I'm a nice guy and every girl thinks I creep them out. How the hell am I going to solve this?

[Anonymous]

I could say that I'm a legitimate, genuine nice guy who doesn't pretend to be nice at certain occasions just to get into girl's pants. I open doors for girls, just as I open doors for guys. Not a problem. I don't expect nooky in exchange for holding a door open. In that case, you could call me a 'gentleman'. I mean, I wanted to go on dates just to hang out with the people I know, not for some sexual fantasy. I mean, I don't have any ulterior motives other than just to hang out. I ask some female friends out, they say 'No'. No big deal. I just move on. But then when I strike a conversation with a random girl, the girl gets creeped out and runs away. No idea how I did that. I was just asking the girl about random things like 'How's the weather' or something not personal. I tend to ask people around me simple questions just because I was bored and wanted to strike a conversation. I mean, are people that anti-social that they don't speak or be friendly to random strangers? I don't shower the girl with gifts because it's unnecessary. I could imagine how I would feel if some girl that I hardly know gives me crap every day. It's annoying.

What's so creepy about me? I've done nothing wrong, I don't want to sleep or get laid with many women as possible. I'd like to expand my horizons, make friends. What the hell is going on? Is just being a nice guy by nature just suddenly evil? Am I in the Twilight Zone or something?

To be honest all those fake 'nice guys' are giving real, genuine nice guys a bad name here. I mean, I stand up for myself, and I often abide by the rule that it's better for me to be a 'loser' than a coward. Many of these fake nice guys are cowards who have no real backbone. I stand up for myself, and don't take sh*t from anyone.

[Alitl_carcrazi_girl]

LOL! There's nothing wrong with you! Lots of girls would love you, if they'd just give you a chance. My personal opinion is this... Some girls are just not used to genuine hospitality, so, we don't know how to act when a guy that truly seems nice comes along. Some guys think they're great smooth talkers, like they're pros at saying the right thing, almost with scary ease, they're friends with almost everyone. Guys who want to be your "friend", and they're your buds to chat with when you have guy problems, but when you are their friend they act like you owe them a date or they make a move on you and they get mad because you won't give them a chance because you thought they were just your friend. Guys that could really care less what a woman thinks of them because they're honestly just not ready to settle down and be serious yet, so they'll be players for however long, maybe cheat, tell girls whatever they think they want to hear. So, there are so many different techniques guys use we try to recognize. Why wouldn't we be scared when they're not being who they really are? But, we have to be able to recognize the genuine ones too. We woman sometimes blow guys off because we think they're repeats of a previous relationship or we think we know their game. Which is wrong of us, but sometimes we do it. I really can't give you any advice except this... Just be you, because when the right girl comes along she'll know it's you and like you for who you are, and you'll know it's her because you'll feel it. It's nice to know you're straight up about stuff. Beating around the bush and sugar coating isn't exactly the best way to be. So don't change for anyone! Be true to yourself =) and good luck!

[Asker]

Being pessimistic, the chance for me finding anyone is nil. Optimism isn't one of my strong points.

[Alitl_carcrazi_girl]

LOL, ok! Well, Half full, not empty =) take care!

[iKissed]

Oh come on dude, I'm not an expert but I AM a girl and, you know sometimes when you're TOO nice it's obviously gonna creep us out, don't come on TOO strongly nice on a girl

Just be yourself and don't be scared to let out any other behavior besides nice

And come on, when one girl rejects you, you moved on to another one and asked her out, DUH! It's gonna creep girls out

Hope this could help

[GIntrovert]

This happens to all the average joes... plus younger girls don't like nice guys...

Unless you're a good looking jerk, then you won't be able to just walk up and talk to any girl... sad, but true...

You're just going to have to find a girl who is more mentally mature then those girls you are talking to now...

[Xquisit_Breakz]

How , where?

[GIntrovert]

Sorry, I don't know that, I accidentally ran into a girl who likes nice guys... But I'm also older then you, and the girls my age are mentally maturing and turning to guys like me.....

[Xquisit_Breakz]

im in the same boat with you... :(