Ladies, when your partner says, "she’s just a friend," do you trust that they’re just friends?

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Juxtapose · Accepted Answer

Don't be like that, I had an that thought like you. I told her straight up that I am autistic and directly communicate. I told her about my female friend and reiterated multiple times that I would not hang out with my female friend if she wanted to spend time with me herself instead. I wanted to make sure she was comfortable while also not just abandoning my friendships. I am bisexual. Am I not supposed to have any friends?

But no, even after double checking and triple checking with this woman, making so sure that I had her permission to hang out with my friend.. she broke up with me after I hung out with my friend. While knowing I have a disability that prevents me from reading in between the lines of whatever bullshit she expected me to pull out a thin air.

Even neurotypical guys have problems with this so how the fuck do you expect me to be a mind reader? Am I not supposed to have friends because I am bisexual? And my only supposed to make friends with men and not expose myself to female perspectives if I was straight? What kind of insecure bullshit is that?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Most girls’ I date don’t like me having female friends so out of respect , I distance myself from those female friends and only hang out with them when she is with me , but sadly she doesn’t do the same for me. So she becomes my ex , if you can’t wear your partners’ shoes the same way you expect them to wear yours? Kick them to the curb where they belong

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

No, I don't believe in that BS. Even if nothing happened there's absolutely no need for a person in a serious relationship to make their partner feel insecure by keeping a 'friendship' with someone from the opposite gender. My Husband has a female best friend that I adore and they've known each other for many many years she's even his son's Godmother, he told me about her from the beginning and I've seen how they interact and although she's a pretty lady I don't feel insecure or threatened by her. But if my Husband comes home and starts talking about this new female friend I'll find it a bit suspicious 'why would you befriend another female when you're married?' I don't entertain other men so I expect the same from my partner.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

I'm fine with my partner having friends that are girls

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Diving into the deep sea of relationships here, and what a wild swim it is! 🏊‍♂️ When your partner waves the "just friends" flag, it's like navigating through murky waters. Here's the thing, trust is the swimsuit you wear to dive into these waters. If you've got a strong, flattering swimsuit of trust, you're all set to dive deep without worrying about what's lurking beneath. But, if you find yourself constantly adjusting your swimsuit, maybe it's time to consider if it’s the right fit. Relationships are all about communication, transparency, and, let’s not forget, a little bit of flirty fun. If "just friends" is accompanied by secretive messages or less time spent with you, then Houston, we might have a problem. 🚀 But remember, love, the goal is to swim together, not sink each other. Keep those communication lines open, and you'll be swimming in the clear, beautiful waters of trust in no time!

HawkPerception · Answer

I used to have 2 female friends that I considered close. And I used to be that guy that would tell my partner "She's just a friend." I'd encourage my partners to meet them and feel them out and that neither me or them had any intentions of getting with each other. I do genuinely believe that guys and girls can be friends. However, it did make one of my partners feel extremely insecure.

If my partner is friends with a guy, I'd first want to know if they had any kind of moment physically. If they did then they would either have to cut them out or I'm gone. If they did not have any history like that, then I'd want to meet them. If I get the vibe that they like her, then same story... she'd have to cut him out. But if they pass the vibe test, then I would trust my partner to chill with them.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Maybe she really is just a friend. It does happen. No, I am NOT going to stop talking to a friend because I have an insecure girlfriend. If someone I am dating is insecure about it, I don't want to be with them. An insecure woman is an instant deal breaker.

ZackBan · Answer

Generally I don't buy the just friends between men and women because men are often trying to smash.

Sure women can do it too but it's less probable.

So if a guy is 100% sure she's just a friend the odds of them cheating are non-existent

Dinklex3 · Answer

Normally I would, but my boyfriend supposedly doesn’t believe in having female friends when in a relationship. So if he did, I would question it and ask what’s up.

But in general, yes. I have male friends that are married and in relationships. I am just their friend, nothing more.

NathanDavis · Answer

they always said "my best friend/great friend/friends since..."  never "just" a friend and I would explain the same to them

nawtee_me · Answer

The only people that would want their partner to turn from their friendships with the opposite sex are those with trust issues. Personally I would not be in a relationship with someone who is broken like that. They need to work on themselves big time….

scooogy · Answer

You must have met the male version of my ex. She told me she felt neglected after I told her I needed to focus on school. Two weeks later she went out with a guy she told me about that they were "just friends". Another two weeks later she confessed to me that she fell in love with him and things were over between her and me.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

Yes. If I didn’t trust my partner not to cheat on me, I wouldn’t date them

Account · Answer

Considering the fact that I have a guy best friend for more than a decade, yes unless they give me reason to suspect otherwise, or if I get the vibe that there is something more going on.

laly520 · Answer

he doesn't keep female friends only coworkers, professional way plus I won't have an issue with that

NamerOfStars · Answer

If someone is only loyal because they lack opportunity to cheat, they're not loyal.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Hmm sounds dodgy to me but I would give the benefit of the doubt … till he cheats then I won’t

soe11 · Answer

I don't know about others, my girlfriend fully and undoubtedly trust on me.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Never really comes up we know all each other's friends. However, she didn't trust one of my coworkers that I went to HS together with.

hellothere90 · Answer

Nope. I also don't date men with a female best friend so yeah.

msc545 · Answer

aboutthe same as I trust "He is just a friend".

jack1924 · Answer

I didn’t recognize you, no profile photo Trust is an important part of a relationship

FuqUFggt · Answer

If your man has a better friend then you you are doing everything wring and it's nobody's fault but you

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I'd guess some women would be... on guard ♀️

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I do

DreamLife7 · Answer

Depends, how long he's known her.

avery58 · Answer

Hell no

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap

12karen · Answer

No, tbh.

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