I’m a really good looking guy but most girls just play hard to get with me why and how do I make it stop?

[Intothevoid666]

Literally like every single women I talk to plays hard to get or just wants attention when I show interest in them no matter what type of energy I come off with and only when I either call them out on it or ignore them for a long enough period of time do they stop. Am I doing something wrong or like whats happening?

[jshm2]

It's your personality and thirsty nature they are rejecting, not your looks, kiddo.

Think of it like a car. Would you rather have a shit car, which looks good, but only has one seat and little charm? Or a decent car with room for a crew and good economy?

[Intothevoid666]

Meeting a girl in public having a conversation with her then asking for her number and the next day inviting her to coffee is thirsty?

[NathanDavis]

it's not about looks...

that is your mistake. to think that just because "you look good" then women should just get with you...

you do have a lot of growing up to do, if this is your mentality

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to tell.. you tried to just get to know a girl without flirting/hitting on her for a start?

[Intothevoid666]

Yes but the second they see that I am actually interested in having sex with them they start to play hard to get. Is flirting with women off the bat always bad?

[Opinion Owner]

ah you just want sex? Then flirting is the way to go I think.

[Intothevoid666]

No what makes u think that? Just because I want sex doesn’t mean that’s all I want

[Opinion Owner]

because you just mentioned sex xD.. should not be sexual flirting then.

[Intothevoid666]

What’s sexual versus no sexual flirting?

[Intothevoid666]

I don’t explicitly talk about sex I just am playful I don't know

[Opinion Owner]

sexual can be commenting on looks, especially the body, or making jokes that can be interpreted to being about sex/physical contact.

[Opinion Owner]

you mentioned that they start to play hard to get when they see you are interested in sex. Like what do you say/do so they know that?

[Intothevoid666]

How do I approach a random girl I see at school and start a conversation on something other than looks? Commenting on something they are wearing and having a follow up question like where did u get it is by far one of the easiest ways to start a conversation.

[Intothevoid666]

Like for example I met this girl at the club a while ago we danced a few times then I asked her if she wanted to come over in a couple days she said yes. She came over we fucked then 2 days later she hit me up and I asked if she wanted to come over again and then she plays hard to get. Another example another girl I met at the club we start talking 2 hours into us talking she asks “can we like fuck?” And I said yes maybe I was too eager in the way I said yes but then she started playing hard to get. It’s like as if I show too much interest and they play hard to get which kinda makes a relationship literally impossible to find. And I just notice in general if I get a girls number that I talked to briefly and do a short convo and then invite them to go do something with me they will almost always say no and play hard to get. It’s like most women are so insecure and somehow think that if I’m not willing to chase them I just want sex. Well I’ve tried chasing them and convincing them I genuinely am interested in them but that never works I don't know it feels like women will take advantage of me at every corner if I let them.

[Opinion Owner]

commenting on something they are wearing is a fine conversation starter. But get away from it else.. and don't comment on cleavage or so xD

[Opinion Owner]

if you meet girls at the club they might also just assume it is about sex, or maybe just kid around. If you want a relationship from that, then maybe ask them out instead of back to your place ( => sex).. some women want to chat more, some are probably also not insterested anyway.. sorry.. it is not always easy finding someone who want the same as you. But I'd suggest to focus more on getting to know each other also outside the bedroom if you want a relationship.

[FilmGuy93]

I think it might just be women in general, because I've had a similar experience and I consider myself extremely average looking.

[Intothevoid666]

It’s like unless I come at them absolutely 100% correctly they play games only if I ignore them or call them out on it will they stop but it’s like i really don’t want to date them after that so I’m gonna die alone I think rip

[FilmGuy93]

Well you have to understand that she's trying to protect herself too; same as you. She has to worry about being taken advantage, having her heart broken, just like you do.

[Intothevoid666]

So playing hard to get is the answer?

[FilmGuy93]

Insecure women certainly seem to think so.

[Vikkrram]

Post ur pictures here man let the people decides if you good looking or not...

[Anonymous]

1. Why do women do ANYTHING? You're better off never torturing yourself trying to answer that question.
2. How do you make it stop? You don't. As another G@Ger posted
The only way to win this game against women is not to play.

[Anonymous]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/hbrf7FvGUzk

[youngmix]

What's your goal? Relationship or casual sex?

[Intothevoid666]

Depends on from who. Ideally a relationship but I’ll settle for casual sex if I can’t find the right person

[youngmix]

I'm wondering about what you mean when you say "hard to get". Do you mean that women will not have sex with you, or that they will not have a steady relationship with you?

[Intothevoid666]

They won’t talk to me for very long in person, won’t respond to my messages, won’t go on a date with me. Etc.

[youngmix]

Maybe your personality is off putting. Maybe it's the language you use, or your self presentation seems fake, or you give off the air of a psycho. Maybe you seem too desperate. Maybe you move too fast.

Also, maybe you are meeting women at the wrong venues.

It's hard to say without collecting any data myself (witnessing your interactions), or knowing you.

[Intothevoid666]

Is meeting a girl having a short convo getting their number then Having another short convo over text and then asking them to get coffee or something with me “moving too fast?”

[Intothevoid666]

Last night I met this girl at a club. We talked for several hours then at the end I asked for her contact info. She said no and that I’ll see her again when she comes back to the club. If that’s womens idea of a reasonable speed then I’m just never gonna have a relationship. I mean it’s one thing if they are like a virgin waiting for marriage to do this, that would be bad enough. But these women are still hanging out with other guys In the meantime. How am I supposed to casually be ok being disrespected to such a large degree by someone I’m trying to date?

[youngmix]

Try a different venue, not a club or bar, or embrace the idea that you are not attractive. You may believe that you are, but you are apparently not, and it probably has nothing to do with your physical traits.
I can only implore you to accept rejection with grace, and try not to blame the world for not working in your favor, or to your sensibilities. Instead, try to innovate.

Maybe try meeting women at a completely different venue, maybe try making friends who are women, and treating them as friends first, and don't expect romance to bloom.

I'm not saying that everyone should be doing this, but you specifically seem to be struggling with your community in this way, and this is the best response I can imagine for you. I'm sure that other people share your struggle, and I am sorry for that, but try not to blame others for not wanting you. I am sure that if you make friends and treat them well, then you will have high odds at meeting someone who can appreciate you for who you are, and vice versa. Try not to focus on finding a girlfriend, focus on being a positive person in anyone's life who comes across your path.

[Intothevoid666]

It doesn’t matter where women at school do this too. And I have the same woman who plays hard to tell me that I’m super attractive. And based on beauty standards and what else women say they want I should be super attractive. Rejection I can handle women playing hard to get I can’t. There is something wrong with how women approach dating. I’m not the only guy to have this issue in fact most guys have this issue I notice.