys try to stay in that zone until they get a clear sign that you're interested in them. Once they have that green light, then they'll decide on how they want to make a move. Either that or you could just tell him you're interested and take life in your own hands rather than waiting on him or hoping he makes a move on you.

[DoggyDude]

And boy howdy do we like it CLEAR! Smile is a good opener, but seeking us out to chat to us is a winning formula on letting us know. Starting with a joke is always best, esecially if its a well placed fun tease of our behaviour (if where being shy)

[Pinay_ako]

He hasn’t asked for your number yet? If he was interested and single, he probably have long time ago. But looks like he’s taken or just being nice.

[Drew874]

“If he was interested and single, he probably have long time ago.” This is a blatantly false assumption. There are many justifiable reasons why he might be interested and hasn’t yet asked. On the flip side, she hasn’t yet asked him. Imagine if he used your same logic to come to the wrong conclusion.

[Pinay_ako]

@Drew874 if a guy is truly interested, he’d have asked for her contact details long time ago yes. It’s been a few months so every chance they saw each other, he could’ve. If a man wants a woman, it takes a few seconds to ask that. She’s not even sure of him either if he wants her or not. So if he’s single and interested what’s stopping him? 🤔 and please calm down on calling me out. Not cool

[Drew874]

“If a guy is truly interested, he’d have asked for her contact details long time ago yes”. You can make the same statement twice but it still does not make it any more true. The gym is a great example. Guys have had it drilled into them for years now that it is absolutely inappropriate to approach women in the gym. Even if a guy is interested, he may, and justifiably so, not approach the girl due to this.

Also disagreeing with your ideas does not constitute a personal attack. We are allowed to have different thoughts and opinions.

[Pinay_ako]

@Drew874 yea and I didn’t ask for your opinion.

[henz0lik0nz]

I would say that he's interested! As a guy though, sometimes I do wait for a slightly more obvious indicator of interest before making a move (esp in this day and age) for fear of making her feel creeped out or uncomfy. Honestly, I'd say spend some more time chatting with him if you're also feeling the vibe!

[Slapmynuts]

There could very well be! I believe you should explore more into it and find out for sure! You never want to be hunted with the words of what if!😁

[Anonymous]

The nice guys only want bad girls. And you are not an alpha female enough to get a nice guy.

[HouseMoat]

Lets put it this way, if he wasn't interested, he likely wouldn't be nice

[CuriousMufuxka]

Yeah, don't shit where you work out at. Go to the gym to build yourself!

[AmyHew1tt]

I think he sounds interested but hesitant.

[laly520]

seems like he is only nice

[AngryCarl]

Why couldn't he be both?

[Lucielu1]

Definitely can be both. I’m just hoping he’s interested lol

[AngryCarl]

He definitely sounds interested.

[Anonymous]

If you want to know be brave and ask him.

[TallAnon]

We're only nice guys when we take an interest

[theglobalhue]

read their article might help you

[eagle1951]

little of both

[butterly248]

Mix.

[Sharkstealth]

He likes you.

[DreamLife7]

He's just nice

[Anonymous]

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