Was I being a "nice guy" here?

[Anonymous]

So I asked a girl at school I liked if she wanted to hang out sometime outside of school, and she said her parents are strict and wouldn't let her go out. Was I disappointed? Of course, but I said alright and we went about the rest of the day. Two weeks later, my friend who is friends with her showed me pictures of her insta and it was showing her at a local coffee shop with her new boyfriend. I got upset and gave my friend's phone back to him. I know she wasn't obligated to say yes to me, but I wish she would've been honest with me and said she wasn't interested. I commented on one of the pictures saying "Now your parents let you go out now?" Her and her friends were blasting me calling me a nice guy, pervert, creep, among other names. Then I replied to all that saying she lied about not being allowed to leave the house. Was I being a nice guy or not?

[Dіldophobe]

How are you even attracted to that? Should've discarded her immediately and moved on, if you haven't even picked up on it before it was shown on pictures.

She would've chased you if you had any chance in the first place. You're still in school, there must be hundreds of girls and a dozen others who keep giving you hints. No?

[Asker]

I hadn't seen that side of her

[WaterIsland]

Commenting that was pretty low, petty, and unnecessary. She lied. It happens. Should she have been honest with you? Of course. Does that mean you have to respond? No. People lie. It sucks. She showed you who she is. Move on and get over it.


As for being a “nice guy”. I’ve never understood that insult. This entire story just sounds like immature relationship drama. Just move on and take the high road.

[Adaeva]

When an creepy guy ask a pretty girl, he is going to be rejected. However, she will attempt to protect his feeling by telling a white lie. It is completely unreasonable to expect she is going to tell the truth knowing the the truth will upset you. You would have been even more upset if she told the truth and said, "God no! How dare you ask. I'm way out your league. You are ugly and creepy."

[Asker]

I wouldn't have been upset had she been honest with me then and there

[Adaeva]

You claim to be different than almost all normal men but I don't believe you are different.

[petitedollbabee]

No, I believe your frustration was reasonable. She could’ve been honest with you and said that she doesn’t like you that way, instead of lying.

[warsevf]

Well, If you are asking if you are naive, then no, you have confronted. But also yes, because you did it on social media, a little privacy would have avoided the mess