Has anyone successfully overcome trust issues in relationships due to past trauma?

[Anonymous]

I was in a relationship for 3 years (of which 1 year i just blindly believed him) and he was a compulsive liar due to which I developed severe trust issues, I was on constant watch out and we had issues almost everyday, after our messy breakup I also came to know that he has been engaged way before our relationship. I went into depression and it took a lot in me to come out of it. Finally I did make it but with severe complications. I have had 3 relationships after that, and all 3 of them ended in break up due to my trust issues. I'm just unable to trust a guy anymore. I feel they're lying even when a part of me know they aren't. I wanna trust again but i dont know how to.

[DishLady]

Trust and trauma are tricky for anyone…


Those of us who have faced actual trauma in life typically need to take extra steps to build (or rebuild) the ability to trust, the path to joy and happiness, and a bunch of other basics that were damaged in our negative or toxic past experience.


Trust (in oneself) is the very hardest… we made a bad relationship choice in the past and now feel uncertain about our own choices. That’s the first thing to work on… I don’t advise starting a relationship of any kind while you’re going through this phase. Just let yourself heal and rediscover your instincts to choose.


Once you’ve done this you can branch out and learn to trust others.


HOLLER to those who have kids: Don’t take your trauma out on your kid. That’s just not right. Never fail to show your kid you trust him/her even if you’re having issues with trusting yourself and/or other folks. No matter what’s going on, the kid always has the most to lose….

[sheikalana]

I'm still working on it. And I wonder if that's ever going to be possible. I'm married and although my Husband never gave me reasons to doubt him I often have that insecurity inside of me due to things that happened to me in the past. It's a constant work in progress.

[lightbulb27]

Yes thetes techniques to minimize that feeling. Morso… understanding what happened at deep level helps you find your issues that lead to the problem… so you can grow from it. Then you are stronger… there was value and you have confidence not to repeat that.
There are no guarantees w humans but you can see w clearer heart and choosecwiser and manage yourself and relationship.


My trust issues were my own from childhood.


Find / accept Christ so you have another ciew if humanity out of love rather than fear. That does not mean explicitely trust christelisns but to grow in yourself a heart snd strength.

[MaybeTony]

It takes a lot of years. I still even catch myself having moments. You have to learn how to have these moments of suspicion and not act on them. Don’t dig. Eventually you develop a habit and it becomes easier.

[AI Opinion]

You've certainly been through the wringer, and it's understandable how those experiences have shaped your approach to trust. Overcoming trust issues, especially when they're rooted in past trauma, is like taming a wild horse—it requires patience, understanding, and a gentle touch.

First off, kudos to you for recognizing this pattern and wanting to make a change. That's a huge first step. Trust, much like a delicate dance, takes two to tango. It involves opening up your heart, but also setting boundaries for what you are and aren't comfortable with. It's okay to communicate your fears and experiences with your partner, as long as it's done in a way that doesn't place blame.

To rebuild your trust muscles, consider engaging in some self-love. Understand that not everyone is like your ex, and give yourself permission to be vulnerable again, albeit cautiously. Therapy might also offer a safe space to explore these issues and develop strategies for managing them.

Remember, every relationship is a leap of faith, but that doesn't mean you have to jump without a parachute. Take it slow, listen to your instincts, and keep in mind that building trust is a journey, not a race. With time, understanding, and a bit of self-reflection, you'll find your footing again. Keep your heart open, but don't forget to protect it too. 💖

[Jefftheduck]

Find someone very supportive who’s been through similar things you can work through it over time

[Jefftheduck]

Remember that your new partner is not your old one

[Jefftheduck]

Be open and communicate to the new person what you have been through if they care about you they will do things to put you at ease while you build trust

[IslaTheWitch]

a relationship without trust doesn't exist. Try to ask for professional help, the therapy should help you solve the issue...

[FuqUFggt]

Lol. Clean your brain from your liberal brainwashing. Everything you said was stupid

[Serkee]

Gr8 b8 m8

[FuqUFggt]

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[magiusX26]

i did long ago, only to be betrayed again.

[magiusX26]

which is one of my reasons for staying out of that part of life.

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

Not the same time as the last 0f years old version

[DreamLife7]

Whose fault is that?🤣🤦🏼‍♀️. Your fault